Partner kicked off at birthday gift

He’s up to something, used this as an excuse.

Was this for his 50th birthday? If so was he expecting a fuss?

Doesn't make it OK of course.

Has he got other children?

True! She should have gotten him a one-way ticket to Bouvet Island.

Then, for the next 50th milestone, a ticket back.

But he literally said not to get him anything and gave her no ideas. Totally different to a situation where someone had dropped lots of hints, or sent links or had conversations and then gets a voucher.

You are well rid

The age gap is too big too.
Imagine him being a cranky kid man

Ew. He sounds awful.

You are 34. Life is too short to spend it with a weirdo like this!

Don't contact him and let him sulk.

What an awful thing to do.

The only one your age I know of who with a fifty odd year old worries constantly he will leave her and the kids as he had previously done to two partners/wives before him. Some men go from women to women leaving broken families behinds. This guy we know his older grown up kids can’t believe he just can’t stop doing this to his partners.

OP I would reflect on your relationship. Did you start off as an affair? Or had he left kids and previous wife or wives and spun a line about how they were horrible to him and with you he finally found true love etc etc.

good luck it sounds like he is just looking for an excuse to leave, would not be shocked if he is already sleeping with someone else. Sorry

Sounds like he needs to stay gone.

WTF??? He was crying over that?

If he wants something for his birthday then he communicates like an adult. He obviously has some serious trauma he needs to resolve and he should be taking it out on you. It's a shame you already have a child with this manchild.

He's 50? Yeah some serious deep seated trauma that he needs to grow up and with through. You're not his trauma punching bag.

Are you serious. He’s a fucking moron. He was just looking for an excuse to get out of the relationship. Why the hell was you with such a person. My partner has learned that if I ask what they want for a gift they give me a few options or they get what I think. No complaints afterwards. If they say I don’t want anything then that’s exactly what they get

Ridiculous behaviour.

I love my DH very much but I rarely spend £100 on him for birthdays or Christmas. He has a niche hobby that I can't buy for, and he doesn't wear aftershave or use products. I usually end up getting him his favourite sweets as something to unwrap. But I do buy him things throughout the year if he sees something he would actually like.

I agree with others, he has decided that full time fatherhood isn't for him and he was looking for a way out.

Is this the start of controlling abuse type behaviour where nothing is ever good enough or quite right.

its a thoughtful gift. As a parent I’d be happy with £100 to spend on myself and a nice meal! A bit of cake on the day and it’s perfect.

i wouldn’t stay with someone who made me feel anxious and just wasn’t straight forward. Just say what you mean!

Was this his big 50 birthday?!
A voucher is a bit low effort if so

Why are you in a relationship with this old weird fucked up Drama Queen specimen?

lol

Oh my, that’s awful! My partner is the same, never opens gifts, always so awkward. They can sit there for days before he’s even opened them. Last year I asked and asked and he said nothing blah blah so I did exactly that, I got him nothing - from me! He was also an idiot in his reaction. I got him small gifts from our children and that was it. I proceeded to remind that that he told me to get him nothing and I carried out his wishes. This year, he told me what he wanted, so he learnt his lesson!
I have no idea what lesson your partner is learning though, I would totally be over that. £100 plus dinner is generous and he’s a prick for thinking otherwise.

by the way he’s a grown 50 year old

Was it his 50th birthday? If so, perhaps he was hoping for more fuss / a surprise?

Yeah I hear what everyone is saying. I would just balance this with it started by her partner crying in the kitchen at the table on his birthday. So my initial sympathy goes there.

If this were reverse we would be sympathising with the OP.

You didn’t do anything wrong but I suspect there is a lot more to this story which either you haven’t told us or are will fully ignorant.

He had a ridiculous outburst and then the OP made it about her - crying. His reaction wasn’t normal or okay - so what’s the rest here?

Was it his 50th? In that case it was a bit crap and a voucher is a bit unthoughtful.

What a prick. Since when is one honest pounds nothing. That's a very generous gift. He's an idiot and immature.

He’s a dick! If he’d called me a “tight bitch”, I’d have packed his bags for him.

Move on. You really don’t want to be saddled to a moody old git!! He’s only going to get worse.

This...

Haha if only everyone could get rid of a dickhead with just a £100 investment. You got a bargain @whatthehellyy just don’t let him come back grovelling, once an asshole always an asshole.

I think it's unreasonable for anyone over the age of 16 to actually care about what they receive for a birthday. £100 is a fairly substantial birthday present for a man in his 50s.

I suspect there is something else going on here, and it's not the gift he's upset about.

I think it’s a lovely gift, perhaps he’s having an affair and crying about feeling guilty about it after opening your present. Then lied and said he had a problem with the gift and left.

I suspect if you drive past his house he’ll have company…

don’t apologise, or chase after him. Accept the break up and move on. Sounds like you’re co parenting ok?