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Birthday party tomorrow but daughter is ill and may miss it

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ShitMumsClubMember · 18/09/2026 20:32

More of a what would you do in this situation , but basically I’m screwed and feeling sorry for myself.

It’s my daughter birthday tomorrow. I’ve spent a small fortune on her party, we’ve agreed it’s her last full class party. She’s been sent home from school today poorly. She’s not sick, but has slept all afternoon, has a bad headache and keeps going from hot to cold. being realistic, she’s not going to feel well enough to attend the party tomorrow. It’s a drop your child and leave party, I’ve got 20+ kids coming and it’s a morning party. So now I’ve got to arrange for my mum to look after my child, so I can look after all her friends at a party that’s cost me a fortune. Even worse? I’ve skimped on the goodie bags and planned to bulk them up with birthday cake. Which means I either give them half empty goodie bags and keep the 24 person birthday cake. Or take the birthday cake with us and make them all sing happy birthday to my child who won’t be there.

being realistic, there’s nothing I can do about it. But I’m so upset that I’ve made so much effort and she won’t even enjoy it. She will be poorly at home without me.

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User4590 · 18/09/2026 20:38

Honestly if she’s not got a gastro bug I would still take her. Just give the parents a heads up in case they want to stay at home.

Grain80 · 18/09/2026 20:38

Cancel it?

Thingcanonlygetbetter · 18/09/2026 20:36

Ah that’s awful, could she pop in for the cake only. What a nightmare. Any chance of moving it

Watchoutfortheslowaraf · 18/09/2026 20:34

If she definitely can’t attend, cancel it

OhNoooooooooooooooo · 18/09/2026 20:34

Where is this party.

She might be alright to attend and recover the rest of the weekend.