Considering a holiday with a group half my age, where most are strangers.

Agree with all of this !

If you want to go, and they are happy for you to join them then why not go ?
If you find you aren’t enjoying it come home early or do something else. It’s a short holiday, you aren’t moving into a commune with them.
Life is short and we censor ourselves to a ridiculous degree. Who cares what anyone thinks, this is your life and your idea of fun. My friend married a man with this big an age gap, they are very happy. You aren’t doing anything that will hurt anyone else, get your glad rags into a suitcase and go out dancing the night away.

You're only 50. Ibiza is all ages groups. What type of person are you? You say you like to dance into the early hours so I'm guessing that you're not going to be heading to bed at 10pm.

I have a lot of early 20s in my life, my own kids, their friends and relations, if I'm honest the older people last longest, I find the younger ones head back earlier than I expected.

The beauty of going in a group is that there will be someone going back early or staying out, you can then choose what to do yourself.

It's not a 2 week holiday, it's a few days. It'll fly in. Regarding accommodation well you can choose what suits you, if you decide to go in with them or get your own room or somewhere nearby and be honest about it, your friend will understand.

You may not be having nice meals etc you might, they may have one night, but in all honesty you can do nice meals anytime, in my own experience I find the quickest food is very appealing as it wasn't cutting into my drinking and dancing time.

If they ask again I would accept. You will get to see Ibiza and do fun things and they sound like lovely people and not people making fun of you.

I am not sure how you will manage if they aren’t in the same income and comfort bracket. I had difficulty on holiday with 30 year olds when I was 35. It was a 30th bday/hen do. The organiser had booked two triple rooms to cut costs. What a mistake when we kept different hours!

They would go to bed at 3am and wake up at 12, hoping for a McDonalds breakfast at 2pm and they wouldn’t eat Spanish food on the trip. They would lounge by the hotel pool and not want to go to the beach. They also slept 5-6pm and went to dinner (pub/McDonalds again) before going to bars and clubs when I wanted to go to bed! I barely saw any art/history/sights on the trip and ended up booking a few return trips to get through them.

If you were a 50 year old bloke hanging out with a group of 25 year old ladies that would be so cringe.
You’re a 50 year old woman hanging out with a group of 25 year old ladies it’s still cringe but in a different way.
No don’t do it. Find some new pals your own age and go to Ibiza with them.

If you were a 50 year old bloke hanging out with a group of 25 year old ladies that would be so cringe.
You’re a 50 year old woman hanging out with a group of 25 year old ladies it’s still cringe but in a different way.
No don’t do it. Find some new pals your own age and go to Ibiza with them.

i wouldn't go with a group of 25 year olds. i'd find a group similar age to me and go with them. or go by yourself. i am more than double 25 and absolutely not no never no not no would i go on holiday with a group of people that age. massive differences.

Do it! We only get one chance at life and it’s for living.

There seems to be a few particular posters here that have a major issue with this but that’s their problem not yours.

Sounds like a setting for a horror movie.

This is a good plan.

Im your age op. There is no fucking way id go on holiday with a group of people half my age. People say alot of stuff when theyre drunk.

I'd go but book my own room (in the same hotel, or in an apartment as close as possible if they go for an air bnb thing). Then go out with them the first night. That won't really be any different that occasionally going out with friend normally. Tell them you'd love to come but don't want to cramp their style/aren't up for roughing it. Perhaps refer obliquely to knowing someone in Ibiza you want to meet up with so they/you don't feel guilty if you don't want to join them the whole time.

That first night will give you a bit of a taster - if they are really friendly, you love it and everything goes great you can go again. You can also take the opportunity to scout out whether it feels safe, if it's easy to get a taxi back, what the age range is like, etc.

If you see quite a few people on their own and feel safe enough perhaps you'll want to go alone the next night to arrive and leave on your own terms, or perhaps can message the over 40s group the pp referred to and meet up with them.

Or perhaps you might hate it and spend the next few days on the beach. Either way it won't be a wasted holiday.

At the end of the day you're the youngest now you'll ever be. You don't want to be on your death bed regretting not going!

100% they’ll be sharing rooms. Will you get your own room?

Do you have kids @Whathappend ?

If you think their invite was genuine then go for it!

100% this!

If you want to go, go. Life is for living.

@Whathappend
I think you need to bear in mind that many MNers’ default is to prefer to stay at home if they can, avoid socialising, never take chances and are always ready to end friendships over the smallest sleight. And you need to put any advice given in that context.

If it’s something you’ve always wanted to do,
then look at ways of making it happen. The Facebook group linked probably isn’t the only online group like this, so investigate. Keep an open mind with regard to the invitation from your friend’s friends. It may work if you are able to book your own accommodation and have a couple of groups to link into when you want to, so you may be happy to go sightseeing by yourself, but link up with a group for evening drinks and head to the club together.

Some people on here are so ageist, Jesus! You're 50, not 100!!

I really don't see how her friends "had" to invite you just because you expressed some enthusiasm - that's nonsense. People don't just make a totally inappropriate invitation under some kind of invisible pressure from someone they don't know. Which makes me think that, while the invitation may have been on impulse, it's most probably sincere and you're most probably someone who seems youthful and fun and they enjoy your company.

People can be real friends with people of very different age to themselves. I used to be a huge clubber, living in a nothern city for a few years, and in our group of friends there were all sort of ages, from 18 to 50s. Everyone hang out together all the time, went out together, held parties together, and generally were one 'gang'. Nowadays the youngest have all become parents and the eldest have all retired, but everyone is still good friends and still go out and see each other from time to time.

For me, the issue is more that you don't know them, rather than the age gap. You might get tired of being tied to strangers.

There is a brilliant Facebook group Ibiza for over 40+ where you'll feel right at home, if you decide to give your young friend(s) a miss. Enjoy, whatever you decide.

I wonder why your good friend hadn’t invited you before

Oh this is going to be toe curling if you mention this again. Just see if the friend of your friend (who had not invited you) mentions it again 🤞

I wouldn't go, in case it was just a case of them inviting you out of politeness and then regretting it if you come, that would feel really awkward even if they try to hide it. But definitely consider going by yourself, go have fun!

The young people at work invited me to a party and I said no, I'm too old, but I found out later they also invited someone even older than me so I guess they didn't mind but I think I still would have felt awkward. But I am going on a weekend away with our Union with some of the younger people, but its different because its a whole coachload of people going so there's bound to be other middle aged people there, even if I don't know them.

Its not just what other people will think. Having Op there will change they group dynamics.

And there interactions with other groups of young people.

But none of them appear to be with your daughter and her friends who are in their mid twenties… are they?!

Agreed, she probably said it being polite, not thinking Op would seriously consider it.