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Living next to asylum seeker HMO, ask me anything

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JapanesePotWeed · 24/09/2026 20:28

As the title says. I live in a Victorian mid-terrace, wall-to-wall, garden-to-garden with an asylum seeker dispersal HMO. They were moved in nearly two years ago, replacing a multi-generation family that were living there before.
There is another HMO directly opposite my house, where asylum seekers get rooms once they are approved to remain but don't have an income to support themselves.

Not AIBU but more like AMA. I'm wondering what people would ask me if they really could ask anything. Does anyone actually want to know what it is like? I hear a lot of political point scoring in the media regarding this topic but no one actually talks to people like me!

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nomas · 25/09/2026 12:12

Jonesmaximus · 25/09/2026 12:09

I don't have any issue with people having a negative opinion, but just don't make yourself look stupid in the process. Anyone who adds "funded by the government" constantly to describe things or ideologies they don't like are generally not that clever. Whether it's motability cars, asylum seekers, weight loss injections, methadone etc etc, there's just no need. Just say why you don't like it, most people know that there is some sort of government subsidy (perhaps not the case in motability scheme), there's no need to say it for dramatic affect.

Exactly, these are not funded by any one government, they are funded whether Conservatives or Labour are in power.

Jonesmaximus · 25/09/2026 12:12

Maomee · 25/09/2026 12:08

Perhaps their claims are fraudulent then? I see people 5 days a week who are both asylum seekers and in receipt of universal credit. The only way this might not be true is if they are lying to us (although their info does get checked upon referral) or a miscommunication? Unlikely to be happening multiple times every day, though.

Or maybe you are conflating asylum seekers with refugees (as do many)? Asylum seekers are not recourse to UC or other 'traditional' benefits. Where are you seeing all of these people that gives you insight into their immigration and financial status?

SadieandLucy · 25/09/2026 12:09

Lucyslocket · 25/09/2026 10:20

What year was this?
General Gordon died in Khartoum in 1885
Sudan declared independence on January 1, 1956, so just how old are you ?!

I am sorry if I am calling you a liar but the British Army were definitely there when I was there 1985 to 1988. Not quite as old as General Gordon but certainly one of the boats he used was still rotting in the Nile while we were there. They had been there since before we were and after we left. My husband worked for British Overseas Aid and I worked for the EEC. Why do you think you are so correct and not spouting arrant nonsense yourself.

Jonesmaximus · 25/09/2026 12:09

Yellowshire · 25/09/2026 12:01

People have different opinions.

You say "I personally am more than happy".

Other people are not.

You can describe their opinions as hatred, they can judge you as a bad person for that too. Millions do.

I don't have any issue with people having a negative opinion, but just don't make yourself look stupid in the process. Anyone who adds "funded by the government" constantly to describe things or ideologies they don't like are generally not that clever. Whether it's motability cars, asylum seekers, weight loss injections, methadone etc etc, there's just no need. Just say why you don't like it, most people know that there is some sort of government subsidy (perhaps not the case in motability scheme), there's no need to say it for dramatic affect.

nomas · 25/09/2026 12:09

Maomee · 25/09/2026 12:04

I'm not involved in deciding who gets benefits but we ask as part of the information we take and the number one answer is universal credit, no matter who comes to us, it doesn't matter what term is on their visa or residency permit.

The DWP themselves say you can only claim benefits if you're given refugee status i.e. asylum seekers can't claim benefits.

Are you confusing asylum seekers with refugees?

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/claiming-universal-credit-and-other-benefits-if-you-are-a-refugee/refugee-guide-urgent-things-you-need-to-do

Claiming Universal Credit and other benefits if you are a refugee

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/claiming-universal-credit-and-other-benefits-if-you-are-a-refugee/refugee-guide-urgent-things-you-need-to-do

Maomee · 25/09/2026 12:08

LakieLady · 25/09/2026 08:28

They absolutely cannot claim UC. They have "no recourse to public funds" until and unless they are granted refugee status.

This was the same for all means-tested benefits and PIP during the entire 25 years I was a welfare rights adviser, which ended less than a year ago.

I suggest you pop into your local library, where you should find they have a copy of the CPAG Welfare Benefits Handbook. It sets out all the criteria re benefits for people coming to the UK from abroad, and you'll be able to check for yourself.

Perhaps their claims are fraudulent then? I see people 5 days a week who are both asylum seekers and in receipt of universal credit. The only way this might not be true is if they are lying to us (although their info does get checked upon referral) or a miscommunication? Unlikely to be happening multiple times every day, though.

DownToTheGround · 25/09/2026 12:07

butterpuffed · 25/09/2026 10:38

MEARS is a huge company and cover literally hundreds of thousands of council properties. Their vans are everywhere .

Interestingly doing some reading about MEARS and its directors.

The private company, Mears Group plc was founded in 1988 in Gloucestershire, England. It was established as a maintenance contractor specifically focused on providing maintenance and repair services to the social housing sector.

This was at a time with a Conservative government and Thatcherite local government reform driven by privatisation, Compulsory Competitive Tendering (CCT), and the rollout of New Public Management.

Bob Holt, served as its long-time chairman and CEO before retiring from the board in January 2019, has previously referenced working closely with key Conservative Party figures early in his career, especially Lord Ashcroft (the former Conservative Party Chairman and prominent donor) at his ADT security firm. Holt cited Ashcroft as a major entrepreneurial inspiration for building up Mears

Mears net profit end of 2025 is £46.2 million.

There is a board of 37 officers, including Dame Claire Tickell who has a background in the social housing sector.

For balance Mears do have a foundation offering grants to disadvantaged and vulnerable communities.

SadieandLucy · 25/09/2026 12:04

I am sorry if I am calling you a liar but the British Army were definitely there when I was there 1985 to 1988. Not quite as old as General Gordon but certainly one of the boats he used was still rotting in the Nile while we were there. They had been there since before we were and after we left. My husband worked for British Overseas Aid and I worked for the EEC. Why do you think you are so correct and not spouting arrant nonsense yourself.

Maomee · 25/09/2026 12:04

nomas · 25/09/2026 09:15

Saying ‘absolutely’ does not make a lie a fact.

Or you’re doing your job wrong.

I'm not involved in deciding who gets benefits but we ask as part of the information we take and the number one answer is universal credit, no matter who comes to us, it doesn't matter what term is on their visa or residency permit.

Yellowshire · 25/09/2026 12:01

Jonesmaximus · 25/09/2026 11:50

Yes, that's part of the asylum seeker act. Most people should know this and not have to add "funded by the government" after every statement. No one refers to schools or NHS constantly as "funded by the government" when they speak of their child's school or hospital appointment. This addendum is purely for inciting otherness and hatred.

People have different opinions.

You say "I personally am more than happy".

Other people are not.

You can describe their opinions as hatred, they can judge you as a bad person for that too. Millions do.

godmum56 · 25/09/2026 11:55

JapanesePotWeed · 24/09/2026 22:31

Would have been the perfect house for women but...

Most stay close to a year. Some probably fall foul of some regulations and disappear sooner. Or do a runner.
I found a Home Office letter in my front garden recently. It contained a court decision to deport based on REPEAT history of offending. There were two cases associated with an individual : drug dealing/possession and fly-tipping. The letter went on about how criminal behaviour is not compatible with being "of good character". As such, a decision has been made to deport.
ALTERNATIVELY, the person could leave the country willingly and they will be given £2000 and a seat on a flight to do so...

Who knew!⬆️ We pay 2k to convicted criminals to leave willingly. What a strange country this is!

well I knew. I remember when the program started and the fuss it caused.

Jonesmaximus · 25/09/2026 11:50

Yellowshire · 25/09/2026 11:46

So still funded by the government then

Yes, that's part of the asylum seeker act. Most people should know this and not have to add "funded by the government" after every statement. No one refers to schools or NHS constantly as "funded by the government" when they speak of their child's school or hospital appointment. This addendum is purely for inciting otherness and hatred.

Whoopiedooo · 25/09/2026 11:47

JapanesePotWeed · 24/09/2026 21:33

Yes, they can get in!
Doesn't help that I know of a case where a woman was shot with a crossbow and her husband killed by a neighbour (not an asylum seeker) who came in via the loft.
There should be a full wall for fire safety if nothing else but... I'll have to build it.The asylum contractors really will not help in any way!

Sort of off topic but this is surprising (horrifying) to me. When they made all the new rules about how a property must be before it can be rented out, why were fire/security walls between loft spaces not included? This might be worth it's own thread.
Thanks for posting OP. Do they seem to be friendly between themselves when of apparently different nationalities, and do other asylum seekers come to visit and party with them?
What do your other neighbours think?

DownToTheGround · 25/09/2026 11:46

GetBernie · 25/09/2026 11:34

Good to know our wonderfully efficient Home Office is giving criminals plenty of polite forewarning that they are about to be rounded up and deported from that address. As much as paying them £2k to leave sticks in my craw, I can't imagine it attracts many takers when it probably cost them more to get here in the first place and all they need to do is move on and set up as someone completely new in the next city with the next absolute sucker of a case worker. Then they can earn that 2k a month working illegally for Deliver-Fucking-Roo.

Honestly, you couldn't make it up. I think we are getting pretty close to a mass, collective short circuit of absolute apoplectic rage in this country. I don't know how many more big news stories of some atrocity committed by one of these people we can take before all hell will be unleashed.

If you believe the OP of course…

Yellowshire · 25/09/2026 11:46

Jonesmaximus · 25/09/2026 09:36

Why do people add "funded by the government" after such statements? Surely people are aware that the asylum act covers such things? They can't fund rent, bills, food and english classes out of £49 per week and they aren't entitled to work or have recourse to any government funding such as student loans. I personally am more than happy that my taxes are going towards people wanting to better themselves with education. They don't have to take them, it's a choice and I'm very glad there are ones that do. There have been great stories in our city of refugees going onto postgrad education and young women who came here aged 8-10 who are now working in local government.

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So still funded by the government then

Pumpkindice · 25/09/2026 11:37

GetBernie · 25/09/2026 11:34

Good to know our wonderfully efficient Home Office is giving criminals plenty of polite forewarning that they are about to be rounded up and deported from that address. As much as paying them £2k to leave sticks in my craw, I can't imagine it attracts many takers when it probably cost them more to get here in the first place and all they need to do is move on and set up as someone completely new in the next city with the next absolute sucker of a case worker. Then they can earn that 2k a month working illegally for Deliver-Fucking-Roo.

Honestly, you couldn't make it up. I think we are getting pretty close to a mass, collective short circuit of absolute apoplectic rage in this country. I don't know how many more big news stories of some atrocity committed by one of these people we can take before all hell will be unleashed.

I think there are some things you could make up, and conveniently finding a home office letter in your front guardian explaining your neighbours situation in detail so you have the information to share on Mumsnet is probably one of them.

GetBernie · 25/09/2026 11:34

JapanesePotWeed · 24/09/2026 22:31

Would have been the perfect house for women but...

Most stay close to a year. Some probably fall foul of some regulations and disappear sooner. Or do a runner.
I found a Home Office letter in my front garden recently. It contained a court decision to deport based on REPEAT history of offending. There were two cases associated with an individual : drug dealing/possession and fly-tipping. The letter went on about how criminal behaviour is not compatible with being "of good character". As such, a decision has been made to deport.
ALTERNATIVELY, the person could leave the country willingly and they will be given £2000 and a seat on a flight to do so...

Who knew!⬆️ We pay 2k to convicted criminals to leave willingly. What a strange country this is!

Good to know our wonderfully efficient Home Office is giving criminals plenty of polite forewarning that they are about to be rounded up and deported from that address. As much as paying them £2k to leave sticks in my craw, I can't imagine it attracts many takers when it probably cost them more to get here in the first place and all they need to do is move on and set up as someone completely new in the next city with the next absolute sucker of a case worker. Then they can earn that 2k a month working illegally for Deliver-Fucking-Roo.

Honestly, you couldn't make it up. I think we are getting pretty close to a mass, collective short circuit of absolute apoplectic rage in this country. I don't know how many more big news stories of some atrocity committed by one of these people we can take before all hell will be unleashed.

Yellowshire · 25/09/2026 11:30

LakieLady · 25/09/2026 08:21

It seems impossible to debunk this myth that asylum seekers get benefits. I've pointed it out on many threads and so have several others. People seem not to want to believe it, or they prefer to perpetuate the misinformation.

All you are actually doing is semantics about the word benefit.

DownToTheGround · 25/09/2026 11:28

EveryoneLeaveMeTheFuckAlone · 25/09/2026 11:22

Has it changed your views on the small boats immigration? Regardless of what your views were before having these HMO as neighbours ?

The OP hasn’t returned today, despite starting what was supposed to be an AMA…

EveryoneLeaveMeTheFuckAlone · 25/09/2026 11:22

Has it changed your views on the small boats immigration? Regardless of what your views were before having these HMO as neighbours ?

Campanulaceae · 25/09/2026 11:14

I didn't put two and two together until just now. There's been a big increase in Mears vans here in my town in the past year and the number of migrants.

Who wants to bet that the Census 2031 won't go ahead because "it's too expensive"?

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 25/09/2026 11:09

Pumpkindice · 25/09/2026 10:41

Not shared as such, old terraces often don't have proper barriers between the attics. Ours is the same, we have a clearly defined attic but theres only a low wall and some upright pieces of wood between ours and next door, so we could easily go across the terraces if we were so inclined!

When I bought my terraced house six years ago, my solicitor who was dealing with the purchase INSISTED that I check there was proper solid walling between my house and next door, because of fire. A fire in one house will run straight through the roof spaces and if there's no walling to hold it up, all the houses can go up in one big inferno.

Fortunately for me I have very solid walling as this is a very old house. But for anyone with shared lofts it might be worth checking your house insurance, because it only takes one person much further down the street to have a minor fire break out upstairs and your house can burn down and your insurance is invalid (because of the 'shared' loft space).

Jonesmaximus · 25/09/2026 11:09

AlwaysExtraHot · 25/09/2026 10:44

I’m sure a lot of unhoused British families would have been glad to have one of those homes!
I've known British families on the list for social housing pass up one because they wanted a different one. It's not just because these people come from overseas.
Or, in other words, isn't it interesting how we demonise different demographics depending on how the narrative is changed by politicians and the media?

I worked in allocations in a local housing authority and you would not believe how many "desperate" families on the waiting list reject properties. No garden, garden too small for their dog, bedrooms aren't big enough, kitchen is open plan with living room, needs decorating, property isn't a new build. In our LA a good proportion of new build social housing is now apartments and you can hardly give away a 3 bed one because everyone says they want a house. All on the priority emergency list I will add, in temporary accommodation. The sense of entitlement is unreal, and the same people who just refused a offer will swear blind that only foreigners get offers.

Pumpkindice · 25/09/2026 11:08

SnowFrogJelly · 25/09/2026 11:06

Not sure I’d like that!

Honestly it's one of those things I'm used to as it's common in the houses where I live, but when I think about it it is very weird!
The houses all have high ceilings and narrow stairwells so accessing the lofts is usually precarious so I think because I've so rarely gone into them I haven't thought about it too much. It wouldn't be legal on a newer house due to fire safety obviously.

SnowFrogJelly · 25/09/2026 11:06

Pumpkindice · 25/09/2026 10:41

Not shared as such, old terraces often don't have proper barriers between the attics. Ours is the same, we have a clearly defined attic but theres only a low wall and some upright pieces of wood between ours and next door, so we could easily go across the terraces if we were so inclined!

Not sure I’d like that!