AIBU to feel life is unbearably unfair after my mum's diagnosis?

Reading between the lines I see someone who is strong and resilient. You have been through so much. More than most people.

I've always viewed my life as a boxing match. In my teens and twenties sometimes it was like I had been knocked down and struggled to beat the count. In my 30s I took some good shots but just about managed to stay up...now I think I am just about ahead on points in my late 50s.

Its dreadful news to receive and I can understand why you feel like you do. I could give you the " make the most of time with your mum" type shite...but you know all that. I think you need to look at how you survived your father's actions, how you fought back through even more shit. Step by step, hour by hour you will get through this...but I agree its completely shit and depressing when you see people skate through life without a bump in the road (and if they meet an ant Hill they scream it from the rooftops).

I have no other answers other than you've coped before and you will again
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WHY THE FUCK IS IT ALWAYS ME???

I rather think it's your mother, not you in this situation. MND is a really nasty disease. And her apparent distanciation from parenting was probably because she was married to an abusive alcoholic. Withdrawal and retreat was probably her way of coping. I imagine that demonstrating love for you was punished by your father.

You'll survive. I hope you thrive. You have climbed mountains already - you'll go on. Maybe see this as a way to think through what you really want from life. It's short - make the most of it!

Good luck

And I hope your mother can have the palliative care and pain relief she will need. And courage, in buckets. She'll need that as well.

I’m so sorry. My dad died of MND earlier in the year, his diagnosis was devastating. There’s not much else to say really, it is so so unfair.

You and I have a very similar history minus the accident and my mum is, luckily, fine although she did have a bound of long illness and was "preparing to die" and giving her worldly possessions away a few years back. But I digress.
You made a life for yourself despite the shit hand you've been dealt. And yes, MND is a very cruel disease and I am sorry you don't have long left with your mum. But all you can do is to make the most of it. You will get through this as you got through everything else in your life. You will grieve when the time comes but you will also continue moving forward.
Right now, do what you need to do. You may wish to throw yourself into work or take some time out. There isn't the right answer - do what feels right.

I’m so sorry.

You are not alone. My own life history is like a awful over egged melodrama and I never feel I can list all the terrible things because nobody would believe so many things can happen to one person but they certainly have.

I sometimes feel I must have got other people’s quota of crap and it appears you have too.

MND is beyond words and makes me glad to have my stage 4 cancer instead.

There is no fairness in life at all.

There are some people who get the shit end of everything. And some of them give up and fill their lives with self pity.

you have proven you are better and stronger than that and you have built a good relationship with your mother before it was too late. It’s shit but your actions have made it better than it could have been - you have done well with the hand you have been dealt.

I don’t know why it seems to work that way - some have all the good luck and some all the bad luck

yes I think you are right - this is something that is huge and you will take time to come to terms with it

You have been dealt a really shit hand in life but got all that you’ve come out and done really well for yourself , your mums diagnosis is shocking and sad but you have resilience and will get through it . I wish you well .