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AIBU to ask neighbours not to grow vines on our fence?

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Fencegate · 21/09/2026 14:29

It’s a neighbour/fence gate one!!!

I seriously hate to be this person but, possible fence issue with neighbour.

Going to start off by saying, lovely neighbours. They have been there for around 12 months. They are renting their house, we own ours. They are an African family so there is a bit of a language barrier between us, but we have a chat with them when we see them.

We have a walled garden with a fence separating us. The fence, if you are going by the left side ownership rule, is our fence. So hence yes, if it needed replacing we would be the ones to pay for it. For complete info here, we sort of know the owners but they were a complete nightmare and we were glad to see them rent their house out. We do know the agency it is rented through.

It is a feather edge fence. About ten years old and we’ve recently restained and protected it on our side. The owners of the house also used to paint the fence every couple of years to maintain it. In fact pretty chuffed with it as it looked utterly naff before on our side and we’d considered replacing, but honestly we just have stretched funds at the moment - wedding to pay for so a fence is the last thing I’ll be paying for!! It’s just an ok fence - newish housing estate so literally standard quality.

For a while their garden was quite unkempt so I’m really glad to see they have put work into it. Neighbour has however planted grape vines along the fence border on their side. Initially they were on canes, but it now appears they have tucked them behind the fence supports with the intention of literally growing them onto the fence. They are also growing them along the railings of their decking area - which obviously literally isn’t my problem. And my god, they aren’t half growing quickly. We’ve gone from little weedy things to quite thick vines in a couple of months. I’m conscious if they do fruit, they are going to be pretty heavy.

Ive said to DP they need to add trellis to keep them off the actual fence so it can get air to it and so they are not supported by only the fence - I’ve also said im fairly sure they can’t do that in a rented house with risk of damage to fence - I rented a house years ago and had to get clearance from the owner to stain the fence in even a natural wood colour, purely to protect it as I wasn’t sure how long I’d be there. DP says I’m being dramatic but that if it causes damage we will ask them to replace. I can’t see a renter replacing our fence if I’m being honest and I’d prefer to not have this situation to deal with. It’s a bloody long fence too so costly to replace - trust me - we got quotes.

I’ve also said with them growing vines along it, they are therefore very unlikely to paint or maintain their side of it, which I would at least hope they would do.

On a further note, I cannot confirm or deny they have permission from agency. I’m going to assume they haven’t for now. I have not called the agency - frankly because I didn’t want to get them into trouble with them otherwise.

So here we go - would you speak to neighbour? As said, we really like them, but we feel awful literally asking them to remove their plants. And am I being dramatic and is the fence going to be ok after all?

Side note here - is this old age now to get worried about your fence?! 🤣

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steppemum · 21/09/2026 15:01

agree with some pp
The left hand side rule is nonsense. It might say on your deeds, it might not. It si hard to determine who a fence belongs to. It is also possible that it is shared ownership.
The law says that IF (and please note the if) it is your fence, you are 100% responsible for the staining and painting or otherwise of BOTH sides of the fence. The neighbour (whether renting or owned) is not allowed to fix or grow anything on the fence.
The trouble is that 80% of people do not take a blind bit of notice of this, and attach things and paint things as nobody cares.

As to the vine. It is September. As soon as the first frost hits it will die. Grape, clematis, rose they will all die back in winter. Even wisteria will stop growing and lose its leaves (although the stems remain solid). So I am not sure that this vine is going to continue to be a problem. Even if it doesn't die back, the fence will take a lot of weight of a plant without too much problem. The biggest problem is if the shoots push through between the fence panels and break up the fence. But they are likely to do that even if it is grown on a trellis next to the fence.

I would have a word, ask them to put in some supports for the weight, and leave it.

Pootles34 · 21/09/2026 14:55

But if it's owned by the landlord their vine growing is none of your business. I'd check the deeds first.

Fencegate · 21/09/2026 14:50

ColdAsAWitches · 21/09/2026 14:49

Most people aren't aware of the law

What law? The OP is only assuming she owns the fence because it's on the left. That's not the law. Who owns the fence will be on the house deeds. So there's no guarantee that it's the OP's fence at all!

Regardless of if it’s mine or owned by the house next door - it’s definitely not owned by the people who are renting the house

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ColdAsAWitches · 21/09/2026 14:49

user1471450426 · 21/09/2026 14:45

The neighbours shouldn't be painting or staining your fence at all, regardless of whether it is 'their' side. They are not allowed to attach anything to the fence so growing vines up it is a big no no. Most people aren't aware of the law and think you are being petty. This is not the case. You own the whole fence, both sides, they should not be painting/adding attachments to it whatsoever so yes, go ahead and tell them.

Most people aren't aware of the law

What law? The OP is only assuming she owns the fence because it's on the left. That's not the law. Who owns the fence will be on the house deeds. So there's no guarantee that it's the OP's fence at all!

Fencegate · 21/09/2026 14:47

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 21/09/2026 14:39

Feather boards are made from a wood that doesn’t need staining. It turns a beautiful silver with age.

If your side is bare then there will be no trouble with it drying out.

I think you are worrying unnecessarily.

Staining it is a pain because it leaks through, forcing the opposite side to be done as well.

It’s always been stained since before we moved in. It was bright red cedar when we first moved in - so hence yes we do stain it to protect it. Our side is black, we know it’s not seeped through the other side as we checked and we were pretty careful doing it. It’s red cedar on other side and we know it was done roughly 2 years ago on the other side.

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user1471450426 · 21/09/2026 14:45

The neighbours shouldn't be painting or staining your fence at all, regardless of whether it is 'their' side. They are not allowed to attach anything to the fence so growing vines up it is a big no no. Most people aren't aware of the law and think you are being petty. This is not the case. You own the whole fence, both sides, they should not be painting/adding attachments to it whatsoever so yes, go ahead and tell them.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 21/09/2026 14:39

Feather boards are made from a wood that doesn’t need staining. It turns a beautiful silver with age.

If your side is bare then there will be no trouble with it drying out.

I think you are worrying unnecessarily.

Staining it is a pain because it leaks through, forcing the opposite side to be done as well.

NorthFacingGardener · 21/09/2026 14:33

There is no left side ownership rule sorry OP!

Usually the person who owns the fence will have the “back” of the fence with the supports facing them but it is a convention not a rule. Your deeds may show which boundary is your responsibility to maintain.. but also might not.

Johnogroats · 21/09/2026 14:32

I’ve got a vine (about 10 years old) on my fence and it’s not a problem. The wisteria though does have the potential to wreck it…. I’d chill out a bit.

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