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That it's a massive waste of time, effort, money, lives and we should just bring them over by coach and ferry.

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Ablondiebutagoody · 24/09/2026 16:03

I have just watched the video from earlier today/yesterday of a migrant boat departing Boulogne. The one where the Dad (presumably) ditches his toddler in the sea in order to get onto the boat. The kid was instantly picked up by French emergency workers and it struck me that this whole situation is completely bizarre.

There were approximately half a dozen lifeguards around the boat on jet skis and paddle boards, probably also a load of police out of frame. The boat will then be shadowed by French coastguard vessels until halfway across the channel, at which point border force/RNLI will pick them up and bring them to the UK. They will then be greated by coaches, a couple of hundred riot police and some (redacted by MNHQ) before continuing to their destination.

AIBU to think that this is all a total farce and we should simply provide the coaches from the outset?

YABU - The current arrangement is best.

YANBU - Coach and ferry would be better for everyone.

OP posts:
pelamo · 24/09/2026 20:20

I often wonder what exactly is the pull factor in the UK, as opposed to asylum in France? Is it the fact that UK is English speaking, do the migrants have contacts with relatives already here, is the absence of a National ID card a way to avoid detection for crimes, and out of reach of Europol etc., is it the hard sell of the traffickers that UK is heaven on earth and you must pay to get there. What?

Anyone know, or any other theories? France is a very nice country to live in I would have thought. But if migrants don't think so, well then the UK might have to look at why that is.

2dogsandabudgie · 24/09/2026 20:20

Ihateboris · 24/09/2026 19:20

I have no idea what the answer is. But how desperate must these people be to attempt such a dangerous crossing on a small boat? I often wonder, what if the UK had a catastrophic event and we had to flee to another country? I'm not sure I'd have the bollocks to attempt such a journey, but what would be the alternative?

The alternative for these migrants is to stay in France. What is so scary about being in France? Do you know because I certainly don't.

NancyThompson · 24/09/2026 20:18

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 24/09/2026 16:08

Well that depends if it reduces the numbers. Maybe if we did run a safe coach a day, people would queue? And go elsewhere if the queue was too long?

What happened to the toddler and Dad, are they now separated?

Hopefully.

EmeraldRoulette · 24/09/2026 20:17

HappiestSleeping · 24/09/2026 19:09

That's strange as I got my figures from the home office. Same source as you.

Yeah, the home office don’t publish Visa overstay figures so I can’t link to those. It’s generally agreed that those are a much higher number than small boats, obviously as they don’t track them I can’t provide data.

parliamentary committees are pushing it apparently, but I don’t really know how they will get it if the home office aren’t tracking exit dates properly.

here’s a link from government in case anyone wants it

https://www.gov.uk/government/news/inspection-report-published-an-inspection-of-overstayers-march-october-2025

i’m at serious risk of turning into a data bore aren’t I? 😂

ilovesooty · 24/09/2026 20:16

3wouldbegood · 24/09/2026 18:49

Don't know about coach and ferry, OP, but having ways in which people could apply for asylum safely and legally would reduce the unsafe crossings hugely.

Exactly.

Icanthinkformyselfthanks · 24/09/2026 20:15

Neither of your options.
That video disgusted me, if it didn’t disgust you (not you particularly OP) I can’t understand you at all. A tiny innocent child discarded as so much rubbish, I don’t want that creature in my country. 😡

FirmSnake · 24/09/2026 20:14

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 24/09/2026 19:41

Genuine international co operation on how to deal with displaced persons would probably be the most help.

Working together on establishing who is genuinely at risk in their home country, who might have skills to offer etc and then assigning people who need a safe haven to an agreed (between states) destination according to a mix of quotas and person specific criteria would be the better way.

But there goes that pig flying past my window…

Won't ever happen because if we start assigning fair quotas, we will have to take a lot more people than we currently do...

EmeraldRoulette · 24/09/2026 20:12

Ihateboris · 24/09/2026 19:20

I have no idea what the answer is. But how desperate must these people be to attempt such a dangerous crossing on a small boat? I often wonder, what if the UK had a catastrophic event and we had to flee to another country? I'm not sure I'd have the bollocks to attempt such a journey, but what would be the alternative?

the amount they’re paying to do that would cover the airfare though.

So they can get a flight here and claim asylum. So why do you think they choose this route?

2dogsandabudgie · 24/09/2026 20:11

Inextremis · 24/09/2026 18:36

Anything that's an alternative to people risking their lives in small boats crossing the Channel would be an improvement. I've crossed the Channel on a small boat - it was a 32' yacht, crewed by people who knew what they were doing, and even so it was scary as hell being out of the sight of land in a high swell, knowing that the Channel is a busy shipping route. I can't imagine how frightening it must be crammed into an overloaded dinghy.

These adults do have a choice not to get on a dinghy in the first place.

JapanesePotWeed · 24/09/2026 20:03

Inextremis · 24/09/2026 18:36

Anything that's an alternative to people risking their lives in small boats crossing the Channel would be an improvement. I've crossed the Channel on a small boat - it was a 32' yacht, crewed by people who knew what they were doing, and even so it was scary as hell being out of the sight of land in a high swell, knowing that the Channel is a busy shipping route. I can't imagine how frightening it must be crammed into an overloaded dinghy.

The alternative is stopping them from crossing the Channel! At the same time as making the destination country and unattractive option.
There are plenty of unattractive options in Europe and we should follow their lead.

socks1107 · 24/09/2026 20:01

Yes good idea, coaches can all be sent to your town.
of course that’s a ridiculous idea. The French need to look at their operations and we need to process them quicker and deport them. No free life just back out as a deterrent to others

BrezhnevsLuxuriantEyebrows · 24/09/2026 19:57

notanothernamesurely · 24/09/2026 19:35

The only viable suggestion I’ve heard is a third country (ie the Rwanda scheme) but obviously, this time, with everything in place to go through with it.

I'm not a supporter of the Conservatives at all, but I can't actually see what the issue was in this case. If people are genuinely fleeing in fear for their lives, they will be overjoyed to reach and be accepted by a comparable but safe country.

If, however, their only acceptable goal is the wealth, prosperity and standard of living of a western European nation (although bizarrely, France doesn't seem to tick these boxes for them), and somewhere like Rwanda is outright rejected... well, at least we can do away with any remote pretence of genuine refugee/asylum status and refer them to the standard legitimate channels for applying for economic immigration to the country of their desires.

Mandarinaduck · 24/09/2026 19:54

Dollymylove · 24/09/2026 19:37

Nope. The whole lot of them need sending back where they came from . Most are economic migrants anyway. They've heard we are the land of milk and honey ans they want a slice of it.
As for the bloke who dumped his child in the sea, do we seriously want people like this being allowed in?

A majority of irregular arrivals by boat are granted asylum so are not economic migrants.

EasternStandard · 24/09/2026 19:53

JasmineMac · 24/09/2026 19:42

Yes, let's be the trailblazers in making border control a thing of the fucking past. No check in, no security, no visas. Make it that we'll all be able to rip up our passports! Free travel (travel costs paid for by the residents of our chosen destination).

Almost half polled actually agree with you @Ablondiebutagoody that border control is a 'farce'. I genuinely find myself wondering if there's something in the water in the UK. The phrase lunatics taking over the asylum has never felt so relevant.

Tbf both options are poor, in terms of which to vote for.

BrezhnevsLuxuriantEyebrows · 24/09/2026 19:49

Whatever France are doing to make people view it as such a terrible country, so unthinkable to ever consider staying there, that they would rather risk their lives to leave it in favour of an equivalent country in terms of wealth, prosperity, privilege, developed status, quality of life and onward opportunities (well, fewer since Brexit)... could we not do the same?

I'm not against controlled, legitimate immigration to the UK at all, for those who show us the basic decency and respect of following the proper legal procedures - exactly the same as we would have to if we wanted to move to Australia, the USA and most other developed countries. But please let's stop pretending that these people are somehow still asylum seekers (even if they began as such, although curiously, their womenfolk and children apparently weren't in any danger); absolutely nobody is having to flee any western European country in fear of losing their lives, or even their basic human needs.

JasmineMac · 24/09/2026 19:42

Ablondiebutagoody · 24/09/2026 16:03

I have just watched the video from earlier today/yesterday of a migrant boat departing Boulogne. The one where the Dad (presumably) ditches his toddler in the sea in order to get onto the boat. The kid was instantly picked up by French emergency workers and it struck me that this whole situation is completely bizarre.

There were approximately half a dozen lifeguards around the boat on jet skis and paddle boards, probably also a load of police out of frame. The boat will then be shadowed by French coastguard vessels until halfway across the channel, at which point border force/RNLI will pick them up and bring them to the UK. They will then be greated by coaches, a couple of hundred riot police and some (redacted by MNHQ) before continuing to their destination.

AIBU to think that this is all a total farce and we should simply provide the coaches from the outset?

YABU - The current arrangement is best.

YANBU - Coach and ferry would be better for everyone.

Yes, let's be the trailblazers in making border control a thing of the fucking past. No check in, no security, no visas. Make it that we'll all be able to rip up our passports! Free travel (travel costs paid for by the residents of our chosen destination).

Almost half polled actually agree with you @Ablondiebutagoody that border control is a 'farce'. I genuinely find myself wondering if there's something in the water in the UK. The phrase lunatics taking over the asylum has never felt so relevant.

notanothernamesurely · 24/09/2026 19:42

Dollymylove · 24/09/2026 19:37

Nope. The whole lot of them need sending back where they came from . Most are economic migrants anyway. They've heard we are the land of milk and honey ans they want a slice of it.
As for the bloke who dumped his child in the sea, do we seriously want people like this being allowed in?

How do you know where they came from? How do you send them back?

Although the ‘send them back’ argument is a valid one it’s these things that stop it being viable.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 24/09/2026 19:41

Genuine international co operation on how to deal with displaced persons would probably be the most help.

Working together on establishing who is genuinely at risk in their home country, who might have skills to offer etc and then assigning people who need a safe haven to an agreed (between states) destination according to a mix of quotas and person specific criteria would be the better way.

But there goes that pig flying past my window…

Dollymylove · 24/09/2026 19:37

Nope. The whole lot of them need sending back where they came from . Most are economic migrants anyway. They've heard we are the land of milk and honey ans they want a slice of it.
As for the bloke who dumped his child in the sea, do we seriously want people like this being allowed in?

notanothernamesurely · 24/09/2026 19:35

The only viable suggestion I’ve heard is a third country (ie the Rwanda scheme) but obviously, this time, with everything in place to go through with it.

LuckyHazelFox · 24/09/2026 19:32

YABU for using the term gammon. No, we shouldn't be making it easier for more unwanted numbers.

Cyclebabble · 24/09/2026 19:29

Ihateboris · 24/09/2026 19:20

I have no idea what the answer is. But how desperate must these people be to attempt such a dangerous crossing on a small boat? I often wonder, what if the UK had a catastrophic event and we had to flee to another country? I'm not sure I'd have the bollocks to attempt such a journey, but what would be the alternative?

The risks are actually quite limited. Boats are shadowed in French waters and then in UK waters. An uncomfortable crossing for sure, but the overwhelming majority do so safely. They are then well supported in the UK with a good prospect of getting past our flawed system to gain asylum. Once they have done this, they can access full benefits and housing, with specific support for new asylum claimants.

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 24/09/2026 19:27

Won't safe and legal routes open the floodgates, even worse than now? Do the people advocating this want the country to be poorer and unrecognisable?

Cyclebabble · 24/09/2026 19:26

We need to turn boats around in the channel and not allow them to cross into UK waters. Assistance should be provided, but only on boats which will take illegal migrants back to France. No refugees come from France, and this ongoing small boat crisis saps the appetite to help people genuinely at risk. The Home Office's own figures shows of those granted asylum after five years only half are working and then only half again are working full time. In short there is a massive cost to us operating at such a high level of small boat landings.

Mandarinaduck · 24/09/2026 19:21

Setters2020 · 24/09/2026 19:17

It makes me so mad, when the Conservatives were in power time & time again Labour politicians would say “What we need is safe & legal routes” ie a way for people to apply for asylum in the countries or origin , this would stop so many , not all trying to enter illegally.
Now Labour are in power where are these safe & legal routes?

As mentioned, Labour have introduced community sponsorship as a safe and legal route. https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/apply-for-full-community-sponsorship/community-sponsorship-guidance-for-prospective-sponsors

Community sponsorship: guidance for prospective sponsors

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/apply-for-full-community-sponsorship/community-sponsorship-guidance-for-prospective-sponsors

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