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Hate having big feet

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PoppiCan · 22/09/2026 11:32

Anyone else? I have size 8 feet and I really hate it! They are huge and sometimes I have to get a 9 if the shoes are tight, I’ve always hated having such big feet as a woman, im not tall either so it’s not even in proportion, even my daughter has got my big feet as shes 9 with size 5 woman’s feet, I dread to think what size she will end up as, gone are all the pretty young girls shoes as most dont go up as big so shes 9 having to wear adult shoes, finding nice school shoes is hard. AIBU to hate having big feet!

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PoppiCan · 22/09/2026 11:53

FriendlyMedusa · 22/09/2026 11:47

And I didn't say you said it wasn't, I just stated my opinion.

I'm sorry you hate your feet, but I do hope you won't let your daughter pick up on that and feel insecure as well. I have plenty of shorter friends with the same size feet as me and I honestly can't say anybody would notice.

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Everyone is insecure about something

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PoppiCan · 22/09/2026 11:52

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies · 22/09/2026 11:44

I have big feet. I’m 5’5’’, and my feet are 41, which now seems to be considered an 8 (‘twas a 7 - 7.5 when I was younger). My feet were this size when I was 11, so your DD isn’t necessarily doomed to have huge feet.

It’s a bit irritating - made worse by the fact that my feet are very wide.

What I find confusing is that when I was a teenager, back in the late 80s, it was really hard to find women’s shoes in my size - shops often only stocked to 40, and 41s had to be ordered in. But by the time I was in my twenties there were loads of 41s and 42s - I could even pick up my shoes in the sales. Now it seems that most shops stop at 40 again.

However, today lots of people only wear trainers/casual shoes, meaning that men’s shoes are a realistic option. It’s only tricky for going out shoes, or smart shoes.

I don’t like trainers personally

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imnottoofussed · 22/09/2026 11:51

I’m a size 8. I used to hate it but now I’m not bothered. I’m 5’9 so don’t think it’s that noticeable. The only problem is my feet are fairly slim so I struggle in the sense that I need the length but my feet sometimes feel like they are flopping about in the shoe. So I do struggle to find shoes that fit properly.

and yes what’s with the 8 now being a 41. An eight is definitely a 42! So that’s also an issue when you order size 8 from two different places and get a 41 or a 42.

FriendlyMedusa · 22/09/2026 11:47

PoppiCan · 22/09/2026 11:40

Didnt say it wasnt, I was referring to not being able to buy children’s shoes for my 9 year old anymore. I just hate how big my feet are and being an 8 as a woman feeld embarrassing especially when you are short.

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And I didn't say you said it wasn't, I just stated my opinion.

I'm sorry you hate your feet, but I do hope you won't let your daughter pick up on that and feel insecure as well. I have plenty of shorter friends with the same size feet as me and I honestly can't say anybody would notice.

Ratherhaveacupofteaandabiscuit · 22/09/2026 11:46

I have size 8 feet and I like it. I think it makes me more stable!
Plus I am a hobbit fan although mine aren’t hairy.

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies · 22/09/2026 11:44

I have big feet. I’m 5’5’’, and my feet are 41, which now seems to be considered an 8 (‘twas a 7 - 7.5 when I was younger). My feet were this size when I was 11, so your DD isn’t necessarily doomed to have huge feet.

It’s a bit irritating - made worse by the fact that my feet are very wide.

What I find confusing is that when I was a teenager, back in the late 80s, it was really hard to find women’s shoes in my size - shops often only stocked to 40, and 41s had to be ordered in. But by the time I was in my twenties there were loads of 41s and 42s - I could even pick up my shoes in the sales. Now it seems that most shops stop at 40 again.

However, today lots of people only wear trainers/casual shoes, meaning that men’s shoes are a realistic option. It’s only tricky for going out shoes, or smart shoes.

WhoPaintedMyRosesRed · 22/09/2026 11:44

PoppiCan · 22/09/2026 11:32

Anyone else? I have size 8 feet and I really hate it! They are huge and sometimes I have to get a 9 if the shoes are tight, I’ve always hated having such big feet as a woman, im not tall either so it’s not even in proportion, even my daughter has got my big feet as shes 9 with size 5 woman’s feet, I dread to think what size she will end up as, gone are all the pretty young girls shoes as most dont go up as big so shes 9 having to wear adult shoes, finding nice school shoes is hard. AIBU to hate having big feet!

Schuh kids go up to size 5.

CoastalCalm · 22/09/2026 11:40

9 wide for me but I’m 5’10
i basically live in Birkenstocks or ballet style pumps

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PoppiCan · 22/09/2026 11:40

FriendlyMedusa · 22/09/2026 11:38

The world is moving on. I find it incredibly easy to find nice shoes in an 8/9 these days compared to when I was a teenager!

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Didnt say it wasnt, I was referring to not being able to buy children’s shoes for my 9 year old anymore. I just hate how big my feet are and being an 8 as a woman feeld embarrassing especially when you are short.

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FriendlyMedusa · 22/09/2026 11:38

The world is moving on. I find it incredibly easy to find nice shoes in an 8/9 these days compared to when I was a teenager!

IamSmarticus · 22/09/2026 11:34

I'm the same - mine are wide as well, just to make it more awkward. There are not many size 9 EEE shoes to choose from!