To wonder what is like to have a healthy mind?

This was quite a difficult question!
Without wanting to sound absolutely idiotic, sometimes my mind isn’t doing anything- I think about whatever I’m doing- work, driving, cooking. I only really think about now . Bar the usual mum thoughts- have I washed the school shirts, wormed the cat, bought bananas……
I also have music in my head a lot, I often sing in my head to something I like.
Currently ironing, listening to the radio, wine on the go. Nothing else in my head at all , maybe I’m a bit brainless!

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Im like this but have never knowingly done anything to be like it - I think its just the way I am. My DH & one DC are the opposite & we do struggle to relate to each others experiences sometimes.

I think Im naturally resilient & trust myself & my judgement so I dont overthink anything. When I do have a 'big' decision to make I am logical & research my options but once I've made my decision I dont go over it again or question myself.

Stress free, drama free calm and peaceful life. Not to say nothing ever botherd me it will but it's a case of end of the day go to sleep wake up tomorrow is a new day, a new start and it's hardly ever worth it to continue thinking over and over about something that has already happened and can't be changed. Move forward and do what you can control.

Might be easier to try and limit your time, its okay to think it over and over butnwhehnits days and weeks, affecting youd health and your mood then that's too far. So for me I acknowledge it and give myself that day and thats it.

Solution focused hypnotherapy helps you to create new neural pathways in your brain which encourages positive thoughts, feelings and actions.
plus you only need around 10 sessions.

You might be doing too many things. Find a couple that help you focus on them.

CBT has lots of techniques you can try but in most case a lot made it worse.

I wouldnt dwell overmuch on this. We dont always need to express everything. Sometimes its cathartic but often it isnt, it becomes a wallow. Too much navel gazing on how we feel can be quite individualistic.

The happiest people in the world tend to be those who live in social groups where theres much less focus on the self and more focus on the group as a whole/others.

I’ve had CBT. I’ve had tons of trauma over the years. then a breakdown, you get it.

The part of the CBT that will help you the most is setting a time per day or week to worry about stuff. You write it down and store it for then.

I try to be mindful.

Therapy did it for me OP. Helped me let go of a very chaotic and harsh upbringing and become very kind to myself. I was an anxious mess into my mid 30s, at 44 I'm fairly chilled most of the time.

Or write things down & then burn them. Make it quite ceremonial to free yourself of them.

I just really dont overthink anything (my fears, feelings, worries), by distracting myself with other things, being to busy to ruminate.

Giving myself proportion helps. Someone else out there has it worse.

Accept/practise being in situations where you cant control everything & have to let it play out. Recognise the things you can control & the things you cant.

Do hobbies that require busy hands and concentration - learn to play piano,teach yourself to knit really complicated patterns, do watercolours. Things you finish/complete so your brain finds fulfilment.

Interesting Post.
Why do some drug adficts get addicted to drugs because of a painful childhood. Surely they just make their lives worse.

@Passionfruitsndorange yoga has been the most powerful tool for me. If you would like to DM me I’d happily go into more details.

Another couple of book recommendations, if you get through the others—
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
The Untethered Soul by Michael A Singer
These helped me immensely.

You sound like you are already doing a lot of this but what works for me is—committed daily meditation, breathwork, yoga, cold water immersion and exercise outside. No caffeine, alcohol, junk food.
Above all, eating as much fresh fruit and salad as I can.

I get that medication works for many, but I prefer not to take that route. I find all of the above massively beneficial.

Also works for a cry. After my unexpected divorce I would sometimes allow 10 minutes for a cry before my shower in the morning. Maybe a proper big sob because I was sad and felt sorry for myself! Then have a lovely hot shower and put it all behind me - maybe until tomorrow or next week or eventually forever. Good luck.

This is really good advice. Sometimes when I’ve had a problem I’ve almost scheduled some time to think about. Then after that banish it from my thoughts! The brain needs time to process different things.