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AIBU to send a gift to the TA?

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Sendagift · 22/09/2026 18:45

My child is 4 and just started school. Today he had an accident and cut his head. The school called me and I arrived to find the most patient TA holding my child’s head carefully applying pressure but talking to him about his interests and things he’d been playing with. He’s only been at school for 3 weeks but the TA clearly knew him, recognised immediately that he wasn’t himself with the injury and found ways to keep him alert and chatting until I arrived. The TA also had the presence of mind to collect everything used to stem the bleeding so that the hospital could assess the volume of blood lost.
I’m just wondering whether a gift to the TA would be appropriate in these circumstances or if they were just doing their job and it would look odd!

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whatsit84 · 23/09/2026 08:58

That’s so lovely, definitely send a card and maybe a letter to the head?

OliviaBonas · 22/09/2026 21:46

SpottyPyjama · 22/09/2026 19:03

She will appreciate a card very much, and an email to the headteacher even more. Save the presents for Christmas and end of year.

Definitely this! A small bunch of flowers or box of chocs would be welcome too. TAs are so poorly paid. Any thanks or recognition will make such a difference to them. I’m glad your son is ok.

Glenthebattleostrich · 22/09/2026 21:41

What a lovely thought. One of my most treasured things is a thankyou card and little hand made crochet turtle a child made after i looked after them after an accident.

FabulousFreshias · 22/09/2026 21:39

Definitely a card, email to head and I’m sure some flowers or chocolate would be appreciated. They are paid peanuts and she sounds very caring . I hope your son is ok

stichguru · 22/09/2026 21:23

As a TA, I would appreciate a card very much, especially one made by your son. A gift, while thoughtful, might be a bit much because I would, after all, have been doing my job, even if I did it in a very caring way.

Sendagift · 22/09/2026 21:20

Perfect thank you. I’ll send an email to the head and I will make a card with my son.

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SpottyPyjama · 22/09/2026 19:03

She will appreciate a card very much, and an email to the headteacher even more. Save the presents for Christmas and end of year.

fumingrightnow1 · 22/09/2026 19:00

I think a handmade thankyou card from your son would be lovely

Alittlefrustrated · 22/09/2026 18:57

A card made by DS would likely be most appreciated. I used to work with families and always kept the pictures they drew for me.
An email to the HT, singing her praises, would be nice too.

hhheeyyyy · 22/09/2026 18:53

Send in a small box of chocolate or some flowers and a thank you card. She’ll appreciate it.

Wallywobbles · 22/09/2026 18:47

Sure give a gift. She did a great job and she’s paid peanuts.

Batties · 22/09/2026 18:46

A card would be nice, a gift is a bit much.