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To think this is unfair? Holiday.

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Chefpig · 20/09/2026 09:30

I'm going on holiday with another person. Last time we went, they had the much nicer accommodation and mine was very basic. This time, check in is at different times and they're insisting I have the first accommodation we can check in to earlier as I have pets and they think I should settle the pets in, and they have the second. I mentioned the other day that we should look at them both and this time its my choice to choose which I prefer out of the two. We can always go in the first at check in and move my pets easily to the second. This is something she agreed to and is now going back on her word. AIBU to be pissed off at this? I really don't want to go away now.

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PunnyPlumPanda · 20/09/2026 19:21

Chefpig · 20/09/2026 10:09

She's insisting I'm having the first one though. If I challenge it, I get shot down and a huge argument will occur making me out to be the bad person. When I challenged it earlier, I got told I have to compromise. Where her compromise is, I'll never know.

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Just say no, it my turn this time,

weve already ageeed this and I would like to wait

then grey rock it

inwant to wait, my choice. My turn etc. over and over

TwinklySquid · 20/09/2026 19:38

It sounds like you’ve always booked the carvans as a gift - if so, I’d expect them to get the nicer one.
If it’s too hard, just don’t go again next year. Not worth the hassle.

SandyHappyPerson · 20/09/2026 19:47

Is this a haven site? If so you have to pay extra to know which caravan you are going to be in (locations wise), otherwise they only release the location details 24 hrs before, and you have to pay extra to have an earlier check in usually.

So if she has paid to choose the location, and the holiday is not starting tomorrow, then you may be able to log in and choose a different location.. if not and you have the accommodation details, call them up and upgrade to a silver dog-friendly caravan instead.

trying to make someone do anything when they have paid for the entire holiday is pointless though surely?

Clearingthedecks · 20/09/2026 20:23

I'm hoping the caravan in the middle is a lot nicer inside than the one by the coastal path!
Hope you a lovely time Op with your dogs which ever caravan you have🐾

SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 20/09/2026 20:23

Very cryptic post.
Cheap AI job?

LAMPS1 · 20/09/2026 20:25

Tell her you need more space around you for the dogs as well as the closer proximity to the coastal path to walk the dogs.
So confidently say you will wait for that later check in thank you.

TheDenimPoet · 20/09/2026 20:36

You get whichever accommodation you've paid for and chosen. Whatever your friend says isn't relevant.

comingintomyown · 20/09/2026 20:40

Lexy2345 · 20/09/2026 14:28

I would make this the last joint holiday you have. Next time, book yourself a lovely caravan in a nice spot, no arguments, no sulking, just rest and relaxation for you and the dogs. Tell your mum that this will be the last time, because you are fed up of always having second best accommodation, regardless of which one of you is paying.

Agree with this, might as well just suck it up now it’s not like your miles apart

watchingthishtread · 20/09/2026 20:54

Chefpig · 20/09/2026 10:09

She's insisting I'm having the first one though. If I challenge it, I get shot down and a huge argument will occur making me out to be the bad person. When I challenged it earlier, I got told I have to compromise. Where her compromise is, I'll never know.

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Who put her in charge?

Marieb19 · 20/09/2026 20:57

Why don't you arrange to arrive later, when the second caravan will be available. Additionally, next year go somewhere without her. She doesn't sound like a pleasant holiday companion.

Calmdownfolks · 20/09/2026 23:46

It sounds as though you should say you want the one nearer the beach and have done with it. Phone up and speak directly to the staff now in low season and they should be able to be specific about the choices. Your mother sounds selfish and used to getting her way so you just have to be direct and broach no changes to your agreement. I wish you luck and a nice holiday.

custardcreme77 · 21/09/2026 01:08

I would think the caravan in a quieter location would be better for the dogs - less stimulus which could result in less barking - and nicer views for your good self.

Moonnstarz · 21/09/2026 07:24

watchingthishtread · 20/09/2026 20:54

Who put her in charge?

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Well she booked both caravans so presumably she is in charge as she is the lead booker for both.

I think it might be best in the future if they don't holiday together or book their own accomodation.

Clearly there are issues anyway as by my count there is mum and partner and OP plus dogs. If money is that tight or would rather be spent on nicer accommodation the solution would be to book one van - 3 bedrooms even, so each adult would have a room each.

WhoPaintedMyRosesRed · 21/09/2026 09:24

@Chefpig Your 50 yo cousin was calling you a lazy cow!

When she said how he shouldn't be doing everything for you, etc

This might be the families issue rather than the length of time your H takes off work.

Foolish1984 · 21/09/2026 12:09

HoppingPavlova · 20/09/2026 10:48

Frankly, I wouldn’t want someone else’s pets in my accommodation. If they put their pets in it, then that’s what they are taking! Maybe don’t put the dogs in any caravan until sorted out which one is yours, otherwise YABU.

It’s a pet friendly caravan! Millions of pets will have already stayed in it! If you don’t book a pet friendly caravan then you won’t get one that’s ever had a pet in it! Same with pet friendly cottages etc

Blondeshavemorefun · 21/09/2026 19:27

Not all allow dogs and pay extra for dog ones so surely you will only be able to stay in one of them. The dog one

1coconut2coconut3coconut4 · 21/09/2026 20:15

Why would you keep going away with someone so selfish? You could just not go. If you do and stay in the less nice caravan you will spend the whole time annoyed, if she does she will.

Databreach · 22/09/2026 09:19

hope
it all works out!

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