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Living next to asylum seeker HMO, ask me anything

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JapanesePotWeed · 24/09/2026 20:28

As the title says. I live in a Victorian mid-terrace, wall-to-wall, garden-to-garden with an asylum seeker dispersal HMO. They were moved in nearly two years ago, replacing a multi-generation family that were living there before.
There is another HMO directly opposite my house, where asylum seekers get rooms once they are approved to remain but don't have an income to support themselves.

Not AIBU but more like AMA. I'm wondering what people would ask me if they really could ask anything. Does anyone actually want to know what it is like? I hear a lot of political point scoring in the media regarding this topic but no one actually talks to people like me!

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GetBernie · 25/09/2026 16:39

Jonesmaximus · 25/09/2026 15:15

They will get their asylum seeker support allowance (approx £50 per week per adult if not in a hotel, in which case it's under £10 per week) until they are refused. Then they will get nothing. About 30 years ago there was a school mum in this situation, her husband worked about 80 hours a week cash in hand as a glass washer in a restaurant, paid cash to a landlord and lived extremely frugally. The dc were born here so there was some sort of rule that they couldn't kick the dc out and by default the parents either. I think after 6 years they got ILTR on that merit. It was a very difficult period of time, they were a lovely family too.
ETA: if you have been refused and stay on then you don't have a status so in theory no recourse to NHS or schools for children. They will treat you in an emergency situation but you will be billed for it. I don't think you can even register with a GP in this situation either.

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Are you telling me that if DH and I pitched up in the UK tomorrow with three young children, claimed asylum and plonked ourselves down in front of a housing officer the ONLY thing we'd get is £50 per week per adult and that's if we were not put in a hotel?

So if we were put in a hotel or temp accommodation of some sort, (which we would have to be by law if we had children with us) we'd only get £10 per adult because presumably food and all other basic needs are catered for? Laundry done for us, three meals a day etc? What about clothes? Seasonally appropriate footwear and winter coats? Phones? Nappies and formula for babies? Pens and pencils and school bags and uniform for the children at school. Is that expected to come out of the £10 per week? It's not, is it?

And if we were not put in a hotel but some other form of independent private accommodation, then how would that rent be paid for? And the utilities? The council tax? I mean clearly you can't pay all that for a family on £10 a week per adult. What allowances are there for children? I simply don't believe there would not be any. What if you don't have a washing machine? You could spend that £20 every week in the launderette alone. You can't live like that with three children.

In the case of the family you mentioned, I'm going to hazard a guess that the restaurant owner was his not only his cash-in-hand employer but also his dodgy landlord and some vague family acquaintance / distant cousin from the home country all rolled into one and that the family arrived on a visitor visa with the full intention of working for him, living in his property as a 'cousin' or 'friend' while claiming asylum. It makes little sense otherwise. Perfect sense if it was part of a game plan all along, however.

No way could anyone be expected to house, keep and feed a family on 10 quid a week per adult unless they take up illegal cash in hand work. The government obviously knows this. So basically you are telling me that the government is/was complicit in allowing people to work illegally and live illegally while their claim is processed?

Or are you telling me that the government is complicit in allowing children to starve and sleep on the streets and not go to school while their claim is processed? Because in theory at least, it's just not possible given the amount of Asylum Seeker Support Allowance to keep a family fed and housed. So which is it?

Because something simply doesn't add up here. I'm thinking this £10 or £50 per adult is nothing more than pocket money and all other essential expenses are taken care of. But that is never mentioned. Lots of people don't much or any disposable income at the end of their week or month, after essentials are taken care of do they? And they are not asylum seekers.

As far as schooling and the NHS is concerned, what you are saying is not true. Even if it is the official position in certain circumstances, it's certainly not the day to day reality. Children living in the UK (whether they were born here or not) will not be refused a place in school simply because of their parents' irregular immigration status. When a parent applies for a school place for a child they may well be asked for proof of address but they are NOT asked for proof of immigration status. And even if they were known to be 'irregular' their child would STILL not be discriminated against in education.

Neither is anyone refused treatment on the NHS or made to prove that they have the right to use it, or the means to pay the cost of treatment back if they do not.

I know it's supposed to work like that, in theory, but in practice it simply doesn't.

In my GP surgery there is are several folders dotted around the waiting area with pages in them translated into several languages that basically say 'rest assured you can safely seek medical treatment and or ask for health advice here irrespective of your immigration status, no fees/charges, no questions asked and no ID necessary.'

poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 16:35

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Your first statement is not correct. The Home Office does not publish the immigration status of employees, but over 75% identify as white.

All HO employees must already have the right to work in the UK; the HO does not issue skilled employment visas or anything. Employees must also have an established connection with the UK.

SplishSplash123 · 25/09/2026 16:35

JapanesePotWeed · 25/09/2026 16:32

This post is quite obtuse really. Not sure was it purposefully so or it was just a little brain fart.

A surveyor only inspects where it is possible and safe to do so. There was no safe way to inspect the loft. I only discovered the missing wall when I had to take down the ceilings to replace them.
I don't have just "any neighbours" I have neighbours who come and go, don't speak my language well enough to understand party walls, neighbours whose attention I'd rather not draw to this particular issue. There isn't just any owner - the owner lives in Spain and will not be contacted. That leaves me with MEARS. MEARS would make me run around in circles for months and then tell me to sort it with the landlord. THE END.
If I had a neighbour as we understand it then it would go like this: Identify a shared problem. The neighbour is then worried about fire and insurance. Agree to share the cost and get a builder in. Sorted. I'd love to have an Any Neighbour!

None of what I'm living with is just the normal reality of having neighbours. Do you really think it is?? Do you live next to 6 transient, nocturnal, drug using, destitute foreign males?

No I don't, and I'm glad I dont like next to someone as judgemental as you either!

JapanesePotWeed · 25/09/2026 16:32

SplishSplash123 · 25/09/2026 06:29

The loft issue should have come up on your survey when you bought the house. It would be an issue with any neighbour, and you should fix it regardless of who lives there.

Do you not accept that some of this is the reality of having neighbours?! You could have UK born and bred next door, smoking weed, up at all hours etc.

This post is quite obtuse really. Not sure was it purposefully so or it was just a little brain fart.

A surveyor only inspects where it is possible and safe to do so. There was no safe way to inspect the loft. I only discovered the missing wall when I had to take down the ceilings to replace them.
I don't have just "any neighbours" I have neighbours who come and go, don't speak my language well enough to understand party walls, neighbours whose attention I'd rather not draw to this particular issue. There isn't just any owner - the owner lives in Spain and will not be contacted. That leaves me with MEARS. MEARS would make me run around in circles for months and then tell me to sort it with the landlord. THE END.
If I had a neighbour as we understand it then it would go like this: Identify a shared problem. The neighbour is then worried about fire and insurance. Agree to share the cost and get a builder in. Sorted. I'd love to have an Any Neighbour!

None of what I'm living with is just the normal reality of having neighbours. Do you really think it is?? Do you live next to 6 transient, nocturnal, drug using, destitute foreign males?

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Winter2020 · 25/09/2026 16:21

Fast800goingforit · 25/09/2026 12:27

My partner worked for DWP and always debunks this. Illegal immigrants cannot claim benefits and they cannot legitimately work here either as they do not have the right to work. Illegal immigrants on benefits is a myth. But like Trump "truths", if it's repeated enough times it becomes fact.

You can say they are not on benefits but their housing, bills, food and spending money is funded by the state - and they cost about 40k per person per year so you are gas lighting us saying “they are not entitled to benefits”. They’re supported by the public purse as you know.

DownToTheGround · 25/09/2026 16:21

JapanesePotWeed · 25/09/2026 16:04

@DownToTheGround
However, the other side of this is where would young people live to work locally. Young people often have to rent rooms in HMO’s as the cost of housing outweighs their earnings.
Will you campaign for change ? Where would you start with this? How would you make sure young people have a home?

We don't have young people (apart from immigrant men) or children in the street anymore. The nearest I found to a "resident child" is someone's 17 year old son. He wasn't impressed when I told him he'll be THE CHILD as and when required 😅

As long as housing the homeless, addicted and mentally ill pays more than housing those who are able and willing to contribute...This situation will grow and spread.
No one can force a Landlord to accept "professionals only" and no one can tell them to turn down and Asylum contract.
They are 5-7 year contracts, no voids, no tenant searches, no maintenance - just money in the account each month.
My community is getting exploited and destroyed for financial gain.

Young people... My street is a good example of how having every house available on a rent-a-room basis does eff all to give young people affordable homes to rent! It doesn't pay to house them!
In fact, it also takes away any chance of buying an affordable house here.The HMOs are sold on at more than double the market price, as a going business/investment concern. It completely distorts the market.

This is a scandal that barely gets talked about. It is an emergency in fact!

I meant if you were going to campaign to stop HMO’s, how would you make sure that this didn’t affect every person whose only option is a HMO?

I agree about the money being made from the tax payer and posted up thread about Mears and their £46 million profit last year. If only LA’s could have afforded to build their own homes and facilities - £46 million reinvested in more public services would be a good start.

Lucyslocket · 25/09/2026 16:12

SadieandLucy · 25/09/2026 12:09

I am sorry if I am calling you a liar but the British Army were definitely there when I was there 1985 to 1988. Not quite as old as General Gordon but certainly one of the boats he used was still rotting in the Nile while we were there. They had been there since before we were and after we left. My husband worked for British Overseas Aid and I worked for the EEC. Why do you think you are so correct and not spouting arrant nonsense yourself.

"Why do you think you are so correct and not spouting arrant nonsense yourself."
I am told by Google that "there was no significant British Army presence in Sudan in 1985, though political unrest and a coup overthrew President Gaafar Nimeiry."
So can you explain what the British Army was doing there?

Jonesmaximus · 25/09/2026 16:08

Metalmotha · 25/09/2026 15:58

So they are living in the woods off thin air ?

You do realize that a lot of employers, particularly within hospitality have relied on workers that are not registered? A local (thriving) restaurant in my city put up a facebook post saying that they are facing closure because of the tighter employment rules. He cannot recruit reliable staff who are working legally as people would rather claim UC than do antisocial shift work for NMW and he will face hefty fines for paying people who are willing to work as they are below the table. Plenty of landlords too who are only too happy to be getting their rent cash in hand, with no tax man involved.

JapanesePotWeed · 25/09/2026 16:04

@DownToTheGround
However, the other side of this is where would young people live to work locally. Young people often have to rent rooms in HMO’s as the cost of housing outweighs their earnings.
Will you campaign for change ? Where would you start with this? How would you make sure young people have a home?

We don't have young people (apart from immigrant men) or children in the street anymore. The nearest I found to a "resident child" is someone's 17 year old son. He wasn't impressed when I told him he'll be THE CHILD as and when required 😅

As long as housing the homeless, addicted and mentally ill pays more than housing those who are able and willing to contribute...This situation will grow and spread.
No one can force a Landlord to accept "professionals only" and no one can tell them to turn down and Asylum contract.
They are 5-7 year contracts, no voids, no tenant searches, no maintenance - just money in the account each month.
My community is getting exploited and destroyed for financial gain.

Young people... My street is a good example of how having every house available on a rent-a-room basis does eff all to give young people affordable homes to rent! It doesn't pay to house them!
In fact, it also takes away any chance of buying an affordable house here.The HMOs are sold on at more than double the market price, as a going business/investment concern. It completely distorts the market.

This is a scandal that barely gets talked about. It is an emergency in fact!

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Metalmotha · 25/09/2026 15:58

Fast800goingforit · 25/09/2026 12:27

My partner worked for DWP and always debunks this. Illegal immigrants cannot claim benefits and they cannot legitimately work here either as they do not have the right to work. Illegal immigrants on benefits is a myth. But like Trump "truths", if it's repeated enough times it becomes fact.

So they are living in the woods off thin air ?

DownToTheGround · 25/09/2026 15:45

GetBernie · 25/09/2026 13:18

I am not naive enough to think it's that simple. Chat GPT almost never gives a definitive answer to anything. It tells you on the balance of probability, based on what it DOES know, whether something is likely or plausible, that's all.

You seem determined to prove that this letter is not likely or plausible though. What makes you better qualified than Chat GPT on this matter? Do you work for the Home Office in the specific areas of either asylum or illegal immigration?

If so then I'm sure we are all happy to defer to your in-depth knowledge of the system.

Yes, as my earlier posts show, I work in the system. Loads of experience of the legalities as well as working with families.

poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 15:42

GetBernie · 25/09/2026 14:02

Well quite. People love to tangle others up in semantics and procedural timelines as a way of obfuscating and distracting from the argument, when they understand very well what overall point it is that those other people are making.

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No, in this case the claim was false. Refused asylum seekers do not go on to teceive any benefits, unless they eventually make a successful claim.

JapanesePotWeed · 25/09/2026 15:40

@givemesteel My house was cheap in the first place and if I move...where to? Seems like terraced streets up and down the country are turning this same way. Also, the local developers would count me as what they call a Motivated desperate seller. They target people like me to get houses under the market value.

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Jonesmaximus · 25/09/2026 15:35

poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 15:33

You can register with a GP. Anyone living in the UK can - a tourist, an illegal immigrant, anyone. But you can only access primary and emergency care.

Yes exactly, only as a temporary patient, you can't stay for 10 years like that.

poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 15:33

Jonesmaximus · 25/09/2026 15:15

They will get their asylum seeker support allowance (approx £50 per week per adult if not in a hotel, in which case it's under £10 per week) until they are refused. Then they will get nothing. About 30 years ago there was a school mum in this situation, her husband worked about 80 hours a week cash in hand as a glass washer in a restaurant, paid cash to a landlord and lived extremely frugally. The dc were born here so there was some sort of rule that they couldn't kick the dc out and by default the parents either. I think after 6 years they got ILTR on that merit. It was a very difficult period of time, they were a lovely family too.
ETA: if you have been refused and stay on then you don't have a status so in theory no recourse to NHS or schools for children. They will treat you in an emergency situation but you will be billed for it. I don't think you can even register with a GP in this situation either.

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You can register with a GP. Anyone living in the UK can - a tourist, an illegal immigrant, anyone. But you can only access primary and emergency care.

JapanesePotWeed · 25/09/2026 15:32

@Pastillefruit If I could go anywhere, I'd only ask for a reasonably quiet and safe community.
It is the most awful feeling knowing that I could scream or have an alarm going but no one would care or make a call. In a street with more permanent residents, the self-policing just happens by default, like an unspoken rule.

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Jonesmaximus · 25/09/2026 15:21

poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 12:28

Brava. I would add that in my area charities also fund English classes for asylum seekers and refugees.

Yes same here, most classes for asylum seekers are run by churches, community groups and other orgs such as U3A. There is actually very little provision for ASs now, contrary to what the Daily Mail says.

Jonesmaximus · 25/09/2026 15:15

GetBernie · 25/09/2026 13:24

So if a family is here with children and are in limbo waiting for an asylum case to be heard and processed, or waiting for an appeal or whatever, what do they live on and where do they live?

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They will get their asylum seeker support allowance (approx £50 per week per adult if not in a hotel, in which case it's under £10 per week) until they are refused. Then they will get nothing. About 30 years ago there was a school mum in this situation, her husband worked about 80 hours a week cash in hand as a glass washer in a restaurant, paid cash to a landlord and lived extremely frugally. The dc were born here so there was some sort of rule that they couldn't kick the dc out and by default the parents either. I think after 6 years they got ILTR on that merit. It was a very difficult period of time, they were a lovely family too.
ETA: if you have been refused and stay on then you don't have a status so in theory no recourse to NHS or schools for children. They will treat you in an emergency situation but you will be billed for it. I don't think you can even register with a GP in this situation either.

FedUpCelery · 25/09/2026 15:12

Fast800goingforit · 25/09/2026 14:04

Something of a disingenous response. You wouldn't have liked her peering through the loft hatch into your bedroom or bathroom! The reason it's an issue is because anyone who gets into one house can access all those where the loft space isn't adequately separated. And they cannot be seen from outside. It doesn't matter how harmless you perceive the neighbours to be. Plus a fire could rip through the whole terrace roof space much more easily if it's all open.

When I bought my first house nearly thirty years ago the wall in the loft between the house I buying and next door on one side had to built up before the mortgage company would lend me the money to buy it.

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Not at all. If a houseful of single men had moved in, you can be sure I'd be up there checking.

The point is there's a difference - none of my current and past neighbours were going to be pottering in my attic or wandering down the stairs (there isn't a hatch).

Pumpkindice · 25/09/2026 14:53

GetBernie · 25/09/2026 12:46

I've just asked Chat GPT if they think the OP's anecdotal account of the letter she says she found is plausible and likely to be genuine based on her (non-verbatim) recollection of what the letter said. It has responded with a strong yes, very likely to be genuine and plausible. Anyone is free to do the same thing if they don't believe me. Apparently the Home Office do send letters like this in advance of potential deportation orders.

I didn't say that type of letter wouldn't exist, I said it seemed rather unlikely that the OP would conveniently find such a letter in her garden, to add to the significant amount of information that she has also been privy to in relation to her neighbours current and historic personal circumstances.

poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 14:50

Maomee · 25/09/2026 13:44

I don't really get why the suspicion is so rampant when whether asylum seekers initially receive UC or not they almost always go on to receive it anyway, when their claims are granted or they become a long term resident one way or another. Virtually none of them are ever removed so most eventually claim UC, whether or not they manage to do it initially is kind of neither here nor there frankly.

If their claim is not granted they exist in a kind of half acknowledged existence. They rely on the kindness of charities, except when they have an active appeal ( and are classified as asylum seekers)

Refused asylum seekers have No Recourse to Public Funds, no right to employment, no access to housing ( except through the kindness of others) no access to the banking system, etc. They can access only primary NHS care (ie register with a GP, receive vaccinations, etc).

There is some access to education, which is a human right. Families with young children may receive further assistance.

Where on earth did you get the idea that ‘most’ refused asylum seekers are eligible for UC?

Fast800goingforit · 25/09/2026 14:04

FedUpCelery · 25/09/2026 10:02

Really? Our next door neighbour used to be an elderly woman. We would hear her stairlift so I really wouldn't have worked about her pottering into our attic.

The current family next door have one child and a dog. I know where they work and where their daughter goes to school. What should I be worrying about it my attic was open?
To be honest, it may well be. It is boarded out and we have cupboard doors into the eaves. I've never investigated to see if there is a crawl space between.

Something of a disingenous response. You wouldn't have liked her peering through the loft hatch into your bedroom or bathroom! The reason it's an issue is because anyone who gets into one house can access all those where the loft space isn't adequately separated. And they cannot be seen from outside. It doesn't matter how harmless you perceive the neighbours to be. Plus a fire could rip through the whole terrace roof space much more easily if it's all open.

When I bought my first house nearly thirty years ago the wall in the loft between the house I buying and next door on one side had to built up before the mortgage company would lend me the money to buy it.

GetBernie · 25/09/2026 14:02

Maomee · 25/09/2026 13:44

I don't really get why the suspicion is so rampant when whether asylum seekers initially receive UC or not they almost always go on to receive it anyway, when their claims are granted or they become a long term resident one way or another. Virtually none of them are ever removed so most eventually claim UC, whether or not they manage to do it initially is kind of neither here nor there frankly.

Well quite. People love to tangle others up in semantics and procedural timelines as a way of obfuscating and distracting from the argument, when they understand very well what overall point it is that those other people are making.

DeflectionAndWhataboutery · 25/09/2026 13:53

Maomee · 25/09/2026 13:35

@DownToTheGround @Jonesmaximus @nomas
Just to answer everyone I work in adult education so it's part of the enrolments that we take this information for e.g. an English class. I see these people daily. I am also aware that as per the policy it shouldn't happen but it does. I suppose it's either fraudulent claiming or maybe something like they think what they receive is UC when it's not? We all know that JobCentres can also be badly run and not always follow policies or perhaps claimants get away with more esp if most of their accounts are offshore. This is all checked when they first enrol though. As I've said we don't actually distribute the benefits we just take information including information about benefits received.

None of these things work the way you describe. Your evidence is 'because I say so'.

It feels you are deliberately conflating 'asylum seekers' with refugees whose claim has been accepted, allowing them access to UC.

Or it's straight up misinformation, hoping your posts get screenshot and posted on X to back up the bullshit from others.

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