AIBU to feel uneasy about a teacher commenting on my daughter's eyes?

What needs reporting? Op has no idea what, if anything, has happened

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And so far we don't know if the person making the comment about the daughter's eyes is one and the same as the teacher who rang up to give praise.

Haven't you been warned against that in your training?

In their own personal time? And is it considered acceptable to comment on things like the attractiveness of a child's eyes? Obviously I know many teachers really do care about their pupils and that's great but this sounds a bit more than that.

To be fair, it's the sort of thing I might say if we were discussing something like eye colours, which do get taught in primary as kind of a basic biology lesson. I can see a situation where I might say You've got lovely eyes, Alice, such a nice colour, or something of the sort.

My daughters headteacher told her she was so beautiful (in front of me and her dad) Female headteacher. Just took it as a compliment, but I would have felt differently if it was a man.

I loved making positive phone calls. Always did a few on a Friday to finish the week on a high in mainstream, and in Alternative Provision even more often.

On the other hand, if I overheard a similar comment by a member of staff in school, I'd report as a low level concern.

I had a male teacher comment on my eyes in a class with other kids in when i was a teenager .
He wasn't in the slightest bit sleazy, just a nice man and i had the usual teenage girl radar for sleazy perv teachers !
So perhaps the teacher shouldn't have commented but i wouldn't always jump to the conclusion that they are dodgy.

I had the same from a metalwork teacher about my eyes. Back then nobody thought anything of it, todays standards, no it's not a great thing to hear and I would be concerned too. See what your daughter says?

Being a good student, whatever, yeah, that's normal teacher feedback. I wouldn't worry massively right now, but just make sure your daughter is always aware of anything untoward from boys/men, she probably should if doesn't already.

Yes, that's what happened with us.

How did your mum meet a secondary school child's teacher?

Teachers are encouraged to do this at DHs school. They also send postcards. He actually really loves this part of the job, especially if it's calling about a student who has put in a lot of work and really improved.

Think it's an over reaction. Be grateful that a teacher is bothering to call you, the job is 80% admin and targets, surprised they have the time. Generally it is considered normal to contact parents for good as well as "challenging" behaviour.
If the eye comment was real, it could possibly be new teacher nerves, who knows.
I work in a school, my daughter was asked why she was so eccentric by a male teacher, I took it as a compliment and so did she! 😂

You’re misunderstanding my post @ReproicianThe point is, that as yet the OP doesn’t know which teacher said the eyes comment, if indeed it was said as it’s the grandmother’s reportage at present. Therefore too early to go in all guns blazing for that particular teacher.

We used to send Praise postcards but the stamps became too expensive so praise phone calls is now directed.

This is ridiculous. There isn't danger in every conversation.

We had many calls home from teachers singing praises - normal behaviour.

You have drawn conclusions about your daughter not liking boys, a call home and a potentially different teacher complimenting eyes together with absolutely no correlation.

YABU

An occasional ‘good’ phone call is fine but that would usually be from a pastoral type teacher like a head of year....or tutor.
I would expect this to be the case but obviously schools differ.
He's a new enthusiastic teacher? Hasn't been worn down by the baying mob yet! The thing I find a bit inappropriate is the eye compliment and couching the praise in terms of "as a father..." stuff. It's just verging on too familiar and not totally professional.

Every school I have worked inhas encouraged teachers to ring home with positive feedback and not just when kids misbehave. There is alt f time taken up with behaviour management that the kids who are well behaved can get overlooked.
The eyes comment is a bit odd and you need more context. It could be that somebody said to her something about her eyes or she did and he said your eyes very nice. or he said you've got very nice eyes can I see them facing the front please. A tiny snippet of conversation can't always be judged accurately.

I had a year 9 girl who told her parents that I'd suggested she was fat by saying that she shouldn't be in a huge bar of chocolate. What I'd actually said was that she shouldn't be eating a huge bar of chocolate in the lesson.

He would be in trouble nowadays!

It still shouldn't happen, there are no circumstances in which it's ok.

You need to find out more on the eyes thing. Just coming out with you have really nice eyes is weird.
if it was something like your daughter had sunglasses on and he asked her to remove them saying you have nice eyes so let us see them and remove the sunglasses then not so weird or if he was responding to a question or your daughter saying she hates her eyes

It wasn't in a creepy way. He was an older teacher, near retirement age, amd he actually was very nice to me. My parents didn't bother much with me and he personally arranged for me to get into college because my parents didn't bother with my education at 16. He said I was too bright not to go. This was 20 years ago, maybe things were different and maybe it sounds worse than it is, but he didn't say it in a creepy way.

@Ablondiebutagoody says he is grooming her.

Yet several teachers have said they do this at their school. They do it at my grandchildren's school.