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AIBU to be fed up of being the only one that remembers?

32 replies

VictoriaSponge987 · 17/09/2026 18:03

I’m so fed up of being the only person who proactively plans in my house. My DH will always pick the kids up, take them to school etc but it’s all very reactive. If I’m not home (at work or out) unless I tell my teen son and DH to remember X at X time, they inevitably forget. I feel as if I am the only person who plans - meals, holidays, clubs etc. if there is a form to fill in, it only happens if I do it or remind someone else several times to do it. For context, I work more than full time in a serious job plus running my own business so I’m not a stay at home mum with lots of spare time. I end up doing it because I don’t want the kids to miss out but I’m resentful and stressed. Today I was as at a conference all day. Despite putting teen’s sports club in the diary and texting him to remind him of time, he was late because both him and DH forgot. What can I do to stop me being the only one who remembers stuff?

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Knittedfairies2 · 17/09/2026 18:14

You need to stop being your son's P.A. for a start; if he wanted to go, he'd remember himself.

ArseSkinForAFriend · 17/09/2026 18:10

It's annoying but I've no sympathy for the teen.

It's a good way to learn anyway, if there's no-one doing his thinking for him.

Ablondiebutagoody · 17/09/2026 18:10

Stop doing it. If he misses sports club for example, that's his problem. If he enjoys the club, he'll remember next time.

Takersgonnatake · 17/09/2026 18:10

Have a sex change? 😉

Hatty65 · 17/09/2026 18:08

If he's a teen then he should remember himself. I do it for younger kids, but if you are in your teens and can't remember your own sports club day then that's a pity.

I wouldn't have reminded him at all.

ChoppyWalters · 17/09/2026 18:06

Let it all go wrong so they step up.

CheeseWisely · 17/09/2026 18:04

Let him miss his sports club? He’ll learn.