Being offended by being left on read after sex

When I mentioned his smell, I was referring to his aftershave. There was nothing else on the sheets 😉 And no, I didn't change them immediately because I wasn't bothered. Some people change their sheets every day, I don't. Sorry if that's gross.

Regarding the scenario itself, we spent all day yesterday messaging back and forth. We have decided to stay friends and leave sex out of it.

He has been messaging me this morning and has been leaving me voice clips telling me what he's upto today and saying he's glad I feel well today. Total normal behaviour for us, exactly as it was before the sex.

When I said FWB is not for me, he said he understood and asked me to still be mates.

My mom is coming to my appointment with me (I hadn't initially told her about the cancer scare). He has insisted he will pick us up and drop us at mine and will bring me some biscuits (in joke of ours).

So all back to normal. It went a bit crazy for a while there and my emotions were all over the show but we're over it. And I thoroughly enjoyed myself that night, as did he. So there we are, lesson learnt. Friendship prevailed. Happy days!

When I mentioned his smell, I was referring to his aftershave. There was nothing else on the sheets 😉 And no, I didn't change them immediately because I wasn't bothered. Some people change their sheets every day, I don't. Sorry if that's gross.

Regarding the scenario itself, we spent all day yesterday messaging back and forth. We have decided to stay friends and leave sex out of it.

He has been messaging me this morning and has been leaving me voice clips telling me what he's upto today and saying he's glad I feel well today. Total normal behaviour for us, exactly as it was before the sex.

When I said FWB is not for me, he said he understood and asked me to still be mates.

My mom is coming to my appointment with me (I hadn't initially told her about the cancer scare). He has insisted he will pick us up and drop us at mine and will bring me some biscuits (in joke of ours).

So all back to normal. It went a bit crazy for a while there and my emotions were all over the show but we're over it. And I thoroughly enjoyed myself that night, as did he. So there we are, lesson learnt. Friendship prevailed. Happy days!

Omg didnt you change the sheets!! Thats got to be most ewwwww thing ever.

What? Was just saying a normal thing. First thing youd want to do is strip the bed! Think he has been scared off...next....

Omg didnt you change the sheets!! Thats got to be most ewwwww thing ever.

Omg didnt you change the sheets!! Thats got to be most ewwwww thing ever.

I have started getting close to a guy I have known for years who I know through work (I work in a person facing role). He is going through divorce, as am I. Neither of us has slept with anyone since the person we married. He has been really sweet, helping me with jobs around the house, at his own expense and has brought me chocolates and stuff. He has recently taken me to a medical appointment, which he insisted on doing, then we went for a meal. He has opened up to me about himself, really personal info that I was surprised he told me. He made it clear he didn't want a relationship. I said I don't either, which I don't, I'm happy with the occasional date and sex once in a blue moon (we have busy lives). He is definitely not with his ex because I know his family.
Anyway, we had sex recently for the first and only time. He messaged me straight after to say it was amazing (which it was, I told him that at the time). We were texting each other and before I went to sleep, I told him that the bed smells of him and put a little heart emoji and I said I wished I could have a big cuddle. He saw it and left it on read. No reply at all. I went to sleep really annoyed after a beautiful day.

Am I being unreasonable expecting a reply to this?

He is acting like it was never said. For context, before he left, he gave me a massive squeeze in my hall, for a good few minutes. I was actually taken aback by how affectionate he was the entire time he was here. Now it feels like it's gone to shit so I've withdrawn.

I think it's just damn rude tbh. He didn't even reply the next day. I've messaged him again, cancelling plans to go out and said I'm not in the mood for chatting. I feel rude doing this but I'm too offended to pretend I'm not.

"worth" what in the Andrew Tate/1950'S bullshit is this. Have you just stepped out of a time machine? Plenty of women are very happy having no strings sex. You need to to do some reading, we aren't all you.

Regarding cancelling the plans to go out, I'm being checked to see if I have cancer. The plans were that he was going to pick me up from hospital then we were going to get food as I will be starving after the appointment. I've cancelled it because I've realised it's too much for him. My head is fu**ed tbh. I have read every reply and I appreciate the honest feedback. I don't think at this moment in time, this set-up is for me. A really good friendship has kinda gone to shit temporarily. I didn't message at all yesterday. I've stayed in my lane. I think I will let the FWB side of things die off. It was great sex but I don't think this scenario is for me. I will keep him as a friend though, he is a good man. He has helped around the house because they were jobs he is trained to do through his trade. He has paid for materials because I was left financially ruined by my ex and had to suddenly pay nearly £3.5k for childcare for the summer in order to allow me to continue to go to work. He's a good guy, he stepped up when I needed him to as a FRIEND and I will stop being a moody cow because he ignored the message 😆 It's too much. I'm too much atm. FWB is not for me.

FFS. Did you just get out of an Andrew Tate seminar? A woman’s ‘value’ and ‘worth’ is not tied to her sexual choices. This sort of misogynistic, antediluvian bullshit can get in the fucking bin.

Granted, a FWB situation is not for everyone, but please don’t conflate another adult’s personal choices with a patriarchal construct that assigns a purity value to women’s vaginas.

I wish women would stop agreeing to be a FWB. It devalues your worth. It's a win/win for the guy - now he gets to shag you without even having to take you on a date, or reply to any messages.

Regarding cancelling the plans to go out, I'm being checked to see if I have cancer. The plans were that he was going to pick me up from hospital then we were going to get food as I will be starving after the appointment. I've cancelled it because I've realised it's too much for him. My head is fu**ed tbh. I have read every reply and I appreciate the honest feedback. I don't think at this moment in time, this set-up is for me. A really good friendship has kinda gone to shit temporarily. I didn't message at all yesterday. I've stayed in my lane. I think I will let the FWB side of things die off. It was great sex but I don't think this scenario is for me. I will keep him as a friend though, he is a good man. He has helped around the house because they were jobs he is trained to do through his trade. He has paid for materials because I was left financially ruined by my ex and had to suddenly pay nearly £3.5k for childcare for the summer in order to allow me to continue to go to work. He's a good guy, he stepped up when I needed him to as a FRIEND and I will stop being a moody cow because he ignored the message 😆 It's too much. I'm too much atm. FWB is not for me.