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aliceofyork · 19/09/2026 11:27

he is a deeply damaged unpleasant man who had had 4 wives and several
of his children do not communicate with him. I think he is spinning bullshit to make money out of his deceased sister, and he’s a fucking disgrace.

ClaudiaNaughton · 19/09/2026 11:26

I could imagine KC saying they’ll forget her soon enough referring to the crowds. Even he wouldn’t think her family would ever forget her.

Ukisgaslit · 19/09/2026 11:26

I don’t know a great deal about Spencer but I know he has recently spoken about how he suffered abuse as a child at boarding school

Im sure that can take a life time to work through and may have affected his marriages.

I heard him interviewed on Giles Brandreths podcast and he came across well .

Pineneedlesincarpet · 19/09/2026 11:24

Just goes to show, for all the titles and lineage, that members of the aristocracy can still be absolute classless money-grubbing oiks just like anyone else.

JustGoogleIt15 · 19/09/2026 11:22

BlueMum16 · 19/09/2026 11:03

He has apparently said as it's approaching the 30 year anniversary he didn't want to read hearsay and bystander accounts and felt it appropriate to tell his side.

I believe him.

If he were to give the money to charity I might start to wonder if perhaps he MIGHT be perhaps maybe telling the truth

As it is I think he's an absolute lying cunt

Ukisgaslit · 19/09/2026 11:22

sesquipedalian · 19/09/2026 09:35

IF this is true, why has it only come out now? If the Earl of Spencer had said something at the time, the papers would have been all over it, and it would have been very damaging to the royal family, who were at a low ebb at the time. I’m sorry, but I think this is a convenient and sensationalist remembering to sell a few books. Let’s not forget, this is a man who wasn’t even invited to his own daughters’ weddings.

No I doubt he would have said it at the time Harry was around 12 and they had been through the trauma of Diana’s death

They are all middle aged and older now .
Why shouldn’t he have his say ?

The Windsors have been having their say via their media for decades

number1of7 · 19/09/2026 11:21

I believe him.

FlamingoFloss · 19/09/2026 11:13

sesquipedalian · 19/09/2026 09:35

IF this is true, why has it only come out now? If the Earl of Spencer had said something at the time, the papers would have been all over it, and it would have been very damaging to the royal family, who were at a low ebb at the time. I’m sorry, but I think this is a convenient and sensationalist remembering to sell a few books. Let’s not forget, this is a man who wasn’t even invited to his own daughters’ weddings.

I agree with this. He has an expensive house to maintain and wants to sensationalise so more of his books sell. Why wait 29 years otherwise?

the relationship between Charles and his ex brother in law was strained at the time when the Kinv was supposed to have said this. When someone is stressed/suffering grief their perspective can differ. He may have made an interpretation that he absolutely believes to be true but was not what was said

InQuiresandplaceswheretheysing · 19/09/2026 11:10

I don’t believe him
at all. From what I understand Charles and Diana were on good terms before her death and he was devastated by it.

LittleBearPad · 19/09/2026 11:07

BlueMum16 · 19/09/2026 11:03

He has apparently said as it's approaching the 30 year anniversary he didn't want to read hearsay and bystander accounts and felt it appropriate to tell his side.

I believe him.

Did he… what a hero.

Of course the money he’ll earn from digging over his sister’s memory again won’t hurt at all

Wolfpa · 19/09/2026 11:06

I think you have to ask yourself about who this benefits and the only answer I can think of is himself.

never trust someone who is after money.

you will also find some undesirable traits looking into Charles Spencer’s history. That family sold Diana like a prize cow. They knew exactly what the relationship would look like but wanted the prestige of being close to the Royal Family.

BlueMum16 · 19/09/2026 11:03

sesquipedalian · 19/09/2026 09:35

IF this is true, why has it only come out now? If the Earl of Spencer had said something at the time, the papers would have been all over it, and it would have been very damaging to the royal family, who were at a low ebb at the time. I’m sorry, but I think this is a convenient and sensationalist remembering to sell a few books. Let’s not forget, this is a man who wasn’t even invited to his own daughters’ weddings.

He has apparently said as it's approaching the 30 year anniversary he didn't want to read hearsay and bystander accounts and felt it appropriate to tell his side.

I believe him.

Funandnames · 19/09/2026 11:01

emuloc · 19/09/2026 09:44

Even if it is true that KC said that, Charles Spencer should have done the decent thing, and kept his counsel. It is really not on, what he has done here. Has he forgotten he has nephews?

It’s very curious for him to make such a huge statement like this. The implication is he does not support the Monarchy - and thereby he does not want his nephew to be king (or at least is deliberately hurting the popularity of what his nephew will inherit). It’s hard to believe his sister would want her son to be hurt this way?

The Diana-William link is where Charles Spencer really loses me. Diana would have supported William (and Harry) in her own way no matter what. She probably would have helped them sort out their issues.

Diana would put William’s wellbeing above her brother’s ‘truth’ without question. Charles Spencer is harming his sister’s child and it’s not ok.

backformoreofthesame · 19/09/2026 11:01

There is a royal family topic please. This isn’t news it’s cheap gossip from people whose celebrity status comes from birth not their capabilities

LittleBearPad · 19/09/2026 11:00

Vitrolinsanity · 19/09/2026 10:49

I suppose he has to throw in a few spicy bits, after all we all know he was Diana’s brother and there’s not much more of a story in that anymore.

I’m surprised the Palace issued the statement at all, let alone at the speed they did when it would’ve been clear as day that would be the enduring sound bite and endlessly picked over.

Maybe it was said in the heat of grief and pressure, which would have been off the scale at the time. But it was also clear at the time that any hope of Diana being forgotten was never going to be the case.

I can also well imagine CS as a goady little fuck who could quite easily provoke an angry outburst. I can remember his funeral speech very clearly and it was laced with spite, not just the words but the delivery.

I think it’s worth reminding people of this quote, made about his wife and mother of his children at the time of their divorce:

"Well, those who know Victoria know she's thick – and she's also thin."

But it was also clear at the time that any hope of Diana being forgotten was never going to be the case.

I’m not so sure. Yes she wouldn’t be forgotten completely but ask anyone under 30/25? about her and I doubt they know much or are interested. I doubt they’re interested in the RF at all tbh. Time moves on.

Still I doubt the King said exactly what Spencer is alleging. Equally tempers and emotions were likely running high.

At least his next divorce will be funded though.

DogAndFog · 19/09/2026 10:58

WonderingWanda · 19/09/2026 10:54

People say all sorts of things in the heat of the moment, in emotionally charged situations and given the breakdown of his marriage I can only imagine how cross both men might have been at one another. Regardless of who treated who badly, it is appalling of Charles Spencer to be airing dirty laundry in this way.

I think the public have a right to know what sort of person their King is.

WonderingWanda · 19/09/2026 10:54

People say all sorts of things in the heat of the moment, in emotionally charged situations and given the breakdown of his marriage I can only imagine how cross both men might have been at one another. Regardless of who treated who badly, it is appalling of Charles Spencer to be airing dirty laundry in this way.

Madamecholetsbonnet · 19/09/2026 10:50

I totally believe him

MotherofPufflings · 19/09/2026 10:50

I believe he believes it. I don't believe it actually happened.

Dollymylove · 19/09/2026 10:50

I wonder why hes taken nearly 30 years to write this book.
I suppose these big aristocratic estates are expensive to maintain.
Oh and of course 3 divorces wouldnt have come cheap......

Vitrolinsanity · 19/09/2026 10:49

I suppose he has to throw in a few spicy bits, after all we all know he was Diana’s brother and there’s not much more of a story in that anymore.

I’m surprised the Palace issued the statement at all, let alone at the speed they did when it would’ve been clear as day that would be the enduring sound bite and endlessly picked over.

Maybe it was said in the heat of grief and pressure, which would have been off the scale at the time. But it was also clear at the time that any hope of Diana being forgotten was never going to be the case.

I can also well imagine CS as a goady little fuck who could quite easily provoke an angry outburst. I can remember his funeral speech very clearly and it was laced with spite, not just the words but the delivery.

I think it’s worth reminding people of this quote, made about his wife and mother of his children at the time of their divorce:

"Well, those who know Victoria know she's thick – and she's also thin."

kirinm · 19/09/2026 10:47

LuckyHazelFox · 19/09/2026 09:49

Another witch hunt thread.

What are the chances that you’re all over the H&M threads?

rememberingthem · 19/09/2026 10:43

Earl spencer is as loose with the truth as his sister was and his nephew is!

BitOutOfPractice · 19/09/2026 10:39

AnneLovesGilbert · 19/09/2026 09:48

He said he’d protect the Princes. This is the opposite.

I think this is exactly what she would want tbh.

HexInductionHour · 19/09/2026 10:39

Sereine · 19/09/2026 10:11

YABVU to start yet another thread about this.

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