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Archbishop of Canterbury withdraws award from Muslim cleric who praised Osama bin Laden

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SigmundinaCafe · 17/09/2026 23:19

I couldn't see another thread on this topic.

I'm a Christian (born into a Catholic family, yet not aligned to any particular Church) but am AIBU for thinking that that CoE has completely lost the plot? Everything about this stinks to high heaven. Are they not embarrassed or ashamed?

Before you get in to how dodgy this guy is, his wife can't even see properly because of how he makes her dress (see pictures of her niqab, her eyes are barely visible).

This was Nick Timothy on X yesterday:

"The Archbishop of Canterbury has given Hafiz Tahir Ashrafi an award for Reconciliation and Interfaith Cooperation. He's the chairman of the Pakistan Ulema Council - a group of Islamic scholars. The lady next to him is his wife. But why did the Church grant him this award?

Presumably not for his support for Islamic blasphemy laws in Pakistan and the death penalty that comes with them?

Nor for his reported comments that suicide bombings in Afghanistan were lawful?

(Ashrafi later claimed his comments were taken out of context, but they were deemed sufficiently serious for the NATO Secretary General to respond)

The naivety of our public institutions for engaging with people like this is staggering.

But not surprising.

We are failed time and again by liberals who believe other cultures are basically the same as ours, and the world is or wants to be just like
us."

Now I may be more sensitive than most because I'm a Christian and my husband is Jewish, but is it really too much to ask our institution of English national life not to cosey up to religious extremists who hold women in contempt (and who lets face it would be happy to see most of us dead).

He looks well fed though so clearly being the chairman of the Ulema Council pays very well!

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ckr50lrz5e6zo

www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2026/09/17/archbishop-award-911-anniversary-cleric-bin-laden/

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DointheDoo · 19/09/2026 08:03

I'm not going to lie, when I first saw that photo of him receiving the award I thought there were just two people in the picture. Didn't even clock the wife. She's been made invisible by that shroud she wears.

ThisWiseRobin · 19/09/2026 08:03

I was inconsolable yesterday..with rage .
I finally plucked up the courage to write to the Bishop of Derbys office.
Basically the announcement on Lambeth House website shows no remorse, no accountability and zero humility.
Ive asked the acting Bishop to raise this at Synod.
Will it happen....the hell it will !!!!
I feel after a lifetime of Anglo Catholisism I'm done.
The church represented a safe haven, a place which would stand up for right and truth in a world of deceit. No more.
I am having to shift myself to a Protestant church....no drama, but not what I am used to and face the heartbreak of leaving those I love behind. I'm praying for guidance but this woman is poison

MaidOfSteel · 18/09/2026 23:13

WTAF! This kind of behaviour from the left, and yes I would consider them extreme, will hasten the end of our civilised society as we know it.

Moros · 18/09/2026 19:24

MissMappsGardenProduce · 18/09/2026 13:13

If you say so; although the fact you seem het up makes me think you know you're on a bit of a sticky wicket with that.

Your fantasies about how engaged I am with conspiracy theories is adorable.

MaturingCheeseball · 18/09/2026 15:31

JHound · 18/09/2026 11:07

Why do there need to be raves in Mosques just because the Christian leadership decided they were fine with one in one of their churches? Such a weird argument. It’s not like the local council forced the church to hold one.

I think you know that this is not the point I was making. I was wondering whether Sadiq Khan would publicly praise a rave in a mosque.

And I think you know full well that a whole body covering, although maybe a choice for a woman, actually has the purpose of fending off the male gaze. And that women not dressed modestly are considered at best lesser and at worst whores. A child in dd’s yr 5 class began to be fully covered, head to toe - ie at puberty a girl is considered to be sexually alluring.

Those (non-observant Muslims) who agree with all this are either fools or anti-establishment agitators.

Abitofalark · 18/09/2026 13:58

HeyThereDelila · 17/09/2026 23:53

YANBU. The ABC, and Welby before her, are a couple of out of touch naive leftie idiots who are making the CofE look evermore ridiculous and irrelevant.

Slavery reparations, nightclub collaborations at St Paul’s Cathedral, and now this. What a mess.

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Don't forget lefty Williams before Welby.

CoffeeCantata · 18/09/2026 13:54

Messedupmyusernameagain · 18/09/2026 09:02

I think we have waved through some very hardline clerics from Saudi Arabia and Iran who have influenced and encouraged the men in the mosques to impose this far stricter form of Islam. It's a crying shame when you remember how progressive and innovative Islam was when it came to arts and science in the middle ages and beyond. Yet people in the West think tolerance of the intolerant is all fine as long as they can virtue signal amongst their friends. It is poor communities, particularly poor Muslim women who are living in a parallel universe but who cares as long as they can show how tolerant they are.

I agree. When I think back to those (carefree!) days, all the students just got on with things. The Muslim parents had chosen a single-sex school for their daughters, but that was as far as any obvious dogma went. It was much more relaxed.

Our society was much more unified then - but now we seem to glory in divisiveness.

truethoughinnit · 18/09/2026 13:45

Jonesmaximus · 18/09/2026 13:19

There are dress codes though in the West.
Tesco have had to issue a no nightwear rule, schools do the same, workplace rules, places of worship - nearly all aimed at women. That isn't the point here, but just wanted to point it out. Muslim women are always accused of wearing their dress due to being forced by men and it isn't true. It's very unfeminist to think that a woman is reduced to her outer clothing and cannot form an opinion or assert a decision by herself. It happens all the time though and it's most tiresome when a stranger insists that you are oppressed.

I absolutely knew someone would say that. Firstly, women's dress is not mandated by law or state punishment in western democracies.

Secondly, where dress codes do apply for work etc, these are the sort of simple expectations that would exist everywhere in the world, and where they exist there are similar rules for men. If people are expected to dress smartly, then both men and women are.

And none of this is even remotely comparable to Islamic 'modest' dress requirements where - although there is technically a modest dress for men too - the rules for women are much more restricting and severe, even without niqab, You only need to see a conservatively dressed muslim woman walk next to her husband on hot day to see this.

And further more, the reason behind them are differently. Schools and workplaces may have dress codes for reasons of appearing professional, or reducing bullying ( at schools). No nightwear is about basic standards of decency such as not announcing through your PJs that you have not bothered to wash before you went out. Islamic dress is about women not appearing attractive to men so that men don't sin by having sex with them and go to hell. Sexual morality is rigidly enforced in Islam.

And any attempts to pretend that Tesco saying ' No PJs' or a workplace wanting you to look professional is in anyway comparable to Iranian women being attacked and brutalised by the state for not wearing a hijab or women being completely invisible under a burqa in seering Afghan heat, is never going to have any credibility.

Jonesmaximus · 18/09/2026 13:19

truethoughinnit · 18/09/2026 12:26

And no western democratic countries where a dress code is imposed.

And there can be huge cultural pressure, including violence, even where there is no law to follow Islamic dress requirements. Even western converts to Islam who have an online presence will talk about the huge online pressure they get to wear hijab.

You are right that OP does not know that woman in the photo was required to dress like that.

I would say though that the niqabi muslim women I have heard give their reasons for wearing niqab ( its a spiritual thing that brings me closer to God, it means I am seen as a person etc) give very different reasons from those I have heard from islamic cleric in muslim countries (women cover to stop me committing zina - which is fornication or adultery - and going to hell).

There are dress codes though in the West.
Tesco have had to issue a no nightwear rule, schools do the same, workplace rules, places of worship - nearly all aimed at women. That isn't the point here, but just wanted to point it out. Muslim women are always accused of wearing their dress due to being forced by men and it isn't true. It's very unfeminist to think that a woman is reduced to her outer clothing and cannot form an opinion or assert a decision by herself. It happens all the time though and it's most tiresome when a stranger insists that you are oppressed.

MissMappsGardenProduce · 18/09/2026 13:13

Moros · 18/09/2026 10:09

There's a bunch of people in this thread who are being very critical about Islam. Unless they've subsequently been locked up I'm guessing we're safe to criticise it. So your quote is fear-mongering bollocks.

If you say so; although the fact you seem het up makes me think you know you're on a bit of a sticky wicket with that.

truethoughinnit · 18/09/2026 12:26

Jonesmaximus · 18/09/2026 12:16

There are very, very few countries where a dress code is imposed. Regardless, the case in point is the OP stating that the wife of the former award winner is wearing niqab because her husband made me. That is a complete assumption on her part.

And no western democratic countries where a dress code is imposed.

And there can be huge cultural pressure, including violence, even where there is no law to follow Islamic dress requirements. Even western converts to Islam who have an online presence will talk about the huge online pressure they get to wear hijab.

You are right that OP does not know that woman in the photo was required to dress like that.

I would say though that the niqabi muslim women I have heard give their reasons for wearing niqab ( its a spiritual thing that brings me closer to God, it means I am seen as a person etc) give very different reasons from those I have heard from islamic cleric in muslim countries (women cover to stop me committing zina - which is fornication or adultery - and going to hell).

Campanulaceae · 18/09/2026 12:24

Has anybody read Submission by Michel Houellebecq? That's pretty much what's happening here.

Jonesmaximus · 18/09/2026 12:16

truethoughinnit · 18/09/2026 11:13

Though Muslim women being free to dress as they see choose is a luxury more likely to be experienced in a non-Muslim country than a Muslim one.

There are very, very few countries where a dress code is imposed. Regardless, the case in point is the OP stating that the wife of the former award winner is wearing niqab because her husband made me. That is a complete assumption on her part.

truethoughinnit · 18/09/2026 11:55

SigmundinaCafe · 18/09/2026 11:33

I strongly recommend reading Egyptian historian Bat Ye’or’s The Decline of Eastern Christianity under Islam: From Jihad to Dhimmitude (1996).

It’s a detailed, heavily documented study of what happened to Christians and Jews living under Muslim rule from the 7th to the 19th centuries. Ye’or draws on Arab, Turkish, Armenian, Greek, Latin and other contemporary sources, including a huge amount of documentary evidence.

What is particularly interesting is her challenge to the idea that Christians and Jews were simply “protected minorities”. She argues that, while there were periods of relative stability and some Christians and Jews were able to prosper through cooperation with Muslim rulers, the wider populations were subjected over centuries to taxation, discrimination, violence, forced displacement and enslavement.

More recently, Black Wave by Kim Ghatias (a Lebanese writer) focuses particularly on the dramatic turning point of 1979 — the Iranian Revolution, the seizure of the Grand Mosque in Mecca and the Soviet invasion of Afghanistan — and how the rivalry between Saudi Arabia and Iran subsequently helped spread religious conservatism, sectarianism and intolerance across the region (is that an acceptable descriptor for you?), at the expense of Jews and Christians - as well as moderate Muslims, of course.

Its worth noting that the indigenous people of the land are not just the Jews but also the Samaritans, Kurds, Druze, Yazidis who have tended not to do well under arab muslim expansion and conquering of their lands, or in Yazidi case more recently, under Islamic state.

Moros · 18/09/2026 11:55

SigmundinaCafe · 18/09/2026 10:49

Well there are some quite obvious case studies from across the Middle East, which used to be a majority Christian continent. Lebanon and Egypt spring to mind. History books are a good place to start.

Which history book did you use to derive the 20% figure from?

BaffledAndBemusedToo · 18/09/2026 11:55

EasternStandard · 18/09/2026 11:36

And some are paddling towards losing the plot rather than just sitting there.

Agree.

EasternStandard · 18/09/2026 11:36

BaffledAndBemusedToo · 18/09/2026 10:17

Agree. We’ve lost the plot. We are sitting ducks at the moment.

And some are paddling towards losing the plot rather than just sitting there.

SigmundinaCafe · 18/09/2026 11:33

JHound · 18/09/2026 11:02

Do you have an actual source for any of this? (And when did the ME become a continent?)

(Although I am not sure that “area was majority one faith now it’s another” is something unique to Islam. The Americas were not majority Christian now they are.)

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I strongly recommend reading Egyptian historian Bat Ye’or’s The Decline of Eastern Christianity under Islam: From Jihad to Dhimmitude (1996).

It’s a detailed, heavily documented study of what happened to Christians and Jews living under Muslim rule from the 7th to the 19th centuries. Ye’or draws on Arab, Turkish, Armenian, Greek, Latin and other contemporary sources, including a huge amount of documentary evidence.

What is particularly interesting is her challenge to the idea that Christians and Jews were simply “protected minorities”. She argues that, while there were periods of relative stability and some Christians and Jews were able to prosper through cooperation with Muslim rulers, the wider populations were subjected over centuries to taxation, discrimination, violence, forced displacement and enslavement.

More recently, Black Wave by Kim Ghatias (a Lebanese writer) focuses particularly on the dramatic turning point of 1979 — the Iranian Revolution, the seizure of the Grand Mosque in Mecca and the Soviet invasion of Afghanistan — and how the rivalry between Saudi Arabia and Iran subsequently helped spread religious conservatism, sectarianism and intolerance across the region (is that an acceptable descriptor for you?), at the expense of Jews and Christians - as well as moderate Muslims, of course.

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truethoughinnit · 18/09/2026 11:32

Did anyone see the Oxford union debate of the motion which was something like ' Is this House right to be suspicious of Islam?' and a Muslim speaker AGAINST the motion actually used Osama Bin Laden as an example of why we should NOT be suspicious of Islam. I am not making that up.

truethoughinnit · 18/09/2026 11:29

ERthree · 18/09/2026 11:20

He was given the award but then when it was pointed out that he is a terrorist loving fuckwit they took the award back.

Best summary of a post ever 😂

ERthree · 18/09/2026 11:20

Quokkafeet · 18/09/2026 06:51

Also confused about this!

He was given the award but then when it was pointed out that he is a terrorist loving fuckwit they took the award back.

truethoughinnit · 18/09/2026 11:17

JHound · 18/09/2026 11:13

Put the goalposts back. Read what I wrote again and stop with the “so what you’re saying is…”

I questioned a very specific claim made by OP.

No, I don’t deny any history linked to Islam and conquest but I have no idea why it’s implied that is unique to Islam. That’s something the world’s two largest faiths have in common.

Read my post again. I did not say ' so you are saying' . I explicitly asked what are you saying.

A poster stated that ME used to be Christian and you asked if she had any source for this.

I replied to that.

truethoughinnit · 18/09/2026 11:13

JHound · 18/09/2026 11:10

This. It’s a weird form of paternalism that many women’s rights activists show to wards muslim women where they assume they are all oppressed / thick / a combination of the above.

There are all kinds of views on attire within the faith. Same as with hijab. I am sure there are women out there whose manner of presentation is imposed on them by their husband. But many others who aren’t. Irrespective of faith.

Though Muslim women being free to dress as they see choose is a luxury more likely to be experienced in a non-Muslim country than a Muslim one.

JHound · 18/09/2026 11:13

truethoughinnit · 18/09/2026 11:09

I am not quite sure what you are saying here? Are you denying that the 57 Muslim countries of the world were created by conquest and expansion?

Egypt for example was a majority Christian country until it was conquered by the Rashidan caliphate in the 7th century. The discriminatory practices ( taxes and politically) to non-muslims led to gradual conversion over subsequent centuries until christians were the minority they are today.

This really isn't controversial history.

Put the goalposts back. Read what I wrote again and stop with the “so what you’re saying is…”

I questioned a very specific claim made by OP.

No, I don’t deny any history linked to Islam and conquest but I have no idea why it’s implied that is unique to Islam. That’s something the world’s two largest faiths have in common.

JHound · 18/09/2026 11:10

Jonesmaximus · 18/09/2026 10:13

I don't know the particular people involved but heard a piece on the radio this morning. Do not assume the wife wears a veil/niqab because he "makes her", there are unmarried women in the UK who choose to do so, against the wishes of their family. I went to school with a few like this, there was familial pressure against it, but they did it regardless. One of them said this was feminism in her opinion.

This. It’s a weird form of paternalism that many women’s rights activists show to wards muslim women where they assume they are all oppressed / thick / a combination of the above.

There are all kinds of views on attire within the faith. Same as with hijab. I am sure there are women out there whose manner of presentation is imposed on them by their husband. But many others who aren’t. Irrespective of faith.