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Living next to asylum seeker HMO, ask me anything

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JapanesePotWeed · 24/09/2026 20:28

As the title says. I live in a Victorian mid-terrace, wall-to-wall, garden-to-garden with an asylum seeker dispersal HMO. They were moved in nearly two years ago, replacing a multi-generation family that were living there before.
There is another HMO directly opposite my house, where asylum seekers get rooms once they are approved to remain but don't have an income to support themselves.

Not AIBU but more like AMA. I'm wondering what people would ask me if they really could ask anything. Does anyone actually want to know what it is like? I hear a lot of political point scoring in the media regarding this topic but no one actually talks to people like me!

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Dmsandfloatydress · 25/09/2026 18:11

5MinuteArgument · 25/09/2026 18:00

OK, some benefits they only get once granted LTR (which most of them are because we grant LTR at double the rate of the French).

But illegal asylum seekers DO get: accommodation, food, clothes, bus trips into town, doctors appointments, access to dentists, access to lawyers and pocket money to spend. All this is coming out of the taxpayers' purse. Once granted LTR, they also go to the top of the queue for social housing.

One way or another, it's costing us. When 781 mostly male asylum seekers arrive in one day (last Wednesday), it's a problem and minimising it doesn't help.

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Actually ,its only families and the elderly that go to the top of the council house queue. The single men do not qualify for priority need. They often end up sofa surfing for years or staying with friends already in the country. No one comes without a plan unless they are significantly unwell.
Thats not to say its not massively unfair that new arrivals get housed in sought after housing ahead of uk citizens. in fact I think council Housing should be reserved for UK citizens only as this would reduce tensions and its manifestly unfair , the way it is now. I believe we allow this because of our class based society . Middle class people dont want or need social housing so it doesnt impact them and they despise the working classes. I even saw an article in The Guardian that suggested that all asylum seekers should be housing in council houses to stop the use of hotel. i didnt know whether to laugh or cry!!

JapanesePotWeed · 25/09/2026 18:08

Pumpkindice · 25/09/2026 14:53

I didn't say that type of letter wouldn't exist, I said it seemed rather unlikely that the OP would conveniently find such a letter in her garden, to add to the significant amount of information that she has also been privy to in relation to her neighbours current and historic personal circumstances.

I know, right! I was quite excited to find the letter to be fair! It was still in the plastic filing sleeve too. I don't know if it was thrown or accidentally dropped. Also no address the letter was sent to, so at best it could have been a deportation letter to someone else, not my neighbours.
But, the thing is, we DO pay £2000 for crime-convicted immigrants to leave willingly, plus whatever the flight costs. And I didn't know that until this situation of proximity, and clearly most people don't know about it either.
That is why I started the thread really - just first hand experience about what happens and also what doesn't (or not to me and not yet).
I might even have photos of the letter.

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5MinuteArgument · 25/09/2026 18:00

Fast800goingforit · 25/09/2026 12:27

My partner worked for DWP and always debunks this. Illegal immigrants cannot claim benefits and they cannot legitimately work here either as they do not have the right to work. Illegal immigrants on benefits is a myth. But like Trump "truths", if it's repeated enough times it becomes fact.

OK, some benefits they only get once granted LTR (which most of them are because we grant LTR at double the rate of the French).

But illegal asylum seekers DO get: accommodation, food, clothes, bus trips into town, doctors appointments, access to dentists, access to lawyers and pocket money to spend. All this is coming out of the taxpayers' purse. Once granted LTR, they also go to the top of the queue for social housing.

One way or another, it's costing us. When 781 mostly male asylum seekers arrive in one day (last Wednesday), it's a problem and minimising it doesn't help.

LakieLady · 25/09/2026 17:47

Lucyslocket · 25/09/2026 10:38

That ends up as a lot more than some pensioners.
At least they can access the local foodbank.
Pensioners I know have mobility problems getting to the foodbank right in the centre of town. When they get there they feel intimidated by all the men hanging around.

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If a single pensioner gets less than around £230-240 pw, they're entitled to Pension Credit to bring their income up to that amount. That's more than 4 times the £49-odd that asylum seekers get.

If they get Pension Credit, they get full housing benefit (up to the Local Housing Allowance limit if they're renting privately) and 75% off their council tax.

5MinuteArgument · 25/09/2026 17:42

DownToTheGround · 25/09/2026 12:07

Interestingly doing some reading about MEARS and its directors.

The private company, Mears Group plc was founded in 1988 in Gloucestershire, England. It was established as a maintenance contractor specifically focused on providing maintenance and repair services to the social housing sector.

This was at a time with a Conservative government and Thatcherite local government reform driven by privatisation, Compulsory Competitive Tendering (CCT), and the rollout of New Public Management.

Bob Holt, served as its long-time chairman and CEO before retiring from the board in January 2019, has previously referenced working closely with key Conservative Party figures early in his career, especially Lord Ashcroft (the former Conservative Party Chairman and prominent donor) at his ADT security firm. Holt cited Ashcroft as a major entrepreneurial inspiration for building up Mears

Mears net profit end of 2025 is £46.2 million.

There is a board of 37 officers, including Dame Claire Tickell who has a background in the social housing sector.

For balance Mears do have a foundation offering grants to disadvantaged and vulnerable communities.

So many companies making big bucks out of the asylum racket. Making fools of the British taxpayers along with it.

JapanesePotWeed · 25/09/2026 17:41

Lucyslocket · 25/09/2026 17:19

This sounds like a lousy situation. However, what puzzles in is how they have money for drugs when they are destitute ? Or are they destitute because they pay for drugs ?

Quite a few work illegally in food delivery and some deal drugs.
There's always at least a couple out of six doing something dodgy.
I've had residents from both houses (the one where they get processed and also where they stay after asylum is granted) complain to me about the stink of the weed from their house mates. One apologised in case it affects me too.
Some seem to follow the rules, others are here for different reasons! I wouldn't say they are destitute here whilst living in these paid-for HMOs.

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LakieLady · 25/09/2026 17:39

Maomee · 25/09/2026 13:35

@DownToTheGround @Jonesmaximus @nomas
Just to answer everyone I work in adult education so it's part of the enrolments that we take this information for e.g. an English class. I see these people daily. I am also aware that as per the policy it shouldn't happen but it does. I suppose it's either fraudulent claiming or maybe something like they think what they receive is UC when it's not? We all know that JobCentres can also be badly run and not always follow policies or perhaps claimants get away with more esp if most of their accounts are offshore. This is all checked when they first enrol though. As I've said we don't actually distribute the benefits we just take information including information about benefits received.

If a Job Centre has such badly trained staff that they're not completing the most basic of validation checks properly, it should really be reported. Even UK nationals have to produce a lot of evidence to verify their entitlement.

Ilmiocompleanno · 25/09/2026 17:37

Winter2020 · 25/09/2026 08:56

...so they leave their wives and children to be murdered by these mysterious forces? Yeah sure they do.

You do realise that asylum seekers are individuals who will all have different circumstances??

Lucyslocket · 25/09/2026 17:31

MixedBananas · 25/09/2026 06:12

Do you welcome them. Kind to them? A lot come from very disturbing situations bwxk home and need welcoming. I cwn not even beging to atart to relate or have a clue what horrora they lived through. Families they have witness die etc etc. I hope they are welcomed and make the best life for themselves.

Despite having all endured the dreadful events you speak of, they are not too traumatised to make their way through several safe countries and have enough money available to pay traffickers to get them to UK.
I'm sure that if I was in such a position, I'd be very glad to stop in the first safe country that accepted me and didn't want to kill me or abuse me. To Hell with the fact that I couldn't speak the language - I'd jolly well learn !

5MinuteArgument · 25/09/2026 17:27

LakieLady · 25/09/2026 10:36

I haven't lived near one, but I have had 2 female refugee clients who were accommodated in hotels until they got refugee status because there was no other suitable accommodation for women. One was still a child, and was with her mother and siblings. The lone woman was raped by another asylum seeker, the other was scared to leave her room, along with the rest of her family.

This was at least 10 years ago though, so things may have changed. I'd like to think that there is specific, safe accommodation for unaccompanied women and children seeking asylum.

Once they got refugee status, they were accommodated by members of a local refugee support group until they were allocated social housing. They were eligible for social housing because they were both in "priority need" on grounds of vulnerability. Their experiences had been so appalling that their mental health was totally fucked.

One has done really well, is working, off benefits and everything, I don't think the other will ever recover from her experiences. I bump into her occasionally and she's really struggling, her mental health is totally shot.

Refugees have 'priority need' for social housing. So that means someone else is pushed further down the queue.

That's all lovely if you're not the ones affected by it like the hundreds of thousands of British people who have been on the waiting list for years.

Dmsandfloatydress · 25/09/2026 17:23

poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 17:16

Hotel accommodation is intended to be temporary with families given priority for longer term housing.

AI informs me that while in an asylum hotel each family member gets £9.95 per week with small top ups for young children.

When I was working in the hotels it wasnt unusual for families to be in them for more than a year and those figures are correct. Pregnant women would get an additional £7 or so a week and babies a little extra too.

Lucyslocket · 25/09/2026 17:19

JapanesePotWeed · 25/09/2026 16:32

This post is quite obtuse really. Not sure was it purposefully so or it was just a little brain fart.

A surveyor only inspects where it is possible and safe to do so. There was no safe way to inspect the loft. I only discovered the missing wall when I had to take down the ceilings to replace them.
I don't have just "any neighbours" I have neighbours who come and go, don't speak my language well enough to understand party walls, neighbours whose attention I'd rather not draw to this particular issue. There isn't just any owner - the owner lives in Spain and will not be contacted. That leaves me with MEARS. MEARS would make me run around in circles for months and then tell me to sort it with the landlord. THE END.
If I had a neighbour as we understand it then it would go like this: Identify a shared problem. The neighbour is then worried about fire and insurance. Agree to share the cost and get a builder in. Sorted. I'd love to have an Any Neighbour!

None of what I'm living with is just the normal reality of having neighbours. Do you really think it is?? Do you live next to 6 transient, nocturnal, drug using, destitute foreign males?

This sounds like a lousy situation. However, what puzzles in is how they have money for drugs when they are destitute ? Or are they destitute because they pay for drugs ?

JapanesePotWeed · 25/09/2026 17:18

Maomee · 25/09/2026 16:53

The problem is a lot of these landlords are in parliament...no one is ever getting rid of them.

Very true that. I just don't know how they'll ever fix the built environment once it has been thoroughly destroyed. After the programme of New Builds, the government will have whole inner-cities and towns to reconstruct - with no funds to do it!

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Namechange913843 · 25/09/2026 17:17

MixedBananas · 25/09/2026 06:12

Do you welcome them. Kind to them? A lot come from very disturbing situations bwxk home and need welcoming. I cwn not even beging to atart to relate or have a clue what horrora they lived through. Families they have witness die etc etc. I hope they are welcomed and make the best life for themselves.

🤣

poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 17:16

Dmsandfloatydress · 25/09/2026 16:54

I have worked in the system and yes, it £10 a week per adult at I think £5.75 per child in a hotel. Food and Laundry is provided and so are nappies, basic toiletries and baby milk. Charities provide the rest where they can. Its the same in Mears Housing which is £50 a week per person so in your scenario is £ 1000 a month. But no bills , rent or council tax so its actually just £1000 a month to cover food, transport , toiletries and clothing. which is probably more than a non working family would get in the UK.

Hotel accommodation is intended to be temporary with families given priority for longer term housing.

AI informs me that while in an asylum hotel each family member gets £9.95 per week with small top ups for young children.

JapanesePotWeed · 25/09/2026 17:12

Jonesmaximus · 25/09/2026 09:32

This surprised me too, OP originally states she hardly speaks to them, but knows a lot of personal info. I did wonder was this a thinly veiled anti asylum seeker thread.

I do hardly speak to the guys. But when we do it is always about our heritage, languages, countries... What's so surprising about that! Some men are quite chatty, others keep their head down. The chatty ones tend to tell me EVERYTHING. I've been doing a lot of building work outside and that is when they come talk to me.
Once my phone rang late at night and someone just kept on shouting in broken English : Come outside! Come outside! Come and get it! I see you!
I was really scared 😱 Peeked through the curtains...
Turns out the damn postie had left my parcel with the Asylum seekers and there was all my details on there, including my phone number!
The guy looked very chuffed with himself to give me the parcel. We talked for a while with Google translate. He got a bit flirty but never ever rang me again or gave me any hassle.

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Namechange913843 · 25/09/2026 17:03

JapanesePotWeed · 24/09/2026 21:57

And obviously, no one is allowed to know that they've claimed asylum elsewhere before.
I once randomly asked a guy if he speaks German. His face sort of dropped in concern and he asked me panicked : How do you know me?!!
I don't know them but I know they like their Germany 😅

You mean, shock horror, the reason they're here, and the fact they've passed through various safe countries en-route, isn't because "they only speak English and/or they have relatives here"??

(Actually, to be honest, whilst sceptical of the above claims, the fact that they had already tried unsuccessfully claiming asylum in other countries hadn't properly occurred to me!)

Dmsandfloatydress · 25/09/2026 16:54

GetBernie · 25/09/2026 16:39

Are you telling me that if DH and I pitched up in the UK tomorrow with three young children, claimed asylum and plonked ourselves down in front of a housing officer the ONLY thing we'd get is £50 per week per adult and that's if we were not put in a hotel?

So if we were put in a hotel or temp accommodation of some sort, (which we would have to be by law if we had children with us) we'd only get £10 per adult because presumably food and all other basic needs are catered for? Laundry done for us, three meals a day etc? What about clothes? Seasonally appropriate footwear and winter coats? Phones? Nappies and formula for babies? Pens and pencils and school bags and uniform for the children at school. Is that expected to come out of the £10 per week? It's not, is it?

And if we were not put in a hotel but some other form of independent private accommodation, then how would that rent be paid for? And the utilities? The council tax? I mean clearly you can't pay all that for a family on £10 a week per adult. What allowances are there for children? I simply don't believe there would not be any. What if you don't have a washing machine? You could spend that £20 every week in the launderette alone. You can't live like that with three children.

In the case of the family you mentioned, I'm going to hazard a guess that the restaurant owner was his not only his cash-in-hand employer but also his dodgy landlord and some vague family acquaintance / distant cousin from the home country all rolled into one and that the family arrived on a visitor visa with the full intention of working for him, living in his property as a 'cousin' or 'friend' while claiming asylum. It makes little sense otherwise. Perfect sense if it was part of a game plan all along, however.

No way could anyone be expected to house, keep and feed a family on 10 quid a week per adult unless they take up illegal cash in hand work. The government obviously knows this. So basically you are telling me that the government is/was complicit in allowing people to work illegally and live illegally while their claim is processed?

Or are you telling me that the government is complicit in allowing children to starve and sleep on the streets and not go to school while their claim is processed? Because in theory at least, it's just not possible given the amount of Asylum Seeker Support Allowance to keep a family fed and housed. So which is it?

Because something simply doesn't add up here. I'm thinking this £10 or £50 per adult is nothing more than pocket money and all other essential expenses are taken care of. But that is never mentioned. Lots of people don't much or any disposable income at the end of their week or month, after essentials are taken care of do they? And they are not asylum seekers.

As far as schooling and the NHS is concerned, what you are saying is not true. Even if it is the official position in certain circumstances, it's certainly not the day to day reality. Children living in the UK (whether they were born here or not) will not be refused a place in school simply because of their parents' irregular immigration status. When a parent applies for a school place for a child they may well be asked for proof of address but they are NOT asked for proof of immigration status. And even if they were known to be 'irregular' their child would STILL not be discriminated against in education.

Neither is anyone refused treatment on the NHS or made to prove that they have the right to use it, or the means to pay the cost of treatment back if they do not.

I know it's supposed to work like that, in theory, but in practice it simply doesn't.

In my GP surgery there is are several folders dotted around the waiting area with pages in them translated into several languages that basically say 'rest assured you can safely seek medical treatment and or ask for health advice here irrespective of your immigration status, no fees/charges, no questions asked and no ID necessary.'

I have worked in the system and yes, it £10 a week per adult at I think £5.75 per child in a hotel. Food and Laundry is provided and so are nappies, basic toiletries and baby milk. Charities provide the rest where they can. Its the same in Mears Housing which is £50 a week per person so in your scenario is £ 1000 a month. But no bills , rent or council tax so its actually just £1000 a month to cover food, transport , toiletries and clothing. which is probably more than a non working family would get in the UK.

Maomee · 25/09/2026 16:53

JapanesePotWeed · 25/09/2026 16:51

I just can't vote until a party stands up against this creation of privately owned Victorian slums!

One of the Landlords owns 15 mortgage free HMOs in my street. I did some rough calculations (after freedom of information request gave me the average weekly rent) - he gets at least 25 000 via the Housing Benefit System a month!! From a single street!
They are not giving that up willingly

The problem is a lot of these landlords are in parliament...no one is ever getting rid of them.

JapanesePotWeed · 25/09/2026 16:51

nearlylovemyusername · 25/09/2026 16:42

OP, you quoted my name on the wrong post.

If Andy calls snap election tomorrow, which party will you vote for?

I just can't vote until a party stands up against this creation of privately owned Victorian slums!

One of the Landlords owns 15 mortgage free HMOs in my street. I did some rough calculations (after freedom of information request gave me the average weekly rent) - he gets at least 25 000 via the Housing Benefit System a month!! From a single street!
They are not giving that up willingly

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poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 16:47

GetBernie · 25/09/2026 16:39

Are you telling me that if DH and I pitched up in the UK tomorrow with three young children, claimed asylum and plonked ourselves down in front of a housing officer the ONLY thing we'd get is £50 per week per adult and that's if we were not put in a hotel?

So if we were put in a hotel or temp accommodation of some sort, (which we would have to be by law if we had children with us) we'd only get £10 per adult because presumably food and all other basic needs are catered for? Laundry done for us, three meals a day etc? What about clothes? Seasonally appropriate footwear and winter coats? Phones? Nappies and formula for babies? Pens and pencils and school bags and uniform for the children at school. Is that expected to come out of the £10 per week? It's not, is it?

And if we were not put in a hotel but some other form of independent private accommodation, then how would that rent be paid for? And the utilities? The council tax? I mean clearly you can't pay all that for a family on £10 a week per adult. What allowances are there for children? I simply don't believe there would not be any. What if you don't have a washing machine? You could spend that £20 every week in the launderette alone. You can't live like that with three children.

In the case of the family you mentioned, I'm going to hazard a guess that the restaurant owner was his not only his cash-in-hand employer but also his dodgy landlord and some vague family acquaintance / distant cousin from the home country all rolled into one and that the family arrived on a visitor visa with the full intention of working for him, living in his property as a 'cousin' or 'friend' while claiming asylum. It makes little sense otherwise. Perfect sense if it was part of a game plan all along, however.

No way could anyone be expected to house, keep and feed a family on 10 quid a week per adult unless they take up illegal cash in hand work. The government obviously knows this. So basically you are telling me that the government is/was complicit in allowing people to work illegally and live illegally while their claim is processed?

Or are you telling me that the government is complicit in allowing children to starve and sleep on the streets and not go to school while their claim is processed? Because in theory at least, it's just not possible given the amount of Asylum Seeker Support Allowance to keep a family fed and housed. So which is it?

Because something simply doesn't add up here. I'm thinking this £10 or £50 per adult is nothing more than pocket money and all other essential expenses are taken care of. But that is never mentioned. Lots of people don't much or any disposable income at the end of their week or month, after essentials are taken care of do they? And they are not asylum seekers.

As far as schooling and the NHS is concerned, what you are saying is not true. Even if it is the official position in certain circumstances, it's certainly not the day to day reality. Children living in the UK (whether they were born here or not) will not be refused a place in school simply because of their parents' irregular immigration status. When a parent applies for a school place for a child they may well be asked for proof of address but they are NOT asked for proof of immigration status. And even if they were known to be 'irregular' their child would STILL not be discriminated against in education.

Neither is anyone refused treatment on the NHS or made to prove that they have the right to use it, or the means to pay the cost of treatment back if they do not.

I know it's supposed to work like that, in theory, but in practice it simply doesn't.

In my GP surgery there is are several folders dotted around the waiting area with pages in them translated into several languages that basically say 'rest assured you can safely seek medical treatment and or ask for health advice here irrespective of your immigration status, no fees/charges, no questions asked and no ID necessary.'

A family is supposed to get private, self catered accommodation. Each person gets the £49/week and there is a small supplement for growing children.

All expenses such as rent and utilities at the accommodations of asylum seekers are paid.

Children are entitled to a state education. Young children may in theory have access to Early Years opportunities. I am not sure how this works in practice. Everyone has access to the NHS.

It still means these families are fundamentally reliant on food banks, clothing donations, etc.

JapanesePotWeed · 25/09/2026 16:43

HalzTangz · 25/09/2026 09:41

Are the residents as bad as the media make out

No actually!

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nearlylovemyusername · 25/09/2026 16:42

JapanesePotWeed · 25/09/2026 16:39

I'd put a strict limit of so called "vulnerable" tenants per street, wherever they are from. If landlords around me couldn't milk that system, they'd have to house the professionals or sell up. That alone would make a huge difference to my street and my life.
At the moment there is literally nothing stopping my street becoming one large, teeming hostel. Could as well build a wall either end and call it done.

OP, you quoted my name on the wrong post.

If Andy calls snap election tomorrow, which party will you vote for?

JapanesePotWeed · 25/09/2026 16:39

DownToTheGround · 25/09/2026 16:21

I meant if you were going to campaign to stop HMO’s, how would you make sure that this didn’t affect every person whose only option is a HMO?

I agree about the money being made from the tax payer and posted up thread about Mears and their £46 million profit last year. If only LA’s could have afforded to build their own homes and facilities - £46 million reinvested in more public services would be a good start.

I'd put a strict limit of so called "vulnerable" tenants per street, wherever they are from. If landlords around me couldn't milk that system, they'd have to house the professionals or sell up. That alone would make a huge difference to my street and my life.
At the moment there is literally nothing stopping my street becoming one large, teeming hostel. Could as well build a wall either end and call it done.

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