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Christmas leave priority

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putmeonthebackburner · 23/09/2026 14:23

We have had an email today stating that Christmas leave will be prioritised in the following way:

  1. people with children under 7
  2. people with grandchildren under 7
  3. people with children over 7
  4. people with grandchildren over 7
  5. everyone else

AIBU to think this is utterly ridiculous? I am my parents’ child, I would like to see them over Christmas. We only get the bank holiday days off and work on Christmas Eve so if I don’t get leave I won’t see family until the 26th.

It should be first come first served

OP posts:
DearlyDiego · 23/09/2026 14:53

"Favouring employees with children for annual leave is not legally classified as direct parental status discrimination in the UK, but it can still create workplace grievances and legal risks. You may be able to claim indirect discrimination or breach of contract under the Equality Act 2010 by linking the unfair treatment to other actual protected characteristics."

It might not go all the way but if enough people bombard HR with complaints and grievances, I'd imagine they would change their policy pretty quickly.

JudgeJ · 23/09/2026 14:53

takealettermsjones · 23/09/2026 14:51

Breeding 🤣

It's the children who are special; they can't look after themselves, so they need an adult at home.

What's wrong with 'breeding', it's what producing young is called.

Lifejigsaw · 23/09/2026 14:52

putmeonthebackburner · 23/09/2026 14:46

Yeah I don’t think not having children is a protected characteristic?

Age is a protected characteristic - that works both ways and being treated differently for not being "old enough" to be a grandparent is age discrimination.

Disability is a protected characteristics and some disabilities prevent people from having children

Religion is a protect characteristic and advantaging non Christians more favourably because they have children for a Christian holiday is discrimination

ToKittyornottoKitty · 23/09/2026 14:52

putmeonthebackburner · 23/09/2026 14:47

I’m not. You make the choice to take the job knowing the leave conditions.

That argument only really works when the leave conditions are first come first served.

Bizarre to make the cut of age 7 though.

JudgeJ · 23/09/2026 14:52

sherbetlemonade · 23/09/2026 14:49

People with grandchildren? That's absurd. Loads of people don't even see their grandchildren at Christmas.

Would these granparents claiming special treatment have to prove that they would be seeing the grandchildren on Christmas day?

takealettermsjones · 23/09/2026 14:51

JudgeJ · 23/09/2026 14:50

Why does breeding make you special? Why 11, why not 25 as there are those who claim adulthood starts then? Parents get a lot of concessions in employment just because they choose to breed.

Breeding 🤣

It's the children who are special; they can't look after themselves, so they need an adult at home.

Ineffable23 · 23/09/2026 14:51

putmeonthebackburner · 23/09/2026 14:46

Yeah I don’t think not having children is a protected characteristic?

I think you could argue indirect age discrimination (older workers less likely to have grandkids under 7, middle aged workers less likely to be grandparents and to have kids under 7 and young workers less likely to have kids at all) and potentially also indirect sexual orientation discrimination on the same grounds. I'm not a lawyer but that would probably be how I'd argue it if I had to. I'd probably try and have a quiet word before I started throwing those terms about though!

JudgeJ · 23/09/2026 14:50

ClawsandEffect · 23/09/2026 14:41

It should be parents first. 7 as the cut off age is too young. Maybe 11 or whenever they're old enough to be home alone some of the time?

Grandparents should not be the priority. And I speak as a grandparent.

There are no holiday clubs for children over the Christmas holidays so speaking practically, parents have no other option than to be off work.

Why does breeding make you special? Why 11, why not 25 as there are those who claim adulthood starts then? Parents get a lot of concessions in employment just because they choose to breed.

takealettermsjones · 23/09/2026 14:49

putmeonthebackburner · 23/09/2026 14:47

I’m not. You make the choice to take the job knowing the leave conditions.

Yep. What other choice do I have?

I think society should be set up to better support parents in lots of ways, and this is just one way that could be mandated.

sherbetlemonade · 23/09/2026 14:49

People with grandchildren? That's absurd. Loads of people don't even see their grandchildren at Christmas.

x2boys · 23/09/2026 14:48

beeble347 · 23/09/2026 14:29

I think the grandchildren one and all the specifics are quite ridiculous tbh but I do really feel for anyone with young kids who has to work on Christmas day, they only have a few years where they're both old enough to know what Christmas is and young enough to believe in Father Christmas etc.

First come, first served also can be unfair, when my DB worked in retail the managers would all book off the best dates over the holidays then let everyone else scrap for the rest. Prob some kind of alternating years system would be fairer. I can't say I'd be that bothered as an adult without kids having to work over Christmas if it was part of my job though - though I'd want at least Christmas eve or Christmas day off as it's a religious holiday for me.

I had kids and worked xmas days as a nurse if we gave priority to parents then some people may never get a xmas day because yes children grow up but then another employee starts with young children
So is it fair that people without children work every xmas?

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 23/09/2026 14:48

Just betting someone in charge has just become a grandparent for the first time!

Ponderingwindow · 23/09/2026 14:48

catmothertes1 · 23/09/2026 14:43

Assuming that the holiday booking system is opened to every member of staff in the same way,I don't see anything wrong with first come first served. If people cannot get their holidays organised,they can't complain they did not get what they wanted.

Edited

What if some are busy in tasks the moment the calendar opens and can’t go put in for the time? What if some share computers? For a high demand day like Christmas, second could make a difference.

rotation makes sure everyone has a chance

OnlyUsername · 23/09/2026 14:47

I think single parents/parents where the other adult works shifts or works Christmas should be prioritised as there is little paid childcare for those 2 weeks (private nurseries close here and they don't run holiday clubs). After that - first come first served.

putmeonthebackburner · 23/09/2026 14:47

takealettermsjones · 23/09/2026 14:44

I actually am in favour of parents having priority for all school holiday leave, insofar as is possible, but that priority list is crazy. A parent of an 8 year old being lower down the list than a grandparent of a 6 year old is ridiculous!

I’m not. You make the choice to take the job knowing the leave conditions.

OP posts:
GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 23/09/2026 14:46

Bonkers that grandparents feature in this list at all, if there’s going to be a list, never mind taking priority over the parents of an 8 yo! I wonder if a grandparent wrote it!

I don’t think there should be a priorities list at all. Most people want Christmas off for one reason or another.

Fairest thing is to have a rotation year on year I think.

Ineffable23 · 23/09/2026 14:46

The situation described by the OP is completely bonkers.

Even ignoring the fact that you should ask who wants Christmas leave, give a deadline for responses, then consider who had leave previously. Maybe some minor adjustments for very unusual circumstances.

But even if one accepts that those with kids should be prioritised for leave, why on earth should an 8 year old be deprioritised for seeing their parents while a 7 year old is prioritised above them to see their grandparents.

How totally mental.

My dad used to work Christmas fairly regularly. We did any of: getting up super early and doing presents before he left. Being allowed to open one small present an hour til he got home. Popping in to see him if he was working somewhere that was suitable.

putmeonthebackburner · 23/09/2026 14:46

Teado · 23/09/2026 14:46

Perhaps they’ve done the grandparent thing to get around discrimination on the basis of age. A few posters have mentioned discrimination but I don’t see it against any other protected characteristic unless I’m missing something?

I disagree with the premise of allocating leave in this way don’t get me wrong, but I don’t know why posters are suggesting HR etc.

Yeah I don’t think not having children is a protected characteristic?

OP posts:
Teado · 23/09/2026 14:46

Perhaps they’ve done the grandparent thing to get around discrimination on the basis of age. A few posters have mentioned discrimination but I don’t see it against any other protected characteristic unless I’m missing something?

I disagree with the premise of allocating leave in this way don’t get me wrong, but I don’t know why posters are suggesting HR etc.

x2boys · 23/09/2026 14:44

putmeonthebackburner · 23/09/2026 14:23

We have had an email today stating that Christmas leave will be prioritised in the following way:

  1. people with children under 7
  2. people with grandchildren under 7
  3. people with children over 7
  4. people with grandchildren over 7
  5. everyone else

AIBU to think this is utterly ridiculous? I am my parents’ child, I would like to see them over Christmas. We only get the bank holiday days off and work on Christmas Eve so if I don’t get leave I won’t see family until the 26th.

It should be first come first served

Is this not discriminaton agsinst people who dont have children?
I used to be a nurse and most parents wanted xmas off but they couldnt expect it off .

DearlyDiego · 23/09/2026 14:44

Reply all - "I'm thrilled that you've put this in writing. It will make my discrimination claim absolutely iron clad" 😁

user293948849167 · 23/09/2026 14:44

That’s ridiculous, it should be based on who worked last year etc.
I have children over 7 so would be priority 3 but I don’t feel like I’m entitled to Christmas leave over other people.

takealettermsjones · 23/09/2026 14:44

I actually am in favour of parents having priority for all school holiday leave, insofar as is possible, but that priority list is crazy. A parent of an 8 year old being lower down the list than a grandparent of a 6 year old is ridiculous!

catmothertes1 · 23/09/2026 14:43

NoKnit · 23/09/2026 14:26

I don't think that is fair but I also don't think first come first served is either.

The fairest way is if it is rotated every year and one person who worked last year gets leave this year and vice versa

Assuming that the holiday booking system is opened to every member of staff in the same way,I don't see anything wrong with first come first served. If people cannot get their holidays organised,they can't complain they did not get what they wanted.

Naurrr · 23/09/2026 14:43

ClawsandEffect · 23/09/2026 14:41

It should be parents first. 7 as the cut off age is too young. Maybe 11 or whenever they're old enough to be home alone some of the time?

Grandparents should not be the priority. And I speak as a grandparent.

There are no holiday clubs for children over the Christmas holidays so speaking practically, parents have no other option than to be off work.

Employers probably shouldn't discriminate against staff based on their reproductive status.

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