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To ask for help with pain relief for fibroids/endo - I can’t cope anymore

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WhatNextImScared · 22/09/2026 22:46

I’m waiting an op to remove a fibroid (44, had an op previously but regrown) but the pain for 4 days during my period is utterly unmanageable.

It’s like being 8cm dilated but with no gas and air and no respite between contractions - and four days in every 23.

Ibuproften, paracetomol and codeine all together don’t make the slightest difference. Naproxen does nothing.

Have just taken my first dose of mefenamic acid prescribed today but I’m not expecting much.

When it’s bad like tonight it’s my whole abdomen that hurts. I can’t urinate or eat or cough without pain. I feel sick now and probably won’t keep the meds down. I’ve got pins and needles/shKes from the nausea waves.

i feel like I’m dying for these 4 days. I have responsibilities I can’t just drop. Tomorrow I have to visit a school (though I won’t be able to if it’s like this in the AM. Nothing at all takes the edge off.

i think I might have endo too - the pain seems to diffuse for it to just be a fibroid.

This all started after I removed my coil in June (massive mistake) and when I have the op to remove the fibroid they will also refit a new one.

But can anyone help me in the meantime? If you have severe Endo pain or anything gynae, is there any painkiller at all that works?

I can’t go on like this. It’s awful. My husband works shifts and I’m often alone with the children and it’s not safe

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Saltnchilli · 23/09/2026 00:16

Yes Diclofenic supposorities. They really helped my pain. Ask your GP tomorrow. Hope you get some relief x

WhatNextImScared · 23/09/2026 00:34

JayJayj · 23/09/2026 00:13

I’ve not had fibroids but I have/had endometriosis. Unfortunately no pain relief ever helped. I had the endometriosis removed on a diagnostic laparoscopy, when they found it. It’s been about 7 years and the pain is just starting to creep back sometimes.

My sister used to use a tens machine for her pain. That could possibly help.

I’m beginning to wonder if I have both. Everythitn seems to have been put down to the fibroid but it feels like my symptoms are too widespread and severe for that to be the only answer to what’s going on. Im going to raise it with my gynae when I see him soon.

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WhatNextImScared · 23/09/2026 00:34

Saltnchilli · 23/09/2026 00:16

Yes Diclofenic supposorities. They really helped my pain. Ask your GP tomorrow. Hope you get some relief x

Thank you!

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BreezyClouds · 23/09/2026 00:47

Are you on hrt? My fibroid pain got much worse with it, I've had to come off.

The coil is progesterone isn't it? Any chance gp will prescribe progesterone?

I find the soluble co-codamol much more effective than the tablets. I sldo got stronger ones prescribed when I had an accident and kept them to use for period pain.

Im so sorry you're struggling, it's awful and I find it hard to believe there's no decent relief.

WhatNextImScared · 23/09/2026 00:51

BreezyClouds · 23/09/2026 00:47

Are you on hrt? My fibroid pain got much worse with it, I've had to come off.

The coil is progesterone isn't it? Any chance gp will prescribe progesterone?

I find the soluble co-codamol much more effective than the tablets. I sldo got stronger ones prescribed when I had an accident and kept them to use for period pain.

Im so sorry you're struggling, it's awful and I find it hard to believe there's no decent relief.

No not yet, no HRT. Yes the coil was progesterone based.

I came off my coil as I was bleeding all the time, then the monthly pain hit like a truck so got it investigated and the new fibroid was found.

It’s going to be removed and a new progesterone coil inserted. I hope that works but I’m anxious it won’t make any difference becuse the last time I had a fibroid op my only real symptom was flooding - I didn’t suffer any pain like this at all! It’s all come from nowhere since I had it removed.

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LivingwithHopenowandforever · 23/09/2026 00:53

Maybe ask to try Oxynorm on a slow release or you can now get medical cannabis with thc. I take this as a gummy. Releaf is the company that prescribed mine.

WhatNextImScared · 23/09/2026 01:10

I did wonder about medical cannabis at the whole area is so tight. I just want this stupid flare over.

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WhatNextImScared · 23/09/2026 01:10

I can’t find a single position that’s comfortable to rest in. I’m so miserable tonight.

thanks everyone for posting - it helps to feel less alone

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DreamieWhat · 23/09/2026 01:27

Can you not go on the pill whilst you are waiting to stop your periods?

WhatNextImScared · 23/09/2026 02:17

DreamieWhat · 23/09/2026 01:27

Can you not go on the pill whilst you are waiting to stop your periods?

Apparently not. The gynae did explain this, but I can’t remember the reason that it wouldn’t help.

One option is a pill that will put me in mini menopause. Waiting to hear on that.

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zebrazoop · 23/09/2026 02:24

Saltnchilli · 23/09/2026 00:16

Yes Diclofenic supposorities. They really helped my pain. Ask your GP tomorrow. Hope you get some relief x

agreed . Ask for some codeine/tramadol too . You don’t have to be in this much pain

whippersnapper55 · 23/09/2026 05:21

I have a family member with endometriosis and she's been prescribed tramadol for the pain. Doesn't agree with everyone but it's very effective pain relief.

WhatNextImScared · 23/09/2026 07:34

I’ve booked another call with my GP today to discuss some the the options mentioned - I’ll let you know how it goes

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theblame · 23/09/2026 11:47

Tens machine
be you period patches
plug in heating pad
morphine and dihydrocodeine
Buscopan

Marmaladelover · 23/09/2026 12:09

When I was about 23 I was diagnosed with endometriosis. I am now 60 . The locum GP I saw who also happened to be head of gynaecology at the local hospital and was helping out the practice put me on Depovera injection ( like a continuous contraceptive pill) Basically to stop the shrewd of womb settling in other places in my abdomen and swelling each month as if they were still attached. The idea of the drop was to get them to shrink and shrivel. It worked.

At the time I was not even thinking about a baby and when I did 5-6 years later, pregnancy took a while after I came off the depo but it happened.
Later, family finished I went back on the depo because I was beginning to get symptoms again.

a few years later I was taken off the depo and put on the hormonal coil . That continued to work till after menopause.

The result is I have not actually had that many periods I my life. Since I was 23 only around the time I wanted to get pregnant.

After the menopause I did have a hysterectomy mainly due to a large fibroid.

I see so many posts on here about undo and often wonder why the treatment I was offered and used for so many years isn’t offered today . What am I missing?

Edut for a few years ( maybe 7-8 ?) I was on a hormonal implant which was injected into my arm . Forgot that I’ve but all basically did the same thing .

TheSoapyFrog · 23/09/2026 12:56

I have adenomyosis and fibroids and am in a similar boat right now. I started getting cramps yesterday, and I woke up around 3am in agony and couldn't get back to sleep. The painkillers I have don't really touch it anymore. I'm a bit limited as to what I can take as my son is severely disabled so I can't have anything that would make me unable to care for him.
Out of desperation I tried a heat pad and had a bath, but it was futile really.
The flooding started this morning so I get to enjoy that as well. I feel so wiped out.

At this stage the only thing that will help is a hysterectomy. I had the opportunity to have one a couple of years ago last minute, but due to caring for my son and not being able to get a care package in place, I couldn't take it. I need to lose weight so I can have keyhole surgery to reduce recovery time.

I've been through all the contraceptives available and none of them help anymore. I've tried mefanemic acid and tranexamic acid, but they don't do anything anymore. I've had the mirena coil 3 times, but my body seems to reject it and it falls out after a couple of months.

I look about 6 months pregnant where my uterus is so enormous, and it's squashing my bowels so I need to poo all the time. And I feel sick.

It's fucking miserable OP and I strongly suggest you get a gynae appointment to look for endometriosis/adenomyosis (the latter would be my guess based on what you've said). Hope you find some relief.

SmallDFartyCarNRG · 23/09/2026 13:05

I had fibroids discovered last year (3) and was told they are very common in 40's (as if that somehow means we just leave them to continue causing back pain and bloating agony). I have never been given the option to have any surgery and look like I am pregnant (literally by someone manning a water flume as they thought I was pg and not allowed on!).

I have recently been on amitriptyline to try to rid myself of migraines that immobilise me for days of every month, which did help my aching fingers (suspect beginnings of RA) but was told is also good for endo pains. It might be worth asking to try it? I would say I am sensitive to adrenaline (dd is autistic so I guess we are both ND, which makes this quite common) and it made me very twitchy and frantic as well as constantly mildly angry...so I switched back a couple of weeks ago. One of the first things I noticed was twinging again where I assume some of the fibroids are. It didn't stop the bloating but worked on the fibro pain.

Ironfistbump · 23/09/2026 13:27

stage 4 endo, with bilateral endometriomas, extensive fibrosis, pelvic and bowel adhesions plus hydrosalpinx. i used diihydrocodeine after a hospital stay, but the only thing that really worked was going into chemical menopause with 3 monthly injections. I’m awaiting a hysterectomy but the waiting list is years long but until then i’m on this and never coming off it.

WhatNextImScared · 23/09/2026 14:21

TheSoapyFrog · 23/09/2026 12:56

I have adenomyosis and fibroids and am in a similar boat right now. I started getting cramps yesterday, and I woke up around 3am in agony and couldn't get back to sleep. The painkillers I have don't really touch it anymore. I'm a bit limited as to what I can take as my son is severely disabled so I can't have anything that would make me unable to care for him.
Out of desperation I tried a heat pad and had a bath, but it was futile really.
The flooding started this morning so I get to enjoy that as well. I feel so wiped out.

At this stage the only thing that will help is a hysterectomy. I had the opportunity to have one a couple of years ago last minute, but due to caring for my son and not being able to get a care package in place, I couldn't take it. I need to lose weight so I can have keyhole surgery to reduce recovery time.

I've been through all the contraceptives available and none of them help anymore. I've tried mefanemic acid and tranexamic acid, but they don't do anything anymore. I've had the mirena coil 3 times, but my body seems to reject it and it falls out after a couple of months.

I look about 6 months pregnant where my uterus is so enormous, and it's squashing my bowels so I need to poo all the time. And I feel sick.

It's fucking miserable OP and I strongly suggest you get a gynae appointment to look for endometriosis/adenomyosis (the latter would be my guess based on what you've said). Hope you find some relief.

You poor thing - it’s unbearable isn’t it.

my gynae said we try fibroid removal And coil this time but if it doesn’t work it’s straight to hysterectomy. But like you even thinking about that seems impossible. I have 2 young kids and lack the wider support to actually get the recovery time i’s need to heal.

But i can’t keep going on like this. Nothing helps. I can’t function. I don’t eat for days a month as the nausea and stomach is so much

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WhatNextImScared · 23/09/2026 14:23

theblame · 23/09/2026 11:47

Tens machine
be you period patches
plug in heating pad
morphine and dihydrocodeine
Buscopan

So I have had morphine and dihydrocodeine refused by my GP today.

i need to push for another gynae appt pre surgery as the GP clearly isn’t bothered

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Saltnchilli · 23/09/2026 14:38

WhatNextImScared · 23/09/2026 14:23

So I have had morphine and dihydrocodeine refused by my GP today.

i need to push for another gynae appt pre surgery as the GP clearly isn’t bothered

What did the GP offer you instead?

WaitingForMojo · 23/09/2026 14:45

notwhingingjuststatingfacts · 22/09/2026 23:28

Not stronger than naproxen though! Diclofenac isn’t as effective as naproxen which the op has already said doesn’t help

Diclofenac is stronger than naproxen. They are different, but broadly speaking, diclofenac is more potent.

Not sure where you’re getting your information from.

MiddleAgedDread · 23/09/2026 14:49

i hope you got some rest last night! Honestly, you're 44 and this is a recurring issue. Even without the pain you've had excessive flooding and your fibroids grew back. I would seriously raise the hysterectomy question before your next surgery or in a couple of years time you could be back in this position and at the bottom of a waiting list again.

theblame · 23/09/2026 15:25

WhatNextImScared · 23/09/2026 14:23

So I have had morphine and dihydrocodeine refused by my GP today.

i need to push for another gynae appt pre surgery as the GP clearly isn’t bothered

That’s ridiculous. I had to really push for morphine
if it is unbearable, go to a&e and explain you aren’t coping with the pain

WhatNextImScared · 23/09/2026 17:19

MiddleAgedDread · 23/09/2026 14:49

i hope you got some rest last night! Honestly, you're 44 and this is a recurring issue. Even without the pain you've had excessive flooding and your fibroids grew back. I would seriously raise the hysterectomy question before your next surgery or in a couple of years time you could be back in this position and at the bottom of a waiting list again.

It’s already been discussed. The plan is try fibroid section and coil to see if it settles, hysterectomy to be considered if it doesn’t seem any better 3 months later. The problem with hysterectomy is that I have 2 primary age kids, a shift working husband and very little support. You’re suppose to have 8 weeks rest after. That just isn’t going to happen. I’m really scared to have major surgery like that without the support I need to actually heal.

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