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Error404FucksNotFound · 19/09/2026 13:15

I expect he did say it, and probably worse about her over the years. He is far from the first cheating bastard to hate his victim.

Notsosweetcaroline · 19/09/2026 13:10

He sounds beleivable but he is trying to sell a book. Quite frankly even if he did say it. She was his ex wife and they had a very acrimonious split. There was no love lost there,and it’s been nearly 30 years.and the moment was very emotionally charged, who the hell can remember what was said 30 years ago

and what’s the upshot. Charles didn’t like his ex. Plenty don’t.

ginasevern · 19/09/2026 13:07

@hardshoulderr "He unceremoniously threw his dads wife out of their home when he died. Stuff in bin bags"

It was a joint decision by Charles Spencer and Princess Diana to evict their stepmother (Raine McCorquodale) following their father's death in 1992. They disliked her with a passion and nicknamed her "Acid Raine". Raine was wealthy (and very well connected) in her own right and went to live in her Mayfair town house, so she was hardly destitute.

TB23 · 19/09/2026 12:51

There are no winners here. Spencer wants to make money with a book and wasn't a great brother. Charles was an awful husband, so who knows what he said. Let the woman rest in peace, she wasn't perfect either. I don't know many people, especially younger ones, who are that interested in all this, which is probably the biggest problem for the royals.

LizzieW1969 · 19/09/2026 12:46

Livpool · 19/09/2026 12:32

YABU to care. Both Charles are immoral hypocrites. CS has had many affairs so not sure about judging CW. Two toffs arguing about something from 30 years ago is pathetic, off with both their heads.

Now this I agree with completely.

Middletoleft · 19/09/2026 12:38

No I don't. I do believe that Charles Spencer is totally obnoxious though. He's been trading on Diana forever.

Charles X would have more sense than to be brutally honest with Charles Spencer.

Winterizcoming · 19/09/2026 12:34

Maybe he did maybe he didn’t but it’s a shit thing to do to bring this up after all these decades just to make some cash

CuriousToad · 19/09/2026 12:32

I think you can believe he’s telling the truth, but also think he’s a shit for saying it publicly to sell his book. Both sides can be shitty and unlikeable.

Livpool · 19/09/2026 12:32

YABU to care. Both Charles are immoral hypocrites. CS has had many affairs so not sure about judging CW. Two toffs arguing about something from 30 years ago is pathetic, off with both their heads.

AI41 · 19/09/2026 12:30

BIWI · 19/09/2026 09:57

Please could you move this to the Royal Family board?
TIA
A
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She can post where she likes. Just hide the thread
and get a grip.

Witchlite · 19/09/2026 12:18

I think the old saying of Your truth, My truth and what actually happened is likely to play a role here.

Can I imagine HRH Charles said inappropriate things - yes.
Was Charles Spencer hurt on behalf of his family - yes.

should it be aired in public - no! My DGM used to say that things said and done between death and funeral should be forgiven, forgotten, or at least not mentioned.

So why bring it up now? The obvious answer is money, revenge and to control the narrative at the anniversary of Diana’s death. All are poor judgement by Charles Spencer - he is not an honourable actor in this.

This doesn’t mean HRH acted well to Diana or during this period, that is a separate thing. He doesn’t deserve to have it raked up, nor do his sons.

i think Charles Spencer is acting poorly here.

PurplGirl · 19/09/2026 12:17

It’s probably true, but honestly, who cares! We say all sorts of things in anger in private. Are you telling me you’ve got to the age you are without saying anything in haste that you now regret? This isn’t a Disney movie where people are hero’s or villains. Earl Spencer did and said plenty of questionable things when it came to his sister. KC made plenty of mistakes also. People in glass houses and all that.

shecanbe · 19/09/2026 12:05

Well look, none of us know any of them and nobody can ever say what may or may not have happened.

The main concern I have is that CS would never have felt the need to disclose this remark if it wasn't for his book. He could have talked about this years ago.

Aren't Harry and Meghan hanging out on CS' estate these days - did I hear a reason for them moving to that area is to be near Diana's family estate etc? What's going in there?

Why did Harry make a huge fuss about not being able to bring his family to the U.K. for a visit - then within a few weeks, they've bought a house. What a drama llama.

Surely they have people to check out schools for them? Who starts their kids in a school, for 2 days and then changes the school?

Well, Harry has his book and now this. I'm sure there will be more to come.

Summerlilly · 19/09/2026 12:00

Theres 3 sides to every story, his, his and the truth and the truth is what we are never going to get.
KC can’t prove otherwise and CS is doing this for money, so his motives are dirty.
He’s on his 4th wife, that’s an expensive lifestyle he’s paying for.

hardshoulderr · 19/09/2026 11:40

Badvocthebad · 19/09/2026 11:35

Look, none of these people are remotely normal.
They are all very damaged and pretty unpleasant.
Bring on a republic!

Exactly. At least we can bin a president

Ihateboris · 19/09/2026 11:40

I think it's true but I don't think he should be writing about it.

hardshoulderr · 19/09/2026 11:39

He unceremoniously threw his dads wife out of their home when he died. Stuff in bin bags
not such sympathetic guy

TheRoyalInkPot · 19/09/2026 11:37

FlamingoFloss · 19/09/2026 11:13

I agree with this. He has an expensive house to maintain and wants to sensationalise so more of his books sell. Why wait 29 years otherwise?

the relationship between Charles and his ex brother in law was strained at the time when the Kinv was supposed to have said this. When someone is stressed/suffering grief their perspective can differ. He may have made an interpretation that he absolutely believes to be true but was not what was said

Id say Charles W had more going on and more stress than Charles S in terms of being royal being an ex being a dad to two devestated sons being bosses by dad protocol and the public and then his ex bil. ..and yes Camilla to think about .

Charles S had one or two streams to navigate Charles W had the whole ocean.
So id say it's more like Charles W is the one who can't remember and as Charles s said you don't forget only two calls to the king

Badvocthebad · 19/09/2026 11:35

Look, none of these people are remotely normal.
They are all very damaged and pretty unpleasant.
Bring on a republic!

LadyWiddiothethird · 19/09/2026 11:34

Spencer has always been an unpleasant man,he and Diana were not close.He has always had a spiteful streak,so no I don’t believe him.

TheRoyalInkPot · 19/09/2026 11:34

Ukisgaslit · 19/09/2026 11:22

No I doubt he would have said it at the time Harry was around 12 and they had been through the trauma of Diana’s death

They are all middle aged and older now .
Why shouldn’t he have his say ?

The Windsors have been having their say via their media for decades

Agree, maybe he feels he needs to bat for not onny dianas side but also Harry....showing there are indeed two sides to a story and showing us what Harry was up against.

Ukisgaslit · 19/09/2026 11:31

TheRoyalInkPot · 19/09/2026 11:29

Human nature is very complex it's perfectly plausible that KC did feel all those emotions at once and also lost it with Charles S?
He can feel grief , shock and relief can't he ?
Mixed emotions ?

Hissing
‘We will forget her soon enough !

about the recent death of the mother of your children is ‘losing it ‘?

Depraved more like

TheRoyalInkPot · 19/09/2026 11:31

@aliceofyork all that maybe true it doesn't mean he is lying
It also goes some way to explain his eulogy and sheer rage at the king.

TheRoyalInkPot · 19/09/2026 11:29

Human nature is very complex it's perfectly plausible that KC did feel all those emotions at once and also lost it with Charles S?
He can feel grief , shock and relief can't he ?
Mixed emotions ?

Ukisgaslit · 19/09/2026 11:28

Yes OP I saw a clip of the interview - it’s in full tomorrow I think.

Spencer was completely believable.