AIBU to feel uneasy about a teacher commenting on my daughter's eyes?

Sounds very much like this is dependent on the school.
If you've read the thread, many people (both teachers and parents) have said they do.

Calls home fine. Commenting on a pupils physical appearance is absolutely not.

Unless a person has the rarest most unbelievable eyes ever, I've always thought that people who comment on eyes are 100% cracking on. It's just a weird thing to say to someone in general, and they think they're being subtle but it's just not. And I say that as someone with fairly comment-worthy hazel eyes. A teacher saying it to a pupil is a massive red flag.

I do! I think it is a lovely thing to do. If a student has been particularly brilliant for a few lessons or just a wonderful part of the school
xommunity I will phone home to tell them. Often a phone call home from school is negative so I wanted to buck the trend a little. It’s also a way of letting them know how their child is getting on because reports are termly and very brief.

I agree, poor guy wont bother next time!!

Im a teacher and I call home to give praise, in fact every school ive ever worked at its been encouraged to phone home for positives as well as the negatives. Its just some teachers can't be bothered or they don't have time so you just got a caring one calling you! If it was the same teacher who commented on the eyes you need to ask your daughter what the context was, I remember a teacher telling me I have lovely eyes once! It wasn't weird!!

Teachers would normally bulk email if a class is doing well at this stage of the year. Only ring about bad behaviour. Ask your DD and then approach school.

We were expected to make at least one positive phone call home per week.

Safeguarding teaching which is annual is incredibly explicit that such a comment is inappropriate. Any teacher still doing this is a bloody idiot at best or testing the boundaries at worst. Whatever, they need to be reported so that they can be trained not to do it. If you want to see how much grooming still goes on look at the teaching registration agency website for its update reports of sacked teachers. St

Honestly. Yes we do. In fact we are told to

At my daughters old school, a cover supervisor/sub teacher told one of her friends ‘if you were older you could be my girlfriend.’ Said in front of several other kids too, so totally true. She was 13! He disappeared very soon after.

My daughter's school sends postcards and also the teachers telephone home if they've done well in class or are deserving of praise for another reason. We have received multiple calls. It's kind of depressing that people's first reaction is that it is somehow sinister. Teachers must be wondering if they can get anything right.

Teachers do sometimes ring singing a child's praises. It nice thing to do. I've done it myself on many occasions, much to the delight of the parent. Commenting on her eyes is odd.

This is not right OP. If that was me, I'd definitely be calling school.

Definitely!!!! If you're male telling a female pupil 🙄

Many secondary school teachers on this thread have confirmed that this is current good practice.

I’ve had teachers sing my children’s praises in person - one even said they’d love to adopt my son (and he was usually in trouble for one thing or another). The same teacher also waxed lyrical about my DD’s hair (she does have amazing below the waist length auburn hair) . This was a woman - does that make it different?

I've had an English teacher ring me singing my daughter's praises.

It's not the teacher who made the phone call, but you're right. It has to be reported and investigated.

In all my years of school (many decades ago) I remember only one comment about appearance, made by our much loved (female) English teacher who had met us all at the theatre at Stratford where we were taken as a class. We all made a big effort to get dressed up (of course) and she said "What pretty girls you are, you all look lovely". She was a bit of a style icon at our school and this was much appreciated.

Personal remarks about eye colour seem very strange to me. As far as a teacher phoning you to praise your daughter, I'd have thought that would be more common in the case of someone who is struggling or has issues but has done well in spite of them, to boost confidence, rather than a well behaved 'promising' high achiever, but perhaps it is policy.

Eye on, I'd say, @Kickinthenostalgia

Potential grooming behaviour. I'd give them school safeguarding lead a call. They will likely check which other parents he's called in the first instance.

Perhaps it's because we teach teenagers. They will make accusations, so it's important to self protect.

I would never comment negatively but sometimes it's hard not comment on a new hair cut or a pretty style. Otherwise it's all so robotic.

I think it's inappropriate for a teacher to compliment a students physical apparence unless there's context that makes it ok. The way it happened with your daughter would make me cautious. I don't think enough has happened yet to complain or anything, but definitely be on the lookout and make sure she knows the signs of grooming etc.

I have had a teacher call and sing DD praises. I think it's something some of them like to do and I love it! The eye thing needs checking out to understand the context better but I don't think the phone call is at all odd.