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AIBU to think violently rattling an occupied toilet door at work is rude?

83 replies

Futurehappiness · 23/09/2026 22:46

I was in the toilet cubicle at work. The door was locked, so from the outside it clearly shows that it is 'engaged'. Regardless, someone outside came along looking for a free cubicle, rattled the cubicle door really violently (to the extent I was worried it would break the lock) before moving on to another one.

AIBU to think this is really rude? It is not the first time this has happened, once I was just in the cubicle about to lock the door and a male colleague burst in nearly pushing the door. These are unisex closed cubicles which is all there are; It has to be said that when we had old fashioned dedicated female toilets this rarely happened....perhaps the men are resentful about the time women take & aren't used to queuing?

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Firefly1987 · 24/09/2026 00:56

That's absolutely horrible and intimidating-I'd say it goes further than rude.

ButWhoAmI · 24/09/2026 00:56

backformoreofthesame · 23/09/2026 23:05

You may have overreacted - it may have seemed more violent when really it was just assertive

Your first thought was to minimise the Op's experience?

ButWhoAmI · 24/09/2026 00:55

Very rude, no one with manners does that.

BansheeOfTheSouth · 24/09/2026 00:50

LadyLooo · 24/09/2026 00:40

I mean yeah it’s a bit off putting but nothing “There’s someone in here “ wouldn’t instantly fix on the odd time it must happen 🤷‍♀️

Looking at the door and seeing it's engaged would instantly prevent it.

Yhjan · 24/09/2026 00:46

Very rude indeed.

LadyLooo · 24/09/2026 00:40

I mean yeah it’s a bit off putting but nothing “There’s someone in here “ wouldn’t instantly fix on the odd time it must happen 🤷‍♀️

JustMerelyHere · 24/09/2026 00:31

This is really rude

backformoreofthesame · 23/09/2026 23:05

You may have overreacted - it may have seemed more violent when really it was just assertive