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Wheresmymaternalinstinct · 20/09/2026 20:48

Please don't give out to me, I'm not in the UK so it's not the NHS.

DS has been sick for 10 days plus. Bad head cold, pain in cheek, headache and generally crap. Have been dosing him up with nurofen, paracetamol and sudofed. He's no better.

This afternoon, he became very cold, shivering, fever of 38.8, headache severely worse,had a couple of incidents where he said his vision went dark and he thought he would pass out. Temp came down to 38 after nurofen but headache worse.

He is alert and talking.

The outside of hours advice I got was that he probably needs antibiotics, so to try to
A. Get them first thing in the morning from GP
B. Check if I or my family have leftover antibiotics that I can start him on!!!
C. Bring him to A and E if I think he has sepsis or meningitis.

I really don't know. It's a bit of a trek to nearest hospital and I would really rather not go, but what if its sepsis

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ratatouillemousesqueak · 21/09/2026 15:50

I think you did the right thing based on symptoms. And bad sinus infection can still be horrendous and have lasting serious effects.

borborygmus1 · 21/09/2026 09:41

Fever and that level of dizziness means treatment asap is needed/emerging sepsis needs to be excluded.

Sudofed shouldn't be used for more than a few days as it causes rhinitis medicamentosa (I.e. an increase of nasal secretions) if used for too long.

A GP would usually advise for him to be taking a steroid nasal spray eg. Beconase instead of sudofed.

But yes, he's hitting some red flags for sinusitis and you need to exclude infection penetrating deeper as soon as you can. Untreated sinusitis can (rarely) cause meningitis if it the infection deepens.

Wheresmymaternalinstinct · 21/09/2026 09:07

OneCoralGoose · 21/09/2026 06:39

Did Caredoc middoc or whatever not see you. The person on the phone isnt a doctor. If they saw you they would have done checks. But err on the side of caution

Yes, a doctor. I asked her to see him but she wouldn't. Said there was no point because if they needed to check for sepsis they'd need to do bloods. But like, she could have done some form of assessment surely?

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Goldengirl123 · 21/09/2026 08:37

You did the best thing getting him checked out. Glad he is okay

Imbusytodaysorry · 21/09/2026 08:25

@Wheresmymaternalinstinct must be doing around as I had the killer sore head for a week couldn’t figure out what it was . I would never have thought my sinuses as no sign . Antibiotics and I was feeling better a little over 24 hrs.
Next time don’t leave it longer than 3 days with these symptoms.

PinkLemons99 · 21/09/2026 08:25

I’m in Ireland and a lot of teens are off school with flu currently, inc mine!

Dontbesonosy · 21/09/2026 08:18

tomblybooo · 21/09/2026 06:20

I know a few people where wind has put them in hospital lol sounds funny but it’s so painful sometimes !

Trapped wind is awful. I knew of someone stretchered off a plane with severe abdominal pain, then she farted before she got to the ambulance. Oops.

RonaldDahl · 21/09/2026 08:12

AutumnLoverButNotYet · 21/09/2026 00:18

Yeah, they can be really painful and horrible.

I think it's quite normal to feel better once you're in the hospital. I think it's psychological. It's safer there and help is on its way.

I hope he gets better soon xx

Yes, I was going to say this as well.

Change2banon · 21/09/2026 07:42

I’ve had a sinus infection, the pain was awful, I thought my head was going to explode! Are/were you giving him the max correct does of all medications? ie not nurofen for young children, actual ibuprofen? I hope he feels better soon x

OneCoralGoose · 21/09/2026 06:39

Wheresmymaternalinstinct · 20/09/2026 21:02

I feel like if I go in, it'll be a bad headcold or covid or something, and if I stay home it'll be sepsis. I'm full of doubt either way.

We're in Ireland, there's a GP rota thing for evenings where I live but I just got the world's most useless doctor who left me no clearer than when I called.

Did Caredoc middoc or whatever not see you. The person on the phone isnt a doctor. If they saw you they would have done checks. But err on the side of caution

Camcam · 21/09/2026 06:35

Pain in cheek (especially if only one side) is usually a bacterial sinus infection. I had one last week and just finished antibiotics.

I was able to get them prescribed at the pharmacy but not sure if they can for under 16s. The trick is you need to say you’ve had it 2 weeks and stress the pain in only on one side and fever. Whenever I’ve had them, the antibiotics kick in after a day or two and I feel much better.

A lot of them symptoms can mimic sepsis. I had an awful one last year where the back of my neck, base of head had an awful pain and stiffness. High fever and shivering. The gp said if my fever didn’t go down I had to go straight to A&E.

Sassylovesbooks · 21/09/2026 06:26

Hospital without a shadow of a doubt. A fever, worsening headache and feeling like passing out.... were some of the symptoms I had with meningitis.

It's always better to check and be wrong, than not and it ends up being an emergency situation.

tomblybooo · 21/09/2026 06:20

Littlegreywolfcub · 21/09/2026 04:21

😂
laughing at the 'little jerk feels a lot better now'.

We once rang an ambulance (as advised by 111) when our 14 year old son had horrendous abdo pain - he was screaming/crying in agony - and normally he has quite a high pain threshold.

When the paramedics arrived, it turned out he had trapped wind, and once he'd farted things were a lot better!! 😅😆

This was all at around 3am.

Happy days

I know a few people where wind has put them in hospital lol sounds funny but it’s so painful sometimes !

Destiny123 · 21/09/2026 06:07

Glad he's been seen. Recycled antibiotics (that shouldn't even have if people take the course correctly) is never the answer. Antibiotics are targeted to the bug causing the infection so a lay person guessing is just going to breed resistance and highly unlikely fix the actual issue (dr)

Morepositivemum · 21/09/2026 05:03

It’s so strange they say sepsis etc, in Ireland too and it’s always better safe than sorry, our gp will always say ‘better to go into a and e and be wrong than have something happen’. Sure Leo used to even say it, Simon Harris has said it!! Always better to go to a and e if there’s a chance it’s something

Franjipanl8r · 21/09/2026 04:40

I know someone who died from a sinus infection after the GP assumed it was just the flue and he wasn’t given antibiotics.

SamPM · 21/09/2026 04:24

Hes been sick 10 days and seems to be getting worse and you have not seen a doctor?! OK, I don't know where you are but by now I would have taken my child to a walk in clinic at the very least (US), the symptoms sound pretty worrying and go beyond a regular cold. The advice about using leftover antibiotics without a diagnosis is outrageous. Antibiotics are powerful drugs, not candy.

Littlegreywolfcub · 21/09/2026 04:21

Wheresmymaternalinstinct · 20/09/2026 22:51

Well we've been triaged and in waiting room and the little jerk says he feels a lot better now! Hopefully we will be in our way sooner rather than later

😂
laughing at the 'little jerk feels a lot better now'.

We once rang an ambulance (as advised by 111) when our 14 year old son had horrendous abdo pain - he was screaming/crying in agony - and normally he has quite a high pain threshold.

When the paramedics arrived, it turned out he had trapped wind, and once he'd farted things were a lot better!! 😅😆

This was all at around 3am.

Happy days

Natsku · 21/09/2026 04:14

Wheresmymaternalinstinct · 21/09/2026 00:09

Thanks all. Sinus infection. At least we will be home at a reasonable hour and I won't be awake all night checking him 🙃

I immediately thought sinus infection when I read your post. Your poor son, hope the antibiotics work quickly.

Airconfan · 21/09/2026 03:35

Ahhh I hate sinus infections they are awful!

if you are using a decongestant use pseudoephedrine not phenylephrine as the clinical data is miles better, but only for 3 days.

Head over a hot bowl of water / towel with vicks etc and massage the sinuses (you can google where to massage).

cannynotsay · 21/09/2026 03:32

You did the right thing, 10 days no better and it was becoming serious. Always worth getting checked out x

maxslice · 21/09/2026 02:45

A&E. No question.

Mama2many73 · 21/09/2026 00:38

I was going to suggest sinus infection. My DH had it over xmas one year. He'd been unwell but as a teacher carried on until the holidays.

He was extremely poorly and we were given an emergency appointment at 8am on boxing day, after a raging temp and delirious.on xmas day. He had all the symptoms of your son and it was infected and compacted sinusitis and he was given 10days of a stronger antibiotic.
Hope your son feels better soon x

AutumnLoverButNotYet · 21/09/2026 00:18

Wheresmymaternalinstinct · 21/09/2026 00:09

Thanks all. Sinus infection. At least we will be home at a reasonable hour and I won't be awake all night checking him 🙃

Yeah, they can be really painful and horrible.

I think it's quite normal to feel better once you're in the hospital. I think it's psychological. It's safer there and help is on its way.

I hope he gets better soon xx

likelysuspect · 21/09/2026 00:11

Wheresmymaternalinstinct · 21/09/2026 00:09

Thanks all. Sinus infection. At least we will be home at a reasonable hour and I won't be awake all night checking him 🙃

They can be horrendously painful.

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