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Orgasm headache - A&E?!

160 replies

Lilyloolock · 19/09/2026 11:04

Sorry for the TMI but I'll get it over with quickly.

90 mins or so ago my Saturday morning lie in ended in the way it often does, with a masturbation induced orgasm.

TMI over 😀

immediately afterwards,.for the first time in my life, a thunderclap headache.

I have read about these before (including on here). I now feel fine, and have since got up, had some toast, had a shower etc. exactly as normal. But I have googled it and it said that if it's the first time I should go to A&E immediately! This seems to go against the advice on here, and I feel absolutely fine now as if nothing happened.

I really don't want to spend the day in a&e but I also really don't want to die! AIBU to ignore Dr Google (who also told me I had skin cancer when I was actually just wearing the wrong clothes in hot weather) or do I really need to have the world's most embarrassing trip to a&e?

OP posts:
alexdgr8 · 19/09/2026 13:30

Saturdayisthebestday · 19/09/2026 11:28

Is it an accident, no.
Is it an emergency, also no.

A&E for a brief headache after a wank?! I've heard it all now.

How do you know it's not a medical emergency.
How does anyone without expert consultation and use of electronic monitoring and lab services.
Do you really understand what a medical emergency is or might be.
These kind of dismissive comments can be dangerous in deterring people from seeking relevant medical input.

BrummiMummi · 19/09/2026 13:29

ForMerryPinkCat · 19/09/2026 12:09

Thanks for posting this - I get cough headaches- thankfully they seem more icepick than thunderclap!

HelpMeGetThrough · 19/09/2026 13:25

Saturdayisthebestday · 19/09/2026 11:28

Is it an accident, no.
Is it an emergency, also no.

A&E for a brief headache after a wank?! I've heard it all now.

Perhaps it was a mind blowing one.

Greybeardy · 19/09/2026 13:24

the risk with a sudden headache in this scenario is the very small chance of a 'sentinel' bleed, ie. a small warning bleed before a subarachnoid haemorrhage. A severe but short-lived headache shortly after orgasm ticks the box for that being a possibility. There are other, less worrying causes of post-orgasm headaches, but a sentinel bleed is the one you don't want to miss. It is worth at least speaking to a real life HCP today to get their advice (which may well be that a trip to ED is sensible if it's the first time it's ever happened). Giving an accurate history of what happened may not be the most comfortable experience, but actually it is quite important in this scenario. Most people with a headache after orgasm don't have major pathology, but a significant chunk of people who have a 'proper' subarachnoid bleed have sentinel headaches before the event - it would be daft to miss the opportunity to intervene early.

fumingrightnow1 · 19/09/2026 13:24

So what is a thunderclap headache?

fumingrightnow1 · 19/09/2026 13:23

Chockachip · 19/09/2026 12:01

I have ‘ice pick’ headaches all the time and ignore them. I always assumed a ‘thunderclap’ headache was grasping at your head screaming type pain that wouldn’t dissipate a minute later?

Same ive never had a thunderclap headache as far as im aware and I had a subdural hematoma. I however do have icepick headaches multiple times a day

Brendayouknowthatyouremuchtoolazy · 19/09/2026 13:22

I get this (or similar) frequently and always have done. It's an intense pain at the base of my skull, sort of in the bones rather than in my head if that makes sense. Always goes within a few minutes. I think mine is linked to head position, as I sometimes get it at other times too.

NCTDN · 19/09/2026 13:14

Hope you are ok now. Did you go?

blackcatlove · 19/09/2026 13:12

There’s a lot of appalling advice in this thread. You need to go to A and E.

blackcatlove · 19/09/2026 13:09

Oh and I work in general practice and in 111. Don’t bother with those and just go straight to A and E not a utc/miu.

blackcatlove · 19/09/2026 13:08

Thunderclap headache is a red flag and I’d be sending you to A and E for review.

StolenCookie · 19/09/2026 13:07

I’ve had this exact thing after an orgasm. I had to have a lumbar puncture to make sure it was nothing serious. It’s not really worth gambling with. It’s a pain in the arse but you should get checked.

ThreadGuardDog · 19/09/2026 13:00

Saturdayisthebestday · 19/09/2026 12:07

Not spreading misinformation, simply stating my opinion. The fact that the OP herself admitted to feeling fine now was encouraging. I will stand corrected if the hospital says otherwise.

You absolutely are spreading misinformation. The fact that OP feels fine isn’t encouraging at all - it’s totally irrelevant. These headaches are indicative of brain haemorrhage, they are taken very seriously by medics and should always be investigated ASAP.

aliceyyyy2654 · 19/09/2026 12:57

HollyhocksandPeons · 19/09/2026 11:38

111? Telephone operators medically untrained with a script? Maybe call a GP receptionist for triage as well?

Most GPs not open at weekends, 111 is there for that reason

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 19/09/2026 12:55

Quetzo · 19/09/2026 12:33

Yes, but to be fair even a broken clock is right twice a day. Someone stubs a toe on here and people advise A&E because their aunt’s-next-door-neighbour’s-dog walker once had sepsis after a toe injury.

I’m not suggesting OP do one thing or another - but asking for medical advice on mumsnet is a uniformly disastrous idea. Uninformed people will wade in with their panic, and any real clinical medics would be professionally well-advised to steer clear of giving any comment on an anonymous internet platform with no context.

But it’s like ‘ask the audience’, with a very wide audience. Probably a better informed than average audience, given that it’s a print medium.

Crumpelstiltskin · 19/09/2026 12:54

Saturdayisthebestday · 19/09/2026 12:05

Eh? What the chuff are you on about?! NHS is on its knees with people like the OP clogging it up unnecessarily. Perhaps read my other posts and see I am not the tin foil hat wearer you think I am.

Your advice is incorrect and ignorant.

The OP should go to her local ED, whether she decides to or not is, of course, entirely up to her.

Pigglywigglywoos · 19/09/2026 12:51

Hope you're ok, OP. Never heard of thunderclap or ice pick headaches before ... off to research...

GreenFootstool · 19/09/2026 12:50

PinkEasterbunny · 19/09/2026 12:47

By all means seek medical advice, but I would be embarrassed and would have to change details of the “incident”. Could you have been doing your normal morning press-ups/work out etc?

That's absolutely stupid though. Embarrassed vs dead through giving incorrect info is not a good choice.

Do you think the medical staff are all chaste and will judge you for masturbating?

Be an adult. It's not embarrassing, it's about healthcare.

pigmygoatsinjumpers · 19/09/2026 12:50

PinkEasterbunny · 19/09/2026 12:47

By all means seek medical advice, but I would be embarrassed and would have to change details of the “incident”. Could you have been doing your normal morning press-ups/work out etc?

I would not encourage anyone to give misinformation when a detailed medical history is being taken.

Owl55 · 19/09/2026 12:50

I’d love a thunderclap orgasm , sounds fun!

Musicaltheatremum · 19/09/2026 12:49

Saturdayisthebestday · 19/09/2026 12:07

Not spreading misinformation, simply stating my opinion. The fact that the OP herself admitted to feeling fine now was encouraging. I will stand corrected if the hospital says otherwise.

You can get an initial small bleed that seems fine then a bigger bleed.
It should be taken seriously and she needs assessment.
Having worked in neurology, ITU and a renal transplant unit assessing people with bleeds for organ donation I've seen it happen. It may be fine but until she is assessed by a medical professional you can't tell.

PinkEasterbunny · 19/09/2026 12:47

By all means seek medical advice, but I would be embarrassed and would have to change details of the “incident”. Could you have been doing your normal morning press-ups/work out etc?

Seziah · 19/09/2026 12:47

Only you know whether it was the worst headache of your life, or a sharp pain that might’ve happened because you had been panting/sweating/tensing. If it was really bad and you are worried I would go to A&E to be safe

MarchionessVonSausage · 19/09/2026 12:43

ThreadGuardDog · 19/09/2026 11:56

Very dangerous ‘advice’. Orgasms can induce thunderclap headaches. They can be deadly. Even after they’ve dissipated because of the risk of haemorrhage. The advice is to always seek immediate medical advice.

Edited

I hope you're ok OP?

I'd not heard of thunderclap headaches before & didn't know what a risk they are. Blimey! I had no idea an orgasm could be that deadly.

Annoyedbyhusband · 19/09/2026 12:41

My ex boyfriend’s sister died in her teens from a burst blood vessel in her brain after a hot bath. I wasn’t there but by all accounts she was in so much pain and it just escalated and escalated. I get migraines and so this always worries me. I think if in doubt do get checked out.