To think this is unfair? Holiday.

hope
it all works out!

Why would you keep going away with someone so selfish? You could just not go. If you do and stay in the less nice caravan you will spend the whole time annoyed, if she does she will.

Not all allow dogs and pay extra for dog ones so surely you will only be able to stay in one of them. The dog one

It’s a pet friendly caravan! Millions of pets will have already stayed in it! If you don’t book a pet friendly caravan then you won’t get one that’s ever had a pet in it! Same with pet friendly cottages etc

@Chefpig Your 50 yo cousin was calling you a lazy cow!

When she said how he shouldn't be doing everything for you, etc

This might be the families issue rather than the length of time your H takes off work.

Well she booked both caravans so presumably she is in charge as she is the lead booker for both.

I think it might be best in the future if they don't holiday together or book their own accomodation.

Clearly there are issues anyway as by my count there is mum and partner and OP plus dogs. If money is that tight or would rather be spent on nicer accommodation the solution would be to book one van - 3 bedrooms even, so each adult would have a room each.

I would think the caravan in a quieter location would be better for the dogs - less stimulus which could result in less barking - and nicer views for your good self.

It sounds as though you should say you want the one nearer the beach and have done with it. Phone up and speak directly to the staff now in low season and they should be able to be specific about the choices. Your mother sounds selfish and used to getting her way so you just have to be direct and broach no changes to your agreement. I wish you luck and a nice holiday.

Why don't you arrange to arrive later, when the second caravan will be available. Additionally, next year go somewhere without her. She doesn't sound like a pleasant holiday companion.

Who put her in charge?

Agree with this, might as well just suck it up now it’s not like your miles apart

You get whichever accommodation you've paid for and chosen. Whatever your friend says isn't relevant.

Tell her you need more space around you for the dogs as well as the closer proximity to the coastal path to walk the dogs.
So confidently say you will wait for that later check in thank you.

Very cryptic post.
Cheap AI job?

I'm hoping the caravan in the middle is a lot nicer inside than the one by the coastal path!
Hope you a lovely time Op with your dogs which ever caravan you have🐾

Is this a haven site? If so you have to pay extra to know which caravan you are going to be in (locations wise), otherwise they only release the location details 24 hrs before, and you have to pay extra to have an earlier check in usually.

So if she has paid to choose the location, and the holiday is not starting tomorrow, then you may be able to log in and choose a different location.. if not and you have the accommodation details, call them up and upgrade to a silver dog-friendly caravan instead.

trying to make someone do anything when they have paid for the entire holiday is pointless though surely?

It sounds like you’ve always booked the carvans as a gift - if so, I’d expect them to get the nicer one.
If it’s too hard, just don’t go again next year. Not worth the hassle.

Just say no, it my turn this time,

weve already ageeed this and I would like to wait

then grey rock it

inwant to wait, my choice. My turn etc. over and over

In view of the fact that you clearly think the position of the second caravan is better than the first, then just tell your Mum you'll have the second one, and that way she can get in first, have a cup of tea, and get settled, while you take the dogs for a walk after the journey.

A summary of some salient points for those joining the thread now:

1. This year mom has paid for and booked both.
2. For the last 14 years OP paid for and booked both and let mom have the best one.
3. Both are pet friendly.
4. OP's mom does not mind OP bringing the pets in any way!

Just say you want the caravan with the location near to the beach. Sounds like that would be best for the dogs in any event. Don't settle the dogs in to the other caravan on arrival, take them for a walk on the beach. Or arrive later if possible.

It's lovely that you and your mom have such a strong relationship that you holiday together, pay for each other etc. Please don't let an argument about quality of accommodation spoil that - it's truly not worth it. Your mom won't be around forever, and she may not be well enough to holiday with you forever - this is honestly not worth falling out over.

We had our first family holiday with mom this year (dad had dementia for ten years - he sadly passed in January, so she is now able to travel). We let her choose the room she felt most comfortable in and I think we would always do that going forwards - being mor elderly, her needs around level of comfort, location etc are more specific.

That said, I can see that the second caravan you describe is much more convenient for dog walking, so I do understand why you would prefer that one.

Could you approach it with her that way? Rather than making it seem like a competition for who gets the "best" accommodation, just say you have looked at the location of both and the second offers great dog walking opportunities so it would be brilliant if you could have that one?

It's not worth an argument and a fall out, honestly. I hope you all have a lovely time away!

Can’t you get the keys to both caravans when you check in as they were booked and are being paid for by the same person?

Here we go -

Mum I’m paying for the accommodation. Last year you had a nicer one, this year I’m going to see which one I prefer and you can have to other one. If you don’t want this / you can book your own. I won’t be offended.

Surely you have to have which ever caravan is pet accommodation. They usually have some savers for pets and some that aren’t. I assume you haven’t booked two pet friendly accommodations.