To wonder if I die, will there be a coffin big enough because I'm so fat?

If you're looking to start the weight loss injections try different providers. I have crohns and lots of providers just straight out reject me, but I have found a few that will ask for further information on my condition, and ask follow up questions before making a decision. I use Wegovy and there is a comparison site that allows you to filter providers that may accept certain conditions. Its igovy.co.uk

Im going to suggest chair exercises. I was very ill earlier in the year and was too weak to exercise. One really efficient one is heel raises. Literally as it sounds sit down and lift your heels ,then lower. You do this for around 10-15 minutes,although if younferlmot hurting before that stop.also things like moving your legs to the side. Id also recommend giving up ultraprocessed foods. Not being able to just buy a meal and bung it in the microwave makes you a lot more mindful about what you're eating.

I know this will sound patronising but so many chronic diseases are caused by obesity and many of them need you to change what you eat so you might as well do it before you make yourself even more ill than you are now.

Why is it “impossible”? You just don’t buy the food then you can’t eat it because you do not have it. It’s obviously harder to choose not to eat if your body is falsely telling you that you need to, but it is still a choice. All weight loss treatments (dieting, surgery, drugs) that are effective ultimately work in the same way because it is the only way to lose weight: they result in the person eating less food. It’s simply false to pretend otherwise.

OP I hope you find something that works for you. It sounds like you need private help from a specialist to determine the most appropriate treatment for you. The NHS is utterly useless for pretty much anything these days. It also sounds like you are feeling very low to be having such dark thoughts which will not help so it would be best to throw all of your resources at therapy and proper treatment from competent non-NHS doctors, even it you have to borrow the money to do so.

I have had thyroid cancer OP and couldn’t get the jabs privately from most suppliers due to their algorithms. However I knew from research it wasn’t the specific type of thyroid cancer which is a problem with WLIs. Asda pharmacy was the only one able to take this into account as their online forms are more detailed. It has cost me a lot more than some of the other providers would have, but it is possible to get it if you also fall into this category. So it depends which type is in the family?

No she didn’t, she said she was refused privately, but thats incredibly odd. A familial history of thyroid cancer shouldn’t stop a prescription. But she’s not come back to name the pharmacy

the nhs really don’t give them to many people. They are aiming for 200 thousand people after 3 years, in the uk there is now over 7 million on them, nearly all privately and 22 million eligible.

you need a bmi of over 4o and 4 out of 5 weight related health conditions, and even then they are likely to offer bariatric surgery before they give the meds, it’s a crazy funding issue, so nearly everyone has to go private

OP says Not eligible for weight loss medication and cannot get it privately as have a family history of thyroid cancer. - I took this to mean her ineligibility [on the NHS] and inability to get it privately were both due to the history of cancer, as OP doesn't give a different reason for the ineligibility. I appreciate it could be interpreted either way.

Bless you, there are many people around who weigh as much as you.

I hope you get better help managing your weight gain.

Coffins are optional - its possible to have a shroud and no coffin. The law only says you cant have a body 'exposed' in public.

@AppleJuiceAvid I hope you will be here for many years to come and, in particular, that you can access the right support to lose weight safely.

I have found this resource online which might reassure you about oversized coffins. As an incidental point, if you google 'oversized coffins' there are lots of results saying that coffins in general are getting larger in the UK and crematoria are adapting for larger sized caskets. https://farewill.com/articles/how-to-buy-a-coffin-for-someone-with-obesity

I would finally add that, although I appreciate you want a dignified ending and as stress free a process as possible for your loved ones, the approach I take to my death always has an underlying mental caveat that, in the final analysis, none of it will be my problem to solve and whatever happens, I won't be there to worry that it's the wrong thing or not what I would have wanted.

I've told my family my wish is that I'm disposed of as quietly and inexpensively as possible, but if they want to do something else, good luck to them!

No, OP said that when she has tried to get them privately, she has been put off by a history of thyroid cancer. Presumably when answering the questions about medical history

She hasnt tried to get them on the NHS.

I would imagine the NHS will find any reason to try to deny them to her even if she has got the criteria conditions.

Its incredibly rare to be prescribed them. She is unlucky enough to have a number of the right things wrong with her, if that makes sense.

In a minor way, the main risk is increase in hunger, or what you think is hunger. I have lived this by the way

The reality is, you need to consume fewer calories, the only way to do that is to be supported by medication, you cant do it on your own, all this talk of 'just eat less' 'throw away treats'. Yes, that is technically correct, but almost impossible for the average human to do without medical help, either by WLI or surgery.

OP says it's due to familial history of thyroid cancer.

Coffins come in various sizes. They will be able to make one for you. My husband used to be an undertaker and the coffins they used were made onsite to the measurements of the deceased.

My relative was a huge man, 6ft 6 and equally as wide. He had a custom made coffin and was wheeled in to the crematorium on a trolley thing. They'd have needed an entire football team to carry him.

Yes they do for some, your body becomes acclimatised to them, you can then switch to something else, its the same as any medication.

the GP has told me that two of the tablets i am on for anxiety/depression will increase my weight. it is harder to lose weight with them but we can only but try good luck

My lovely MIL was no more than 4st when she died, and her coffin was wheeled in. I think it’s becoming much more common. FIL was probably closer to 20st and also wheeled. It’s just how our local funeral directors do it.

OP, I’ve been close to where you are, and I 100% get it. Weight loss injections have changed my life. I did have a full thyroidectomy a few years ago so that does change the cancer risk, but I would really suggest you speak to another doctor, or push the issue with your GP. For me, any WLI risks were negated by the benefits. Best thing I ever did, and I think I was in a similar place to you mentally.

I’m 11st down, a size 14, and just back from a hike. Life is incredible, and worth living.

Agree. I'm astounded that at 26 stone,you're not eligible for weight loss injections. I know someone that is 22 stone who qualified for them on the NHS.

This isn't true. Yes, they increase hunger, but they also change the metabolism.

My relative died years ansld years ago and was extremely big and he was in a coffin so no problem back then but was wheeled into the service on a trolley. Same as a colleague, she was wheeled in, tbh I didnt even notice her coffin was a larger size but she was to heavy to be carried in.

My friend has no thyroid is on WLI.

My friend was a larger lady and was buried last year, so yes, don’t worry about coffins. They have equipment to make the procedure easier.

I’m sorry you’re feeling like this 😢 I think the benefits of the weight loss injections would be greater than the risks, but obviously that’s your own choice. I hope you get something that helps you x

Please try again to get some help, either GLP1 or surgery, hypnosis, anything that could make it easier for you to lose weight. It is so sad to be thinking about dying rather than living, though I do understand your state of mind, having been big myself. I really hope you are able to find a way forward.

Several years ago now we had to have my mother in laws coffin ordered in because she was very large and it needed to have a reinforced bottom. We were also advised it would not fit in the crematorium but we were planning on burial anyway. It didn’t affect burial plot at all that we know of, or we were not charged for a bigger plot anyway. She was also very short (4foot 6) so that affected the coffin they needed for her also.

Not if its a direct cremation

Yes its rare fir a cofin to be burned with the body these days and if they do they 1st remove all the handles and metal fittings and they are rented separately