Birthday party tomorrow but daughter is ill and may miss it

You'd gain not essentially just babysitting a class full of hyped up kids!

She may perk up in the morning
fingers crossed
Not sure what to advise but if you do go without her and take the cake
i am not sure if this would be kind or cruel but you could do a video of them all singing H/Birthday

How old is she?

I think most parents will be expecting you to cancel as their kids probably mentioned she went home poorly. I would at least give parents the heads up she won’t be there if you go ahead without. My youngest isn’t keen on parties but will go to a close friend’s one to be a good friend but he wouldn’t bother if the birthday friend isn’t there (he’s not so keen on enforced fun)

I’d wake her up shortly and give another dose of Calpol then give her some more first thing and let her sleep as long as possible. See how many doses you can get in before the party (I mean with the right amount and hours between doses!).

I’m sure she’ll perk up enough to go to the party and might forget about it while she’s there if she’s caught up in the excitement.

You really don’t need to hold the party if she’s ill - cancel it!

Dose her up, good nights sleep and take her. Children bounce

If your dd isn’t well enough to go, message the other parents to see if they, or some of them, can stay and look after the kids. Or just say it’s no longer a drop and go but they’re welcome to take the kids along.

You couldn’t possibly be expected to go and supervise all these other kids yourself. Your dd will surely want her Mum at home. And don’t take her birthday cake, that’s just silly.

Agree with others, see how she is in the morning and cancel it. Or say to the other parents they could still go even though you won’t be there? Depends what type of party it is.

I would cancel even if the money was lost. It seems pointless and quite cruel to go ahead without your DD.

Still thinking about the horror of running a party without the bonus of my actual child having a wonderful time. I thought I was a nice person actually but this would never occur to me to do. I think you are lovely OP! But also think you should send a WhatsApp now to the guests and say ‘unfortunately Sarah is a bit under the weather today. Hoping tomorrow is better! Either way though - Super happy for the activity to go ahead tomorrow if enough of you can stay to supervise? I’d need to be home with her but she’d love to know her friends are having fun’ or whatever.

I would absolutely cancel. It would feel so much worse for her knowing all her friends are having fun without her. And you’d want to be with her too.

however, see how she is. Hopefully she perks up.

But you would gain not having to supervise other people's children at a party your child isnt at.

That is a gain.

Cancel it

It wouldn't cross my mind to hold the party if the child wasn't well. That's the whole point! Just cancel.

Im assuming its a soft play or something so he friends will have fun without her, and some might not do softplay very often

You would gain not looking after 20 kids that are not yours. I’d definitely cancel and send the goodie bags with cake into school on Monday.

I’m finding it odd that the party would go ahead without the birthday girl tbh.

I'd go ahead with the party even if it means doing Happy Birthday via Facetime or WhatsApp.

Cancelling you get nothing back and you have 20 disappointed kids.
Go ahead and the other kids will at least have fun.
And the Mums will remember you for the right reasons.

I'd get a small shop cake for home or keep a bit of the big cake, again what else are you going to do with it?
Give it away or bin it?

I'd tell DD you'll do something nice when she's better.

You’d gain a morning not supervising random children!

It would never occur to me not to cancel. No one would expect you to run a party for a non existent birthday child. Message round and ask if anyone wants to take ownership if you really can’t cancel any part of it? I wouldn’t be attending without my own kid though. Full stop.

I'd dose with calpol and go, but maybe have your dm on hand to take her home early if she needs to.

Failing that, I'd cancel the party.

See how she is in the morning. Earlier this week, I had the weirdest 24 hour bug. Horrendous stomach cramps, nauseous without actually being sick, a headache, extreme fatigue and fever symptoms, hot and cold. I had paracetamol, slept 13 hours straight, and woke feeling much better the next morning. Still a bit crampy in the stomach but by lunch time, I was fine and able to eat. It hit me at lunch time the day before.

She might be okay dosed up with calpol in the morning.

Depends what it is but if it's only a mild fever I'd hit it with Calpol for the sake of a couple of hours and then take her home to sleep.

90% of the time my kids seem to wake up the following morning fully cured. You might be surprised what a sleep and some calpol can do.

I wouldn't write it off just yet.

I was feeling very ill the day before my best friend's wedding, and I was one of her three bridesmaids so I knew I'd have to get through it somehow. I went to bed feeling like death and surprisingly the next day I was well enough to power through just feeling a bit tired. You'd never have known.

See how she is with some calpol in the morning? Sometimes they bounce back quickly. Otherwise I would cancel it and rearrange something small for a few of her close friends.

It’s a shame but it happens. My DD went to two birthday parties last school year where the birthday child wasn’t there due to illness.

But after a night’s sleep she really might be feeling much better, especially as it’s not a vomiting bug so if she does perk up, she should be ok.

You can give put the cake without any singing!