To think it's impossible to work full time and keep a clean/tidy house without a cleaner?

Exactly. Lots of people manage by splitting tasks up like that - Bob might not be able to be home to start dinner for example but he can do the online shop and make sure he’s around to put it away, or if Sue can’t be around for after school activities she can do all the weekend ones instead.

Of course very, very few couples will be able to divide every single chore exactly down the middle but you can make it so that they each do 50% of what needs to be done overall, even if that means Bob does more of X and Sue does more of Y.

Yes exactly @beaglescurleduplikebagels often we are juggling who has what meetings at what time on what day. So I’ll do breakfast and getting the kids ready for nursery/nanny before going to work, pop a wash on, wipe down the sides for example, and he’ll do pickup and dinner for the kids, and hang the wash I put on over the airer. Not exactly the same, but both of us doing the best we can with the time we have that day.

Or we both have to travel for work at times. So while travelling will order a month of kids lunches on the app, order a food shop to be delivered, order any bits and pieces we’ve run out of, new school uniform and presents for any parties coming up. Organise the nanny and dog walker, put upcoming school events and parties in joint calendar etc - basically whatever we can do remotely to be helpful. It’s not perfect but the feeling someone else is being supportive and doing what they can helps