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Considering a holiday with a group half my age, where most are strangers.

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Whathappend · 20/09/2026 14:19

I'm 50. I'm good friends with a 25 year old. I occasionally go out drinking and dancing with her and her friends.

Last night we were out. They were talking about their loose plans to go to ibiza next summer. I was enthusiastic and told them i was excited for them. This turned into an invite for me to join them.

I have wanted to go to ibiza my entire life. I love dance music and dancing until the early hours. But none of my friends in my life have ever wanted to join me on an ibiza holiday. And i don't want to go alone.

So I'm seriously considering taking them up on their offer.

However, they're half my age, so i won't be able to keep up. I've only met her friends a couple of times. They're nice enough, but not sure i want to go on holiday with near strangers. They've got less money than me, so I'll need to eat/sleep on their budgets. No nice meals out on holiday. And everything we do will be on their agenda and i won't feel i can interfere with that too much.

But i really want to go to Ibiza!

I'm a friendly person who gets on well with most. I can rough it for 4 days, and tell them I'm staying in if i need to rest. But still...

AIBU considering going with a bunch of 25 year olds where i only know 1 of them?

OP posts:
Alwaysbella · 20/09/2026 14:24

summer. I was enthusiastic and told them i was excited for them. This turned into an invite for me to join them

would have been so awkward not to have invited you in this scenario

Doctordoolittle · 20/09/2026 14:23

Could you not go at the same time but book your own hotel etc, then join them for some nights out if that’s what you enjoy? Then you can take yourself out for nice meals etc.

throwaway3749574 · 20/09/2026 14:23

It’s a bit weird, sorry! I’d be worried that other than your friend, the others would think it’s odd and you’d feel ok the fringe of things

Alwaysbella · 20/09/2026 14:23

In any event you only occasionally go out with this 25 year old anyway. She said it flippantly not thinking you’d actially take it seriously at all.

Go to Ibiza but with other friends

Alwaysbella · 20/09/2026 14:22

As will they

Alwaysbella · 20/09/2026 14:22

Don’t Op. just don’t. You won’t enjoy it and you’ll be acutely aware of the difference

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