Being offended by being left on read after sex

Agree with others. You mutually decided you just wanted something casual with no strings attached sex and meet ups, yet as soon as you have sex you seem to be now on a different page. No strings attached means no emotional vibes, but you’ve gone there, and he’s now picked up on it.

I think you got carried away and overstepped. Messaging to say you liked the sex is different to messaging to say the bed smells of him with hearts on it…..that feels like emotional attachment and no wonder he didn’t reply. Huge overreaction from you to not getting a reply, I wouldn't have answered you either if I was clear that I wasn’t looking for a relationship.

But you said you wanted it to be casual?

FFS
It was only one night.
I don't blame him. Red flags to a man!!!
You could have had a good thing going but have come across as a needy and demanding person who could end up as a stalker
If a man did this on mn to a woman he would be castigated as a wrong 'un

Exactly this 👌

I recommend the book "Why Men Love bitches", it's light hearted and good info for dating/communicating with men. Chalk it up to experience x

He did communicate though:

"He messaged me straight after to say it was amazing (which it was, I told him that at the time). We were texting each other and before I went to sleep, I told him that the bed smells of him and put a little heart emoji and I said I wished I could have a big cuddle. He saw it and left it on read."

They were messaging back and forth. He just didn't reply to her last message.

As a grown up he could have said it was too much, just ignoring someone after you’ve had sex is poor behaviour. I say that as someone who’s been on the other side of this situation too where the other person has been to full on when it’s just meant to be sex, I just spoke to them to check in on the boundaries and expectations.
this wasn’t a one night stand
as much as I do agree the OP misjudged the message and might have made the guy a bit worried he should still, IMO, communicate

I really believe my H would run through fire for me but his mobile use is rubbish.
I don’t think he knows what an emoji is, he often forgets to switch it on and it can take him 5 minutes to type OK (that’s a family joke).
I’m happy to put up with this as he’s pretty perfect 90% of the time.
Perhaps your friend is a bit like this.

He is at home thinking 'hope I've dodged a bullet'

I agree its fkn ridiculous 🙄

He wasn't disrespectful though he hugged her for ages and said his goodbyes.. stop moving the goalposts if its sex its just that he made it clear , he is going through a divorce ffs..last thing he wants is ohh the bed smells of you kissy kissy hearts and more hearts.. he just wanted sex get a grip.

Its not a relationship he doesn't want a relationship.. yet your texting relationship type messages.. oooh the bed smells of you blah blah and then emojis.. yes he left you on read he could probs feel your emotions a mile off.. you're being unreasonable not him give your head a shake its just sex and listen if people actually listened to what the other was saying.. there would of been no offence taken .
He has gone home got on with life you're lying there with hearts in your eyes .

@Lollipop7654 We were texting each other and before I went to sleep, I told him that the bed smells of him and put a little heart emoji and I said I wished I could have a big cuddle. He saw it and left it on read. No reply at all. I went to sleep really annoyed after a beautiful day.

You getting upset by this means you are infatuated with him.

You can say you don't want a relationship, but your post says otherwise.

I leave my husband on read all the time 🤣🤣🤣, I feel sorry for him now 😬.

Ha! He could’ve responded with : You’re Welcome. Have a nice day🤣🤣

"The bed smells of you ❤️ i wish I could have a big cuddle" is quite emotionally loaded for causal sex when youve agreed you dont want a relationship.

He didnt ignore you, you had sex and he said thanks for and amazing time. Of course he didnt reply to that.

But it sounds like you want something less casual than you say

I mean I was trying to sugar coat it. Tbf he probably thought “well no way am I replying to that message”

He didn't ignore you after sex, he gave you a hug, he messaged and said he had a good time. You should have left the messages there. He hasn't been rude at all.

You added quite a sentimental element with the bed smells of you / wish we could cuddle and a ❤️ emoji which could be interpreted as having 'feelings'. That's not what he signed up for and he probably is worried you want more / have suddenly got a bit needy.

He's been up front about what he can offer if you're not ok with that then end this now before you get hurt although he may have taken the decision out of your hands already.

I did read out the message to a male friend and asked him what he’d think if he received it. He pulled an “ouch” face - he’s just one bloke but I think you have your answer. Too intense and a little bit cringe for some people.

“oh poor thing is caught up in the heat of it still so not thinking what she is saying, I’ll do her the kindness of ignoring this message”

I really don't think men think like this!

I think that it is usually the case. Not always of course.
The problem is with this sort of thing is that some will accuse you of sexism but I don't see what's wrong with saying things are more skewed one way than the other.

He made it clear he didn't want a relationship. I said I don't either, which I don't, I'm happy with the occasional date and sex once in a blue moon

Read this back. It’s your own words. You know you’re being unreasonable or dishonest with yourself. But he’s done nothing wrong.

He wants sex as you agreed, not any kind of emotional entanglement.

So yes, YABU. However you are reacting exactly how female hormones naturally make us react, which is why men can do casual sex and we generally can’t.

Don’t sleep with him again, you’ll just get hurt.

“I told him that the bed smells of him and put a little heart emoji and I said I wished I could have a big cuddle”

Why? That’s the cringiest thing ever.

You both agreed you didn’t want relationships so this was an embarrassing thing for you to send. He probably thought “oh poor thing is caught up in the heat of it still so not thinking what she is saying, I’ll do her the kindness of ignoring this message”.

Sorry but he’s not your boyfriend. If I had a fwb who was a man and sent that I’d find it a huge red flag as it’s pushing the boundaries of what we agreed on.

I had a guy do this to me before actually and I wish I’d shut him down right there. It’s you that needs to give your head a shake op, not him.