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Hate having big feet

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PoppiCan · 22/09/2026 11:32

Anyone else? I have size 8 feet and I really hate it! They are huge and sometimes I have to get a 9 if the shoes are tight, I’ve always hated having such big feet as a woman, im not tall either so it’s not even in proportion, even my daughter has got my big feet as shes 9 with size 5 woman’s feet, I dread to think what size she will end up as, gone are all the pretty young girls shoes as most dont go up as big so shes 9 having to wear adult shoes, finding nice school shoes is hard. AIBU to hate having big feet!

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IamSmarticus · 22/09/2026 11:34

I'm the same - mine are wide as well, just to make it more awkward. There are not many size 9 EEE shoes to choose from!

FriendlyMedusa · 22/09/2026 11:38

The world is moving on. I find it incredibly easy to find nice shoes in an 8/9 these days compared to when I was a teenager!

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PoppiCan · 22/09/2026 11:40

FriendlyMedusa · 22/09/2026 11:38

The world is moving on. I find it incredibly easy to find nice shoes in an 8/9 these days compared to when I was a teenager!

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Didnt say it wasnt, I was referring to not being able to buy children’s shoes for my 9 year old anymore. I just hate how big my feet are and being an 8 as a woman feeld embarrassing especially when you are short.

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CoastalCalm · 22/09/2026 11:40

9 wide for me but I’m 5’10
i basically live in Birkenstocks or ballet style pumps

WhoPaintedMyRosesRed · 22/09/2026 11:44

PoppiCan · 22/09/2026 11:32

Anyone else? I have size 8 feet and I really hate it! They are huge and sometimes I have to get a 9 if the shoes are tight, I’ve always hated having such big feet as a woman, im not tall either so it’s not even in proportion, even my daughter has got my big feet as shes 9 with size 5 woman’s feet, I dread to think what size she will end up as, gone are all the pretty young girls shoes as most dont go up as big so shes 9 having to wear adult shoes, finding nice school shoes is hard. AIBU to hate having big feet!

Schuh kids go up to size 5.

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies · 22/09/2026 11:44

I have big feet. I’m 5’5’’, and my feet are 41, which now seems to be considered an 8 (‘twas a 7 - 7.5 when I was younger). My feet were this size when I was 11, so your DD isn’t necessarily doomed to have huge feet.

It’s a bit irritating - made worse by the fact that my feet are very wide.

What I find confusing is that when I was a teenager, back in the late 80s, it was really hard to find women’s shoes in my size - shops often only stocked to 40, and 41s had to be ordered in. But by the time I was in my twenties there were loads of 41s and 42s - I could even pick up my shoes in the sales. Now it seems that most shops stop at 40 again.

However, today lots of people only wear trainers/casual shoes, meaning that men’s shoes are a realistic option. It’s only tricky for going out shoes, or smart shoes.

Ratherhaveacupofteaandabiscuit · 22/09/2026 11:46

I have size 8 feet and I like it. I think it makes me more stable!
Plus I am a hobbit fan although mine aren’t hairy.

FriendlyMedusa · 22/09/2026 11:47

PoppiCan · 22/09/2026 11:40

Didnt say it wasnt, I was referring to not being able to buy children’s shoes for my 9 year old anymore. I just hate how big my feet are and being an 8 as a woman feeld embarrassing especially when you are short.

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And I didn't say you said it wasn't, I just stated my opinion.

I'm sorry you hate your feet, but I do hope you won't let your daughter pick up on that and feel insecure as well. I have plenty of shorter friends with the same size feet as me and I honestly can't say anybody would notice.

imnottoofussed · 22/09/2026 11:51

I’m a size 8. I used to hate it but now I’m not bothered. I’m 5’9 so don’t think it’s that noticeable. The only problem is my feet are fairly slim so I struggle in the sense that I need the length but my feet sometimes feel like they are flopping about in the shoe. So I do struggle to find shoes that fit properly.

and yes what’s with the 8 now being a 41. An eight is definitely a 42! So that’s also an issue when you order size 8 from two different places and get a 41 or a 42.

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PoppiCan · 22/09/2026 11:52

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies · 22/09/2026 11:44

I have big feet. I’m 5’5’’, and my feet are 41, which now seems to be considered an 8 (‘twas a 7 - 7.5 when I was younger). My feet were this size when I was 11, so your DD isn’t necessarily doomed to have huge feet.

It’s a bit irritating - made worse by the fact that my feet are very wide.

What I find confusing is that when I was a teenager, back in the late 80s, it was really hard to find women’s shoes in my size - shops often only stocked to 40, and 41s had to be ordered in. But by the time I was in my twenties there were loads of 41s and 42s - I could even pick up my shoes in the sales. Now it seems that most shops stop at 40 again.

However, today lots of people only wear trainers/casual shoes, meaning that men’s shoes are a realistic option. It’s only tricky for going out shoes, or smart shoes.

I don’t like trainers personally

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PoppiCan · 22/09/2026 11:53

FriendlyMedusa · 22/09/2026 11:47

And I didn't say you said it wasn't, I just stated my opinion.

I'm sorry you hate your feet, but I do hope you won't let your daughter pick up on that and feel insecure as well. I have plenty of shorter friends with the same size feet as me and I honestly can't say anybody would notice.

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Everyone is insecure about something

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PoppiCan · 22/09/2026 11:54

WhoPaintedMyRosesRed · 22/09/2026 11:44

Schuh kids go up to size 5.

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Thats what I mean though you are limited with choice now, or the more expensive options.

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RosesAndHellebores · 22/09/2026 11:56

@PoppiCan I have the reverse being 5'6" and a 4.5/5. I've always wanted bigger feet on the basis they mighr make my legs look thinner.

Pinkflamingo10 · 22/09/2026 12:00

Sketchers kids go up to a size uk6

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PoppiCan · 22/09/2026 12:00

RosesAndHellebores · 22/09/2026 11:56

@PoppiCan I have the reverse being 5'6" and a 4.5/5. I've always wanted bigger feet on the basis they mighr make my legs look thinner.

Doesn’t work sadly just makes you look like a
clown

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PoppiCan · 22/09/2026 12:01

Pinkflamingo10 · 22/09/2026 12:00

Sketchers kids go up to a size uk6

She wants pretty shoes not trainers 😩

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PrincessASDaisy · 22/09/2026 12:03

Assuming this isn’t a fetish post 😂 try having size 10! I just wear unisex trainers

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PoppiCan · 22/09/2026 12:05

But thats ok if you like trainers, im not a fan of trainers and DD is the only girl wearing trainers at school all the girls have nice girly shoes, trainers dont look good with dresses or skirts! (And no not a fetish post 😂😬)

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WhoPaintedMyRosesRed · 22/09/2026 12:06

PoppiCan · 22/09/2026 11:54

Thats what I mean though you are limited with choice now, or the more expensive options.

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I don’t think you are limited. Sports direct go up to size 5 for kids. And many, many others.

Blarn · 22/09/2026 12:06

I'm 5'6 with size 8 feet and I don't look like a clown! They just look like normal feet.

Have a look at asos, loads of lovely shoes and hundreds when you filter for 8/9.

WhoPaintedMyRosesRed · 22/09/2026 12:06

PoppiCan · 22/09/2026 12:05

But thats ok if you like trainers, im not a fan of trainers and DD is the only girl wearing trainers at school all the girls have nice girly shoes, trainers dont look good with dresses or skirts! (And no not a fetish post 😂😬)

Wearing trainers with dresses and skirts is all the fashion for kids at the moment.

Ratherhaveacupofteaandabiscuit · 22/09/2026 12:09

RosesAndHellebores · 22/09/2026 11:56

@PoppiCan I have the reverse being 5'6" and a 4.5/5. I've always wanted bigger feet on the basis they mighr make my legs look thinner.

Yes, I think my big feet make my ankles look smaller.

Although of course what would it matter if I had chunky ankles really as long as they work.

WhoPaintedMyRosesRed · 22/09/2026 12:11

Next sell many different brands on their site, lovely girlie shoes in size 5.

sandwalk · 22/09/2026 12:11

I'm size 41, though I am 5'10" so I would look silly anyway with smaller feet and pretty much all shoes go up to 8/42 and some mainstream places like Next and ASOS go up to 9 now so you are within the normal range for women's footwear

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PoppiCan · 22/09/2026 12:18

WhoPaintedMyRosesRed · 22/09/2026 12:06

Wearing trainers with dresses and skirts is all the fashion for kids at the moment.

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Thats nice but she doesn’t want to??

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