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Would this behaviour be enough to make you move house?

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LondonLass2026 · 22/09/2026 08:46

So we live in a new build estate. It is great here, very quiet. Houses for sale are sold within weeks. (I follow the estate agent listings)

.. Quiet, apart from my little row. We are mid-terrace. The guy on one side is rarely there. But the woman on the other side of us. Oh boy.

She lives with her teenage daughter and a dog which she is proud to have "never walked".

She doesn't work, is an alcoholic and former drug abuser. (she had told us) That would be her business BUT she is REALLY loud, and abusive when she drinks, which is nightly.

She has filled her house with Sonos speakers (neighbours to her other side said they helped her install them). So most nights she is screaming Taylor Swift songs and the music is like a nightclub. Deep, booming and bassy.

I WFH and when I'm on a call and she wakes up (so this is around 2pm daily) whoever I am talking to will say "woah, what was that?" as her music goes on as soon as she wakes.

The loudness is the worst thing but there's other stuff. When she is drunk she tends to text my partner absolute shit. She slags me off (no idea why, I'm always pleasant to her) and makes fun of us.

She is also spiteful and enjoys annoying people. She has it in her head that we "hate" her so she tries to "get to" us. She has literally told us this. "you two are so easy to wind up!" when we show zero reaction.

This morning, 7am, she and her daughter started screaming. Yep, just quite literally, screamed. Followed by wild laughing. Then more screaming. Then their dog started barking. I am SO glad I was already up.

It's been 5 years of this and I don't want to report it because, rightly or wrongly, we'd need to declare it and no one would ever buy this house.

As I type, I sit here with the windows all shut because of the constant noise, making summers here fun. Yes she is one of those "sits out on the decking, music blaring" unapologetic types.

The constant noise is bad enough, but the paranoia she displays is relatively new. Thinking we hate her so she's going to "get revenge". It's a little scary.

Would this be enough to make other people move house?

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GrillaMilla · 22/09/2026 08:59

Yes that's bad enough to warrant a move, it would make me ill.

Get an estate agent round asap and get moving. Maybe no board outside so she doesn't know.

In the meantime, I would block her number.

LondonLass2026 · 22/09/2026 08:58

LuckyHazelFox · 22/09/2026 08:57

Wonder how she afforded the house 🤔

I know! She said "inheritance from my mother".

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LuckyHazelFox · 22/09/2026 08:57

Wonder how she afforded the house 🤔

LondonLass2026 · 22/09/2026 08:57

LoafofSellotape · 22/09/2026 08:49

Haven't you contacted environmental health? I'd be making recordings and keeping a noise diary.

We did start a diary sent to us by the council but I never sent it back as that's when it'd need to be declared when we sell. Form TA6 I think it is.

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LondonLass2026 · 22/09/2026 08:56

Sickoffamilydrama · 22/09/2026 08:53

The thing is she'd probably do it while you are selling the house and put off potential buyers.

We had terrible neighbours think screaming fights, throwing eggs at our house, constant weed smoking.

We reported them every time and eventually they got an ASBO they then settled down as they were threatened with eviction.

We sold up having not had any problems from them for a good 9-12 months then they started it again with the new owners of our old house and eventually got evicted.

Edited

This is what worries us. She'd definitely enjoy putting off prospective buyers (we want to sell in the next few months). I guess we'd have to try and limit viewings to the AM when she's asleep.

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Sickoffamilydrama · 22/09/2026 08:53

The thing is she'd probably do it while you are selling the house and put off potential buyers.

We had terrible neighbours think screaming fights, throwing eggs at our house, constant weed smoking.

We reported them every time and eventually they got an ASBO they then settled down as they were threatened with eviction.

We sold up having not had any problems from them for a good 9-12 months then they started it again with the new owners of our old house and eventually got evicted.

LoafofSellotape · 22/09/2026 08:49

Haven't you contacted environmental health? I'd be making recordings and keeping a noise diary.

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