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Partner kicked off at birthday gift

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whatthehellyy · 19/09/2026 18:09

Last month it was my partner of 4 years birthday
we have a 1 year old son.

im cringing writing this by the way….
he hates birthdays & Xmas. He’s very awquard 🙄
I asked him so many times leading to his birthday what would you like?
I’ve bought him stuff every year he just doesn’t use it want so I said I prefer to get you something you truly want or need.
he made it clear he wasn’t interested didn’t want nothing but anything I did he was grateful for.
so I thought I’m not putting him through all gifts etc he hates it so I got him a £100 voucher for his fav clothes shop and we was going out for dinner that night (our treat) got him cards too and a little daddy gift from our son.

on the morning I gave it him with our son .. an hour later he was crying in the kitchen!!!!! I said what is wrong!??????? He said don’t matter. I said no tell me what is wrong!?
he said you don’t fkin love me you got me f*ck all you tight bitch !!!!!! And proceeded to cry!!!!!! Packed all his stuff and left after he majorly kicked off. (He has an empty house he owns that he was gonna rent out) he’s gone back there not been back since. No apology nothing. He still fetches our son.

im still gob smacked. Am I the one in the wrong????? Please be honest.
by the way he’s a grown 50 year old x

OP posts:
Trallala · 19/09/2026 18:15

He sounds like very hard work - you can't do right for doing wrong, can you? Says he doesn't want anything specific then has a massive tantrum when you've got him gifts. Is he always like this, or has this come out of the blue?

I'm sorry, OP, but he sounds dreadful, and you don't deserve this at all.

DangerousLesions · 19/09/2026 18:15

Well does he want a present or not? You make it clear he has no interest in them so why's he kicking off? DH isn't interested in presents and neither am I so we don't get each other anything, just soppy cards. The kicking off bit is worrying. Is there something else going on?

BriarTime · 19/09/2026 18:15

throwaway1234566 · 19/09/2026 18:12

How ridiculous for a grown man. I wonder if he was using this as an excuse to leave?

Exactly what I thought. Let it be, OP. When the rubbish takes itself out it’s just saving you the bother.

Chunkybabythighs · 19/09/2026 18:14

He wanted to dump you so came up with a bullshit reason

whatthehellyy · 19/09/2026 18:13

No I didn’t get it back 😂

OP posts:
Fluffyholeysocks · 19/09/2026 18:12

Did you get the voucher back?

Harrriet · 19/09/2026 18:12

A deep dark background to his reaction, nothing you have done.

throwaway1234566 · 19/09/2026 18:12

How ridiculous for a grown man. I wonder if he was using this as an excuse to leave?