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Considering a holiday with a group half my age, where most are strangers.

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Whathappend · 20/09/2026 14:19

I'm 50. I'm good friends with a 25 year old. I occasionally go out drinking and dancing with her and her friends.

Last night we were out. They were talking about their loose plans to go to ibiza next summer. I was enthusiastic and told them i was excited for them. This turned into an invite for me to join them.

I have wanted to go to ibiza my entire life. I love dance music and dancing until the early hours. But none of my friends in my life have ever wanted to join me on an ibiza holiday. And i don't want to go alone.

So I'm seriously considering taking them up on their offer.

However, they're half my age, so i won't be able to keep up. I've only met her friends a couple of times. They're nice enough, but not sure i want to go on holiday with near strangers. They've got less money than me, so I'll need to eat/sleep on their budgets. No nice meals out on holiday. And everything we do will be on their agenda and i won't feel i can interfere with that too much.

But i really want to go to Ibiza!

I'm a friendly person who gets on well with most. I can rough it for 4 days, and tell them I'm staying in if i need to rest. But still...

AIBU considering going with a bunch of 25 year olds where i only know 1 of them?

OP posts:
maxslice · 23/09/2026 21:05

Alwaysbella · 20/09/2026 14:22

Don’t Op. just don’t. You won’t enjoy it and you’ll be acutely aware of the difference

Bah. Some people are determined to be close minded and unhappy. Enjoy yourself, OP, with or without the company of young people. Have fun trying new things. A number of my friends are 15 years or more older than me. Others are 15 years or more younger. We have a great time. Don’t let anyone discourage you.

Doubleknow · 23/09/2026 21:47

Whathappend · 23/09/2026 18:11

So sorry for your loss @Doubleknow . What a wonderful way to respond to his death - by grabbing life and living it to its fullest. You sound like my kind of person.

Actually, maybe i should invite you to come with me to ibiza, as i know you'll say yes!

It is a self perpetuating thing. The more you say yes, the more people ask 🤣

Krispycrem · 24/09/2026 08:59

Is the trip to Ibiza town rather than San Antonio? Ibiza town is more upmarket and older. I might go for 4 nights, stay somewhere different than the youngs and only go clubbing twice.

It’s a gorgeous island

Rumbleafteryog · 24/09/2026 12:47

I'm not part of their friendship group!

So why would you want to join them on holiday, even if you were the same age as them @Whathappend ?

Roosthename · Yesterday 16:21

It’s the fact you say you aren’t friends with any of the group aside from one of them that would
put me off going.

Have you heard anything since @Whathappend ? Presumably they were planning for it to be imminently?

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