AIBU to let my adult nephew move in after rent rise from my sister?

How on earth does your sister think she can dictate where a 24 year old lives?
Shes taken the proverbial with the rent increase and is now getting shirty because she’s losing the lot .

Is there any chance that he isnt saving very much at all currently and just spending it, isnt pulling his weight around the house, is being a pain in the arse in general and your sister is doing this to force him to grow up a bit? Just an idea. Would that 800 include food?

Imagine your sister trying to rinse her own, albeit adult child like this? £800 is STEEP!

Fuck me, you get dragged into this world without consent, kicking and screaming all the way, pot luck whether you get loving parents and then when you become an adult, trying to make your way in the world and save for that impossible mortgage your mother decides it's time for you to pay £800 to stay in the family home. The home that should be there for as long as you need it. Shocking!!

I agree that a nominal fee should be paid when your child starts work but £800 is taking the absolute piss!

This!
£800 for your own child. She’s played her hand now he’s decided not to take it. That’s her problem.

Wow. Undercut your sister? Poach a lodger? And virtue-signal at the same time. Wow. I must say freelancers break each other's legs for that. Wow.

He's 24!!! Send him a link to spareroom

Firstly I would like at places like Spareroom.com to see what prices are being charged for a room in a shared house with bills included to see whether your sister is way out of line. Personally I think £800 a month is far too much.

To put it into context Ds pays £215 per week for private halls of residence at university with an en-suite, access to the gym and all the entertainment, table football, pool table, cinema room, games console with games and massive social space to hang out with your mates.

Your nephew is an adult and he can move out any time he likes, his Mum is just pissed she is losing the money. She is making a profit from her son, that isn't money to cover his food and utilities.

If that was the case, why nastily accuse OP of trying to make money of him, rather than having a quiet word “look, he was a bit of a dick to live with so you might end up regretting this offer”.

He's 24 and an adult.

Your sister gets precisely no say in where he lives unless she's paying for it, which clearly she isn't.

This isn't a 16 year old where she would actually have the right to have a say on things.

If you're happy to have him live with you and you have the room then you can of course offer it if you want to.

£800 a month. Is she having a laugh! I live in London and my renting days are long over, but around where I live for £800 he could get a one bed with a friend and they use the bedroom and living room as bedrooms and socialise in a sit in kitchen. Not ideal, I know, prices are ridiculous. I’m guessing he could also get a room in a larger house share.

it sounds like your sister is annoyed at losing her income stream. Using your kid as income, rather than them simply covering their share of the bills is awful. That said, I appreciate your nephew wants to save, but this may simply have to take him longer. Being able to save on rent is a nice to have when working, rather than a necessity. It doesn’t sound like him being at home is a good idea, and you have to weigh up the impact on your relationship with your sister if he moves in.

Doesn’t sound like much to lose. Sister doesn’t sound very nice.

Your sister is being greedy and you absolutely should let your nephew stay with you. What sort of mother fleeces their own child?

I charge my son £300 to cover bills and food, £ 800 is way too much!

Your nephew is 24 - a grown adult. His mum should not be telling him where he can and cannot live. If he can find somewhere cheaper than the £800/month she is charging him I say good for him, especially as he is saving for his own place and working full time.

Suspect there is more to this mother - son relationship. Either she and her partner need the money or she is trying to stop him from buying his own place.

Don’t let him move in if you want a relationship with your ds. £800 is an awful lot to charge her own son, but maybe she is, as pp suggest, trying to force him out. Some parents might just want their house back!

I’d let him if you have room unless your sis is poor and would struggle with out the money

your sister sounds awful. Let him move in and contribute to bills and see how it goes.

Your nephew is fortunate to have you and it’s your business if you’re happy to take him in.

I had zero trusted adults when I was a young adult and my life would have been much better if I had other family members to rely on.

£800 for your childhood bedroom and no doubt still being treated like a child at home takes the piss.

you can rent some private rooms here for £500-600 with en-suite, bills and wifi.

Mumsnet is weird about this issue.

Most posters think it's morally wrong to charge your children rent, even when they're adults in their mid 20s.

But when it's a discussion about inheritance, many posters argue there's nothing wrong with leaving money where you like. And it's completely entitled to expect any money from your parents (even when they are wealthy).

I personally think it's the other way round. People are often tight for money in their life and families may need to club together- especially if they are living together long term. What's wrong with adults contributing? (However people should look out for their family when they die and don't need the money).

With your sister, unless there's a big backstory, I think you should stay out of it.

Your sister is being ridiculous

If he is a good kid, doesn’t cause trouble etc, I would take him in. Up to you whether you would charge rent but I think it’s a nice thing you can do for him. Your sister can get a lodger , if she is that desperate to make money.