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AIBU to think they should buy rather than rent a tiny flat?

63 replies

LindorDoubleChoc · 19/09/2026 21:46

To think DD and partner are crazy to rent a miniscule 1 bed flat at £1700 pcm, when they have a £50,000 deposit and joint income of around £60,000 to £65,000? No children. I'm sure they could buy a reasonable 2 bed flat fairly comfortably with their mortgage repayments being less than £1700?

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Pumpkindice · 19/09/2026 21:59

Have you seen the current interest rates? Have you factored in the cost of service charges for flats (in modern flats these can be almost as much as another mortgage, and scarily can increase exponentially) £1700 is a huge mortgage for a couple earning 30k each, and would be stupid to enter into knowing that rates can go up.

Mt563 · 19/09/2026 21:58

LindorDoubleChoc · 19/09/2026 21:57

They live in London. Not sure there are many other places in the UK where a tiny one bed second floor flat above a shop is £1700 pcm in rent?

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Lol. Then they are being very wise not to buy a flat right now, even if the math did work technically which it doesn't really.

PrettyLittleRose · 19/09/2026 21:58

LindorDoubleChoc · 19/09/2026 21:56

Do not be what person? I'm just thinking aloud here! Where have I said I'm sharing my thoughts with my daughter? 🙄

I didn't say you WERE that person or that you were sharing your 'why don't you buy instead of renting' thoughts with your daughter, I said DON'T BE.

Your reaction to my post tells me I may have hit a raw nerve.

Hankunamatata · 19/09/2026 21:57

Perhaps they aren't ready to make a step buying property together. Perhaps they like location of the flat and couldn't afford to buy there

LindorDoubleChoc · 19/09/2026 21:57

Butchyrestingface · 19/09/2026 21:55

You haven't said where they live. You could be well off the mark in your estimate of their mortgage payments.

They live in London. Not sure there are many other places in the UK where a tiny one bed second floor flat above a shop is £1700 pcm in rent?

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LindorDoubleChoc · 19/09/2026 21:56

PrettyLittleRose · 19/09/2026 21:50

Depends on how much the flat is. £150K, or £300K, or £500K. Even more?

Makes a big difference. (If their mortgage is £100K, or £250K, or £450K!) Maybe they like the freedom of renting, the non commitment, and not having to worry about huge repairs and maintenance bills? Maybe they don't WANT to buy a 'flat.' Personally, I would never buy a flat. Too many caveats and issues, no garden, often people all sides of you, and very rarely freehold.

Maybe they don't want to buy a property at all.......

Upshot is, it's their life. Not your concern...

Most people who rent (and always have) have a story to tell about someone sticking their beak into their business, and telling how they absolutely SHOULD buy a property, like they are somehow lesser for being a renter...

Do not be that person. Especially with your own daughter.

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Do not be what person? I'm just thinking aloud here! Where have I said I'm sharing my thoughts with my daughter? 🙄

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Butchyrestingface · 19/09/2026 21:55

You haven't said where they live. You could be well off the mark in your estimate of their mortgage payments.

Mt563 · 19/09/2026 21:53

Not that it's anything to do with you if they buy or rent but where do they live and is the 50k their whole savings and do they want kids?

They could likely borrow about 240-300k, so looking at property around 300-350k, assuming they have savings beyond 50k to cover buying/moving costs and a small emergency fund. Is that realistic in their area?

Reduce that if 50 is their entire savings. So maybe 30k, so 270-330k.

If they're planning kids, might not be worth buying small and then uprising. Buying and selling is time consuming, expensive, complicated and exhausting. Especially considering mortgage is likely to be 1350-1650/ month for the amounts I suggested above.

Then flats are not looking like a good investment right now.

So in all, a lot of risk and effort for not much saving. I expect they've done the math and made an informed decision.

DaisyChain505 · 19/09/2026 21:53

Flats can come with leaseholds, ground/maintenance fees and can sometimes be tricky to sell on.

Maybe they want to wait until they can afford a house.

Maybe they aren’t 100% sure if they will gel living together and want to test the waters.

Maybe they don’t know where they want to settle down and commit to buying somewhere just yet.

Sandyq106 · 19/09/2026 21:50

You need to let them make their own decisions, not your choice

PrettyLittleRose · 19/09/2026 21:50

Depends on how much the flat is. £150K, or £300K, or £500K. Even more?

Makes a big difference. (If their mortgage is £100K, or £250K, or £450K!) Maybe they like the freedom of renting, the non commitment, and not having to worry about huge repairs and maintenance bills? Maybe they don't WANT to buy a 'flat.' Personally, I would never buy a flat. Too many caveats and issues, no garden, often people all sides of you, and very rarely freehold.

Maybe they don't want to buy a property at all.......

Upshot is, it's their life. Not your concern...

Most people who rent (and always have) have a story to tell about someone sticking their beak into their business, and telling how they absolutely SHOULD buy a property, like they are somehow lesser for being a renter...

Do not be that person. Especially with your own daughter.

.

Smallpoxy · 19/09/2026 21:49

Leave them to it...

Purpleelephantsandunicorns · 19/09/2026 21:48

What do they say about it? Do they not want that level of permanence?

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