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Crying at bake off

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NigellasNeck · 23/09/2026 12:04

I cried when Molly dropped her cake. Just a few tears.

I'm a saddo aren't I?

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GetSetFake · Today 07:42

LindorDoubleChoc · 25/09/2026 21:34

If anyone on the thread is more interested in the show and the bakes (than the shocking throuple hanky fanning argument) then do come on board on the Bake Off thread on the Telly Addicts board

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/telly_addicts/5570752-the-bake-is-back-the-countdown-to-great-british-bake-off-2026-starts-here here is the link. See you over there 🍰

Thanks for the plug @LindorDoubleChoc

To be fair, we did start with a flurry of the usual complaints about diversity Casting/they're all so annoying/it was better in the old days, but we seem to be settling down a bit and hopefully it will be a thread for people who love the show to, as you say, talk about bakes and baking.

ImaSpringChicken · Today 07:39

Molly's voice is SO annoying.
Danni is weird!

FuzzySlippers · Today 07:37

I’m glad she had some help because all the twisting and bending for her to cook looked awful and painful.

People are being insane complaining about someone reliant on a wheelchair getting limited physical support, just to slightly redress the disadvantage they face day in day out due to not being able to have full use of their body.

The fact that that baker had said something like she’d noticed that the oven door tips down way too low (but presumably had to use it anyway and then her cake duly rolls out to the floor) shows that the contestant is doing all of the kitchen jobs it’s within her powers to do. But the producers hadn’t set up the oven safely/fairly considering her physical limitations. It could have dropped burning hot cake all over her feet or legs.

If the helper had been cooking for her then the able bodied assistant would have dived in and saved the cake, but they didn’t did they?

GetSetFake · Today 07:35

putmeonthebackburner · Yesterday 10:47

My opinion is my opinion. It’s totally unfair. If her bake is sloppy she has a second pair of hands to help her make it look better. She has someone getting everything in and out of the oven (perhaps a good thing seeing as she can’t even do that!), she is basically there solely to bake while everyone else has to do everything themselves. Thankfully she’s not a very good baker so she’ll be home within a couple of weeks.

I'm an avid baker too, and I disagree. There will be very strict limits on what the extra person can do - they won't do anything for her that she can do herself. So no two pairs of hands prettying up a dodgy bake, because that will be her job. They will literally do the bits she can't do.

In fact, trying to manage someone else that you don't normally bake with would add to the stress of baking in an unfamiliar environment.

Seems a bit mean spirited to resent perfectly reasonable adaptations that have enabled the first wheelchair user to enter the tent.

I think some people have referred to MasterChef - there have been so many more MC contestants, have some of them been wheelchair users? I wonder how they made adaptations?

Thisusernameisalwaysavailable · Yesterday 16:15

putmeonthebackburner · Yesterday 10:47

My opinion is my opinion. It’s totally unfair. If her bake is sloppy she has a second pair of hands to help her make it look better. She has someone getting everything in and out of the oven (perhaps a good thing seeing as she can’t even do that!), she is basically there solely to bake while everyone else has to do everything themselves. Thankfully she’s not a very good baker so she’ll be home within a couple of weeks.

The second person won't be there to help her food look better etc. the second person is there to physically reach things she can't..eg...lift the ice-cream into the freezer that is 3 ft above her head, standing and putting the basket in the deep fat fryer for her, switching on the electric mixer that has a switch at the back that she physically can't reach because she's in a wheelchair that means her arms don't reach the 5ft of wheelchair and counter, instead of the 3ft of the counter... that kind of thing, surely?

Not whisk the eggs, whilst she creams some butter and everyone else having to do both tasks one after the other. Or do half the biscuit icing for her

Boomer55 · Yesterday 16:13

Have to admit I laughed. 😉

Thisusernameisalwaysavailable · Yesterday 16:13

Sahara123 · Yesterday 16:06

Back to Nigella ! I’m watching the repeat just now as I missed some of the middle. I’ve noticed they’re using a spoon to eat cake, plus Nigella takes a huge spoonful and shoves it in her mouth in that ooh aren’t I naughty way she does. It’s really beginning to annoy me already!

It's not "ooh aren't I naughty" it's just bad manners and fucking disgusting to watch.

Sahara123 · Yesterday 16:06

Back to Nigella ! I’m watching the repeat just now as I missed some of the middle. I’ve noticed they’re using a spoon to eat cake, plus Nigella takes a huge spoonful and shoves it in her mouth in that ooh aren’t I naughty way she does. It’s really beginning to annoy me already!

AllIwantForChrismasIsAKitchenAidStandMixer · Yesterday 11:37

putmeonthebackburner · Yesterday 10:47

My opinion is my opinion. It’s totally unfair. If her bake is sloppy she has a second pair of hands to help her make it look better. She has someone getting everything in and out of the oven (perhaps a good thing seeing as she can’t even do that!), she is basically there solely to bake while everyone else has to do everything themselves. Thankfully she’s not a very good baker so she’ll be home within a couple of weeks.

You’re being ridiculous and very discriminatory. The assistance person there is to make sure she isn’t at a disadvantage not to make her AT an advantage. And she’s not the best so it’s not like they are allowing her to win is it?

putmeonthebackburner · Yesterday 10:47

KilkennyCats · Yesterday 10:45

Ah, come on. The ingredients and implements are arranged on the worktop for all the contestants, they’re not all skipping up and down to the larder / fridge every few minutes?

My opinion is my opinion. It’s totally unfair. If her bake is sloppy she has a second pair of hands to help her make it look better. She has someone getting everything in and out of the oven (perhaps a good thing seeing as she can’t even do that!), she is basically there solely to bake while everyone else has to do everything themselves. Thankfully she’s not a very good baker so she’ll be home within a couple of weeks.

KilkennyCats · Yesterday 10:45

putmeonthebackburner · Yesterday 10:38

No. I’m an avid baker, and all the minutes of getting things ready, getting things from the cupboard and fridge add up.

Ah, come on. The ingredients and implements are arranged on the worktop for all the contestants, they’re not all skipping up and down to the larder / fridge every few minutes?

putmeonthebackburner · Yesterday 10:38

KilkennyCats · Yesterday 10:28

You’re talking about seconds, surely?

No. I’m an avid baker, and all the minutes of getting things ready, getting things from the cupboard and fridge add up.

KilkennyCats · Yesterday 10:28

putmeonthebackburner · Yesterday 10:25

Yes which means she’s physically there able to spend more time baking than the other contestants.

You’re talking about seconds, surely?

putmeonthebackburner · Yesterday 10:25

KilkennyCats · Yesterday 10:23

She’ll still be managing her time? Telling someone what implement she needs next, or when to take something out of the freezer, etc, doesn’t mean she’s not the one carrying the mental load.
They’re just doing the grunt work.

Yes which means she’s physically there able to spend more time baking than the other contestants.

KilkennyCats · Yesterday 10:23

putmeonthebackburner · Yesterday 10:19

I don’t agree.

Everyone else in the tent is doing it solo. She is doing it as a duo. Having a second person there to help means you’re not baking solo. The actual baking is the easy part. It’s everything else (time management, decorating alone, etc), that takes these from basic bakes to the levels we see.

She’ll still be managing her time? Telling someone what implement she needs next, or when to take something out of the freezer, etc, doesn’t mean she’s not the one carrying the mental load.
They’re just doing the grunt work.

putmeonthebackburner · Yesterday 10:19

AllIwantForChrismasIsAKitchenAidStandMixer · Yesterday 10:17

Surely that’s just a reasonable adjustment? They aren’t doing the baking for her they’re probably just handing her equipment and helping her keep things steady. It’s call levelling the playing field.

I don’t agree.

Everyone else in the tent is doing it solo. She is doing it as a duo. Having a second person there to help means you’re not baking solo. The actual baking is the easy part. It’s everything else (time management, decorating alone, etc), that takes these from basic bakes to the levels we see.

AllIwantForChrismasIsAKitchenAidStandMixer · Yesterday 10:17

putmeonthebackburner · Yesterday 09:42

I’ve just seen a TikTok she’s done where she’s explaining that she gets a helper for each challenge!!!! That’s entirely changed my view on it I’m afraid, that’s so unfair.

Surely that’s just a reasonable adjustment? They aren’t doing the baking for her they’re probably just handing her equipment and helping her keep things steady. It’s call levelling the playing field.

putmeonthebackburner · Yesterday 09:42

I’ve just seen a TikTok she’s done where she’s explaining that she gets a helper for each challenge!!!! That’s entirely changed my view on it I’m afraid, that’s so unfair.

likelysuspect · 25/09/2026 21:47

AlwaysExtraHot · 25/09/2026 08:35

You might be lucky enough to meet such a man one day dear.
You're just being silly. Why would anyone say that to a child who asked?

Well Im not 5, so Im not being 'silly'.

Why wouldnt you say that to a child who asked about it if theres nothing wrong with it?

AlwaysExtraHot · 25/09/2026 12:58

SALaw · 25/09/2026 12:45

ChatGPT defines a fetish as a strong sexual attraction to a body part, object or situation. I asked for clarity on the situation reference and the examples it gave were about voyeurism and a power dynamic in a relationship. So I would say that a throuple very much fits that idea. Hope that helps.

Interesting. I asked Google and it said it was a committed, romantic relationship involving three people.
I asked further and found:
'Ultimately, a throuple itself is not a fetish; it is a relationship structure. However, if the motivation behind forming the throuple is solely to fulfill a specific sexual fantasy or to exert control over a third person without treating them as a human being with full autonomy, the relationship has been reduced to a fetish.'

So, if Gabe or one of the other people involved is exploiting one of the partners, then arguably he's representing fetish behaviour. But we obviously don't know; and if we were to speculate/assume about it, I guess it'd be comparable to looking at, say, Linda who lives with her husband Alan (made-up; I can't remember anyone's partners' names from this season) and wondering whether their personal/sex life involves fulfilling a specific sexual fantasy or exerting control over one of them without treating them as a human being with full autonomy.

SALaw · 25/09/2026 12:45

AlwaysExtraHot · 25/09/2026 08:52

Can you let us all know, with references, how being in a throuple is a fetish? I can't find (admittedly I'm only using Google) anywhere that defines it as such, and 'd be interested to learn.

ChatGPT defines a fetish as a strong sexual attraction to a body part, object or situation. I asked for clarity on the situation reference and the examples it gave were about voyeurism and a power dynamic in a relationship. So I would say that a throuple very much fits that idea. Hope that helps.

SALaw · 25/09/2026 12:38

Cartouche · 25/09/2026 07:42

It’s not a fetish!

Yes it is

takealettermsjones · 25/09/2026 10:53

Cartouche · 25/09/2026 10:48

I’m not actually disagreeing with much or any of that. I’m happily married myself!

My post was intended as a response to the ‘If throuples are normal now, why can’t they marry?’ post by @Shatteredremnants. My point is that marriage has historically been one man and one woman for inheritance/legitimacy reasons, that it was pretty straightforward to expand that to same-sex marriage, in a society that regards marriage as monogamous, but that more than two people being legally married is perfectly normal in other cultures with legal polygamy.

Though I imagine that in polygamy in the most usual sense globally, one man married to two or more women, the women are only married to him and not one another. A throuple marrying would presumably involve each of the three people marrying each of the others, which sounds like a potential legislative nightmare? Can one member divorce one other throuple member but stay married to the other, or is the divorce global for all three?

I mean, I don’t think that anti-throuple marital discrimination is going to be top of anyone’s to do list anytime soon, even if there’s one on the margins of GBBO.😃

Understood, I just read your comment as being derogatory - i.e. that you were saying the reasons for marriage being between two people are entirely patriarchal and that's a bad thing, and those reasons can or should be dismissed nowadays. Sorry if I misinterpreted. But I'm saying that the reasons are good ones and should still apply today.

I agree re. the legislative nightmare! Around inheritance, divorce, custody, child maintenance, debt, next of kin/power of attorney... all sorts of problems! More good societal reasons for two-person marriage, imo.

Cartouche · 25/09/2026 10:48

takealettermsjones · 25/09/2026 10:22

I'm not disputing that society was patriarchal at the time marriage was conceived, but the idea of marriage between one man and one woman isn’t "entirely patriarchal." It also follows plenty of logical, common‑sense lines.

The basic premise was that one man and one woman join together to found a family — which of course, back in the day, could only be done between men and women.

The commitment to one partner, to the exclusion of all others, was to protect the interests of that family unit - so yes ensuring that children were unquestionably born to them and only them, as you say, but also making sure that resources were directed into that single household rather than scattered across multiple partners or sets of offspring - ensuring survival and prosperity, etc.

It also had practical implications for health in that it avoids incest and inbreeding - when people know who is related to whom, there is less risk of accidentally marrying/reproducing with a sibling or other family member.

There's also evidence that two-person relationships (i.e. dyadic attachments) make for happier, more secure partnerships, because of the emotional feedback loop. They have less stress and handle conflict better. This is obviously better for public mental health, the stability of the workforce, etc.

There are good reasons why two-person marriage makes sense, and they're not all patriarchal.

I’m not actually disagreeing with much or any of that. I’m happily married myself!

My post was intended as a response to the ‘If throuples are normal now, why can’t they marry?’ post by @Shatteredremnants. My point is that marriage has historically been one man and one woman for inheritance/legitimacy reasons, that it was pretty straightforward to expand that to same-sex marriage, in a society that regards marriage as monogamous, but that more than two people being legally married is perfectly normal in other cultures with legal polygamy.

Though I imagine that in polygamy in the most usual sense globally, one man married to two or more women, the women are only married to him and not one another. A throuple marrying would presumably involve each of the three people marrying each of the others, which sounds like a potential legislative nightmare? Can one member divorce one other throuple member but stay married to the other, or is the divorce global for all three?

I mean, I don’t think that anti-throuple marital discrimination is going to be top of anyone’s to do list anytime soon, even if there’s one on the margins of GBBO.😃

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