AIBU to want half of the pension after divorce?

True but she will get at least half the marital assets so depending on how the split is made potentially a large % of pension will be transferred

I know loads, including me. We all gave up our careers in order to enable successful careers for our husbands. It's just what it is. DH worked away during the week while the kids were very young, so someone had to do everything else...... Me.

I own half of all our assets, so am in a good place financially.

She won't get half his pension in addition to her own pension.The pensions will be added together and then split 50/50.

I am prepping myself to get another job at 60. And no, they don’t necessarily need experience. Why would you need that for exam invigilation? Viewings agent? Meet and
greet for events? These are jobs college leavers do, even school kids get themselves work. Care work is training provided. Yes, it
is more tiring as you get older hence me looking for part time/casual to bridge the gap to when I can afford to draw on my pension. Plus the OP has transferable skills presumably from volunteer work. Is age prejudice a thing? Yes. But the biggest factor here is the OP and other posters dismissing the possibility of some, any, work, out of hand.
Not looking is definitely a good way to ensure you don’t ever work.

What people are forgetting, is that in the 1950s and 1960s most people didnt own washing machines. So washing was 2hrs of boiling, followed by using a mangle, repeatedly (as the stove was too small to do the whole family at once). It took a day or two a week.

Few owned fridges or freezers or cars. So meal prep meant a daily walk to buy the days food. And then prepare it from complete scratch.

Many grew veg or kept chickens or rabbits to keep food costs lower. Clothes were typically homemade.

So being a "housewife" with grown up kids was hard work and not at all comparable to today.

50% sounds grabby to be honest, it's his and he worked for it. Nothing to stop you getting a job and building a pension, you made the choice.

What people are forgetting, is that in the 1950s and 1960s most people didnt own washing machines. So washing was 2hrs of boiling, followed by using a mangle, repeatedly (as the stove was too small to do the whole family at once). It took a day or two a week.

Few owned fridges or freezers or cars. So meal prep meant a daily walk to buy the days food. And then prepare it from complete scratch.

Many grew veg or kept chickens or rabbits to keep food costs lower. Clothes were typically homemade.

So being a "housewife" with grown up kids was hard work and not at all comparable to today.

There are housewives and there are housewives.

Some just get paid to do their hobbies and naff all. Some do it as a proper job - they cook from scatch, they manage their husband's calendar and know each of his colleagues well enough to say thoughtful things and be a delight at company functions, they clean, they sew costumes for world book day, they organise gifts for relatives, etc.

It would be drastically unfair to treat all housewives the same. Some have coasted. Some have obviously supported their husbands' careers.

They will transfer half the pension to her pension and then she has control of that amount within her own pension.

Have you tried getting a job at the age of 60? The jobs you mention would require relevant experience. If they don't need experience employers would take a young fit person over a 60 year old any day.

See a solicitor. Yes you’re entitled to some of his pension .

Thanks to those being helpful. I don’t know the exact value of the pension. Our house is maybe 800k. London so hard to buy even a one bedroom flat locally with half once you pay stamp duty etc

I'm aware of that. Doesn't change that essentially she has been voluntarily unemployment for many years.

What? Fulfilling expectations of society 30 years ago? As in 1986? We were expected to get careers and work full time. We weren’t expected to be housewives then.

Where’s he supposed to magic the money up from upfront though?

Trying to avoid drip feed. Am sixty. Married 40 years. Kids are 40/38. I’ve never really worked. Husband had corporate career. I have been waiting for him to retire for years but it’s become clear that will never happen. He is rarely at home, constantly doing adventure stuff or pursuing his hobby. I’ve given up waiting and I want a divorce. He’s not fought me on it and clearly we are just done. I’ve moved out into rented and he’s paying my rent and expenses- clearing credit card etc.

We are reasonably civil but he says asking for half is ridiculous. He says that the only real assets are his massive pension fund, my smaller one and our house which we will sell. I think he should give me half the value of the pension fund but he says that’s not possible. He says half the house and then we combine the value of the pensions and I get the equivalent of half the income from it. Surely I can just ask for the value and then do what I want with it? It feels very controlling.

I will of course get a lawyer but wanted to check if I’m being unreasonable in asking for my half? What about future income / inheritance etc? Once I’m divorced do I lose all claim on that even though I’ve supported him to earn this money and to see the return on investments that won’t come through for a few years?

She is looking after grandchildren.

So what? He was obviously happy with that since it's been such a long time. Not everyone has the same type of marriage you know?

There are housewives and there are housewives.

Some just get paid to do their hobbies and naff all. Some do it as a proper job - they cook from scatch, they manage their husband's calendar and know each of his colleagues well enough to say thoughtful things and be a delight at company functions, they clean, they sew costumes for world book day, they organise gifts for relatives, etc.

It would be drastically unfair to treat all housewives the same. Some have coasted. Some have obviously supported their husbands' careers.

Is she still looking after her 40 year old children?

If I have this right, I think @laura246810 Laura’s point is that there isn’t enough to justify one person at home full time to run the house (if kids aren’t involved) in the present day and there hasn’t been for decades.