I (F) have a male colleague who I’ve worked with for over 10 years, we’re close friends at this point. His wife HATES me, she’s so insecure she feels the need to talk about me to other colleagues about me being nosey and in everyone’s business. I’ve actually only met her a handful of times in person and she’s always so fake to my face. It’s at the point where we no longer work together and she still brings me up in conversations with others. I find it so strange that someone can be that insecure about their marriage that any woman close to him becomes a threat. Just leave him if it’s that bad?! Interestingly she’s looking at the wrong woman, he’s been having an affair with another colleague for quite a while now. She even stopped me getting a promotion at one point by slating me to our employer and tarnishing my reputation. I feel no empathy for her when it comes to her being cheated on, women need to stop blaming other women for their husbands behaviours.
AIBU to be encouraging his affairs at this point? I almost feel like it’s revenge for how she’s behaved towards me, as childish as that is.
I’ll add I’ve only ever been nice to her like I am with all my colleagues partners. I ask questions about their lives and their kids etc because I’m interested in getting to know people at a deeper level. Sue me if I hate small talk about the bloody weather!!