Partner kicked off at birthday gift

Crikey. Sounds like you might be well rid of this guy unless there’s some other significant context missing here. I certainly wouldn’t be chasing him to come back!!

If this is unusual, never-seen-before-behaviour, I'd be concerned something is going on with him that has him quite worried/depressed (finances, health, etc) and he's just gone over the edge.
Otherwise, lawyer up to make sure there will be suitable child support coming in.

Hm. Wonder what her name is and how long they've been having an affair.

An old boyfriend of mine used to say that he didn’t want anything for Christmas, he would constantly say it - so I didn’t get him anything and he was really upset - told him it taught him a lesson to say that he didn’t want anything when actually he obviously did.

Honestly, please do not give him the opportunity to call you a tight bitch ever again. Get him gone. And show him how much of a tight bitch you are by going to the CSA.

Ha Ha

£100 and he reckons nothing - after consistently saying he wants nothing, and then has a major tantrum? Did you say he was 50 because he is acting more like 5. Please don't ever take this vile apology for a man back

Was it his 50th Birthday? Maybe he was expecting something special for his big birthday.

He's obviusly got masssive issues around this and he's blaming you.

He's projecting past hurt onto you .

Not excusing this at all but if he ever wants to come back or apologise etc you must make him confront this and find out why it's so sensitive .

Manipulation would be the reason

So when you buy presents he doesn’t use them or seemingly want them. When you ask he refuses to say and when you give him a voucher he swears at you!!?!!
Yeah I couldn’t be putting up with that. He sounds nasty and selfish.
I would say don’t have him back but it’s easier said than done. If you do accept him back I’d want an agreement for birthdays/xmas going forward.
Dh and I spend (approx ) £100 at each and give each other’s few ideas in the month or so before.

He was looking for an excuse to leave. Played his part. Left.

I would wonder if he isn't enjoying the arrival of your dc and is looking for a way out.

Too hard work. He would be an x. Goodbuy.

You gave him a very generous gift. He is pathetic and manipulative. It’s a shame you have a child with him, you could do without that tether. Ideally you should sack this off completely.

He’s 50 years old
By now he should’ve learnt some manners and grace.

He wouldn’t be given a second chance from me, let him storm off to his empty house , he can look after himself, he really doesn’t deserve a loving family to come home to.

He is trying to break you down, make you tiptoe around his possible anger so you will do everything he wants without question in future for fear of his reaction.

When he comes sniffing back under the pretence of “are you going to show me that you do love me” banner I would give some consideration into saying “After that reaction I have had time to think and going forward separate houses and a co-parenting relationship will be better for all of us, I have no idea why you were so angry and I am not about to start to try and guess how you might react at any given moment so let’s keep things as they are”

If you let him back @whatthehellyy you have years of misery before you can get him to leave again.

This. He's a manipulative shit. You have done nothing wrong.

What sort of spoilt infantile lemon sits crying in their 50s because they didn’t ask for anything for their bday so their partner spent £100 on something they thought would be appreciated?

Come on. You know you are not in the wrong. Good riddance to bad rubbish.

This is the start of The Script.

@whatthehellyy You know how he behaved was massively rude and unnecessary. The big questions are, "Have you had enough of his immature actions and behaviors? Are you going to move on so your child learns how to act like a caring, kind and grateful person? Are you happy with a man like that?"

I truly hope your answers are yes, yes, no.

Thats honestly insane. Grown man crying about it and also $100 and dinner is not nothing

So you spent £100 on him but that’s not enough for him 🙄

Because you took off his power to rubbish or ignore your gift. You ruined his power play.

What’s he spent/ bought you for birthdays and Christmas etc to give us a comparison?