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Living next to asylum seeker HMO, ask me anything

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JapanesePotWeed · 24/09/2026 20:28

As the title says. I live in a Victorian mid-terrace, wall-to-wall, garden-to-garden with an asylum seeker dispersal HMO. They were moved in nearly two years ago, replacing a multi-generation family that were living there before.
There is another HMO directly opposite my house, where asylum seekers get rooms once they are approved to remain but don't have an income to support themselves.

Not AIBU but more like AMA. I'm wondering what people would ask me if they really could ask anything. Does anyone actually want to know what it is like? I hear a lot of political point scoring in the media regarding this topic but no one actually talks to people like me!

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Dragonscaledaisy · Yesterday 18:06

DownToTheGround · Yesterday 16:56

But nevertheless more asylum seekers being returned than last year (39,000). So an improving picture.

Not really - merely spin. Numbers soared under the Labour government and remain far higher than in 2023. Essentially, the government is now trying to fix a problem they created.

Dragonscaledaisy · Yesterday 18:01

poetryandwine · Yesterday 15:13

I am comfortable with the level of charitable support DH and I provide, thanks very much. I would show the same level of welcome to asylum seekers as to anyone else in my ‘naice’ village, and stand up for them in the event of trouble.

One cannot be all things to all people.

Ah, the usual virtual signalling from the average middle - so rife on MN and so predictable.

Winter2020 · Yesterday 17:53

Pumpkindice · Yesterday 17:50

I've worked with a lot of asylum seekers. Never yet come across one that has provided these reasons. In my role I see the record of information that is given at the initial interview, so I'm not just basing it on their word either.

How many men granted asylum for being gay later apply to bring their wife and kids? That would be an interesting freedom of information statistic.

Pumpkindice · Yesterday 17:50

Anonyanonay · Yesterday 16:45

The whistleblower was quite specific about what is going on, with claimants using the same script and BS story, such as Iraqis pretending they'd been in a relationship with a prime minister's daughter, Pakistanis all claiming they'd been in a gay relationship with the same man, Bangladeshis claiming to be dissidents of a group they know nothing about.

You can read a good thread on X by this ex-detective: (2) Donna-Louise on X: "He also said that “hundreds” of claims from Pakistanis were based on the assertion that they were in fear of their lives in their home country because of their gay relationship with the same man who had provided letters supporting their claims." / X

I've worked with a lot of asylum seekers. Never yet come across one that has provided these reasons. In my role I see the record of information that is given at the initial interview, so I'm not just basing it on their word either.

myjamisbetterthanyours · Yesterday 17:49

Winter2020 · Yesterday 17:43

https://www.gov.uk/government/statistics/immigration-system-statistics-year-ending-march-2026/how-many-people-are-returned-from-the-uk

6.1 Returns of small boat arrivals
……..A total of 8,427 people who arrived on a small boat between 2018 and the YE March 2026 have been returned from the UK…….

end quote

A quick add up of arrivals (reducing the number to 10k for 2026 as the above talks about to March 2026 rather than September) comes to 202,633 small boat arrivals.

8,427 returns out of 202,633 arrivals (8,427/202,633 x 100) =4.159 %

Older versions of the government report actually stated the 4%. It has been removed but not much has changed.

The Government does not deport to Afghanistan or Sudan (it also says that on their website) so those nationalities are going nowhere. Maybe doing the migrant hokey kokey with in, out, in out, one in, one out with France deal.

Germany deports to Afghanistan.

Winter2020 · Yesterday 17:49

DownToTheGround · Yesterday 16:56

But nevertheless more asylum seekers being returned than last year (39,000). So an improving picture.

Look carefully at that information. It does not show 39,000 asylum seekers leaving/removed. See the explanation at the bottom that asylum seekers will be among those numbers.

17,000 were refused entry to the country. Perhaps a passport, visa or criminal issue. Many voluntary returns will be people whose visa has expired (student, work, holiday etc). This data doesn’t tell us how many people seeking asylum have been removed. We do know for the small boat asylum seekers it is around 4% as detailed in the post above.

Winter2020 · Yesterday 17:43

Lifeomars · Yesterday 16:55

Can you provide a link to the statistics that support this, many thanks

https://www.gov.uk/government/statistics/immigration-system-statistics-year-ending-march-2026/how-many-people-are-returned-from-the-uk

6.1 Returns of small boat arrivals
……..A total of 8,427 people who arrived on a small boat between 2018 and the YE March 2026 have been returned from the UK…….

end quote

A quick add up of arrivals (reducing the number to 10k for 2026 as the above talks about to March 2026 rather than September) comes to 202,633 small boat arrivals.

8,427 returns out of 202,633 arrivals (8,427/202,633 x 100) =4.159 %

Older versions of the government report actually stated the 4%. It has been removed but not much has changed.

The Government does not deport to Afghanistan or Sudan (it also says that on their website) so those nationalities are going nowhere. Maybe doing the migrant hokey kokey with in, out, in out, one in, one out with France deal.

Living next to asylum seeker HMO, ask me anything
Living next to asylum seeker HMO, ask me anything
DownToTheGround · Yesterday 16:56

Dragonscaledaisy · Yesterday 13:35

This doesn't show data on the number of who have subsequently returned via all possible routes. We've already seen the 'one in, one out' policy has been a resounding failure.

But nevertheless more asylum seekers being returned than last year (39,000). So an improving picture.

Lifeomars · Yesterday 16:55

Anonyanonay · Yesterday 13:46

Only 4-5% of small boat migrants have been returned since 2018. And only an estimated 1% of them are genuine refugees.

Can you provide a link to the statistics that support this, many thanks

Anonyanonay · Yesterday 16:45

poetryandwine · Yesterday 16:28

No worries, sorry about your migraine!

So that 1% is a claim from an anonymous whistleblower. . The Times article is behind a paywall where I cannot read it, so I cannot judge the claim. I can see that it contrasts sharply with official HO statistics.

(Everyone reading needs to be aware that those arriving on the boats must apply for asylum in the usual way. Currently something under half of applications for asylum are being granted.)

I am not aware of anyone who thinks the boats are a good idea. People smuggling is abhorrent. I think everyone would like to see the boats disbanded.

The whistleblower was quite specific about what is going on, with claimants using the same script and BS story, such as Iraqis pretending they'd been in a relationship with a prime minister's daughter, Pakistanis all claiming they'd been in a gay relationship with the same man, Bangladeshis claiming to be dissidents of a group they know nothing about.

You can read a good thread on X by this ex-detective: (2) Donna-Louise on X: "He also said that “hundreds” of claims from Pakistanis were based on the assertion that they were in fear of their lives in their home country because of their gay relationship with the same man who had provided letters supporting their claims." / X

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Donna-Louise (@NoLongerTheFuzz) on X

He also said that “hundreds” of claims from Pakistanis were based on the assertion that they were in fear of their lives in their home country because of their gay relationship with the same man who had provided letters supporting their claims.

https://x.com/NoLongerTheFuzz/status/2096837221185655234

poetryandwine · Yesterday 16:28

Anonyanonay · Yesterday 16:12

Sorry, got a migraine and misread your post. I've posted again with the 1% statistic. It originates from the House of Commons library, from a briefing on small boat crossings. Google 'how many small boat migrants have been returned since 2018' and it will come up in the AI overview with links.

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No worries, sorry about your migraine!

So that 1% is a claim from an anonymous whistleblower. . The Times article is behind a paywall where I cannot read it, so I cannot judge the claim. I can see that it contrasts sharply with official HO statistics.

(Everyone reading needs to be aware that those arriving on the boats must apply for asylum in the usual way. Currently something under half of applications for asylum are being granted.)

I am not aware of anyone who thinks the boats are a good idea. People smuggling is abhorrent. I think everyone would like to see the boats disbanded.

Anonyanonay · Yesterday 16:15

poetryandwine · Yesterday 15:08

The 1% is a statistic I have not seen before, and cannot find now. Where is it from?

This originates from a recent piece in the Times from a Home Office whistleblower. https://www.thetimes.com/uk/law/article/one-in-100-asylum-claims-are-real-whistleblower-claims-d8768mjnx

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https://www.thetimes.com/uk/law/article/one-in-100-asylum-claims-are-real-whistleblower-claims-d8768mjnx

Anonyanonay · Yesterday 16:12

poetryandwine · Yesterday 15:08

The 1% is a statistic I have not seen before, and cannot find now. Where is it from?

Sorry, got a migraine and misread your post. I've posted again with the 1% statistic. It originates from the House of Commons library, from a briefing on small boat crossings. Google 'how many small boat migrants have been returned since 2018' and it will come up in the AI overview with links.

poetryandwine · Yesterday 15:13

Dragonscaledaisy · Yesterday 13:44

You do know that you can choose to house asylum seekers in your own home? If you believe there should be more in your area, why aren't you doing more to faciltate that?

I am comfortable with the level of charitable support DH and I provide, thanks very much. I would show the same level of welcome to asylum seekers as to anyone else in my ‘naice’ village, and stand up for them in the event of trouble.

One cannot be all things to all people.

poetryandwine · Yesterday 15:08

Anonyanonay · Yesterday 13:46

Only 4-5% of small boat migrants have been returned since 2018. And only an estimated 1% of them are genuine refugees.

The 1% is a statistic I have not seen before, and cannot find now. Where is it from?

Anonyanonay · Yesterday 13:46

Only 4-5% of small boat migrants have been returned since 2018. And only an estimated 1% of them are genuine refugees.

Dragonscaledaisy · Yesterday 13:44

poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 18:50

I think everyone is quite worried for you, OP. Your situation is both awful and unfair. Housing standards need to be raised and dispersal needs to be widespread. My MC neighbourhood ought to house a few asylum seekers. We have a nice B&B in the area, not too big.

Do you think proper enforcement would make a difference?

You do know that you can choose to house asylum seekers in your own home? If you believe there should be more in your area, why aren't you doing more to faciltate that?

Dragonscaledaisy · Yesterday 13:35

DownToTheGround · Yesterday 09:33

An improving picture.

This doesn't show data on the number of who have subsequently returned via all possible routes. We've already seen the 'one in, one out' policy has been a resounding failure.

poetryandwine · Yesterday 12:01

5MinuteArgument · Yesterday 10:23

Great, so the pull factors remain, the racket continues, the poorest are affected the most. If only the government could get people to shut up about it, everything would be fine and dandy.

Hopefully properly dispersing asylum housing will help a lot. I don’t think it should all be in middle class areas but I think a fair portion of it should be. Also a fair portion should be in upper class areas - the issue is for the whole of society. Then let the consequences play out.

My hope is that we will find a way to come to a humane but not stupid conclusion.

JapanesePotWeed · Yesterday 10:56

It is probably quite telling that the asylum seeker men I have talked to have never mentioned such a concept as "being sent back".
I said up thread that I don't pry into asylum part of things and I don't but we talk freely about countries, families and whether they like UK and this city/street. Some tell me where they plan on going from here and they all think that they'll be given somewhere permanent.The longest I've talked to someone was 2h! I was pretty much captive audience whilst painting windows of my house. Still nothing about war, persecutions or deportations.
The dude did tell me that he doesn't like my house. He doesn't like English houses at all because they are all old. And he wrinkled up his face. I appreciate the honesty 😂

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5MinuteArgument · Yesterday 10:23

poetryandwine · Yesterday 10:11

The reality is that they aren’t deported, though. There is right of appeal, which is a more careful, nonpolitical judicial process with a good success rate, and there are other complications and inconsistencies.

Perhaps HMG should work out and publicise a coherent policy on deportations consistent with the UN Convention on Human Rights. It is not clear what that policy would be.

Denying basic healthcare to anyone on these shores is not only inhumane, it is an own goal when it comes to containing infectious disease.

Great, so the pull factors remain, the racket continues, the poorest are affected the most. If only the government could get people to shut up about it, everything would be fine and dandy.

poetryandwine · Yesterday 10:11

5MinuteArgument · Yesterday 09:21

Refused asylum seekers shouldn't be in the country. They should be deported. They certainly shouldn't get access to any of our services and resources including GP appointments.

The reality is that they aren’t deported, though. There is right of appeal, which is a more careful, nonpolitical judicial process with a good success rate, and there are other complications and inconsistencies.

Perhaps HMG should work out and publicise a coherent policy on deportations consistent with the UN Convention on Human Rights. It is not clear what that policy would be.

Denying basic healthcare to anyone on these shores is not only inhumane, it is an own goal when it comes to containing infectious disease.

5MinuteArgument · Yesterday 09:54

poetryandwine · 25/09/2026 18:50

I think everyone is quite worried for you, OP. Your situation is both awful and unfair. Housing standards need to be raised and dispersal needs to be widespread. My MC neighbourhood ought to house a few asylum seekers. We have a nice B&B in the area, not too big.

Do you think proper enforcement would make a difference?

Yes, I think middle class neighbourhoods should house more than 'a few' asylum seekers. I think they should accommodate them all. Let's put all the HMOs, hotels and barracks for asylum seekers in nice, safe middle class neighbourhoods.

That would change the narrative so fast, our heads would spin. The open borders / refugees welcome lobby would largely cease to exist and then we could shut down this racket once and for all.

DownToTheGround · Yesterday 09:33

5MinuteArgument · Yesterday 09:21

Refused asylum seekers shouldn't be in the country. They should be deported. They certainly shouldn't get access to any of our services and resources including GP appointments.

An improving picture.

Living next to asylum seeker HMO, ask me anything
5MinuteArgument · Yesterday 09:31

Boomer55 · 25/09/2026 12:49

These are the facts about what asylum seekers can get, until they have been given right to remain (if they have).

https://www.gov.uk/asylum-support/what-youll-get

That's actually a pretty generous package. And the UK grants LTR at double the rate of France, so most of the young males that rock up on our shores will be granted LTR, especially once they've gone through appeals with activist lawyers. So then they're classed as refugees, able to bring their families over which gives them priority for social housing and the ability to claim the full range of benefits.

In the unlikely event that their claim is disallowed they won't get deported and can easily slip into the grey economy.

The pull factors for any young male to break into soft touch UK are enormous.