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To think people should not use 'we put pets to sleep' as an argument to allow assisted dying?

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Jane3212 · 16/09/2026 23:46

I love animals but they aren't legally the same as people. If somebody sold a person, or controlled who they could have children with, we would be horrified, but we accept those as normal for pets because we don't treat them the same as people.
We put beloved pets to sleep if they're really ill with no hope of cure because we are responsible for them, and cats, dogs etc have no way, by definition, of understanding the situation or communicating what they would want.

A person is categorically different. We don't hold the same power to even decide between life and death over people that we do over pets, and rightly so! The comparison with pets is flawed.

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Mama2many73 · 18/09/2026 00:42

XenoBitch · 16/09/2026 23:51

We don't let pets suffer.
But a human who is suffering and is asking for help to die a dignified death is denied that.
Pets have it better if you ask me.

Totally agree.
My DM had no quality of life and would state this herself. She was fed up and in pain and I believe had she had the choice would have chosen to end her life. We dont allow animals to suffer but people....tough shit!

OtterlyAstounding · 18/09/2026 00:39

McSilkson · 18/09/2026 00:25

"...and people aren't animals."

It's shocking to see how many seemingly educated adults believe this.... People ARE animals.

I think people are talking in terms of legality here. People are treated like humans (which yes, are biologically animals), as opposed to being treated like every other non-human animal on the planet.

McSilkson · 18/09/2026 00:25

CreativeGreen · 17/09/2026 11:56

You don't have to accept the full implications of the comparison to accept this part of it - like any metaphor, it only stretches so far.

So yes, animals aren't people and people aren't animals. And a pet is a particular kind of animal, and many other animals are treated badly. And yes, sometimes pets are put to sleep as much for the owner as for the animal.

But if we accept the argument that sometimes the kindest thing to do for a pet who has no quality of life is to let it go and help it on its way, it does seem to me to make sense that we would extend the same dignity to a human being who is in pain with no possibility of recovery.

"...and people aren't animals."

It's shocking to see how many seemingly educated adults believe this.... People ARE animals.

AppleDumplingWithCustard · 17/09/2026 22:27

As a former nurse I can’t tell you how many times I’ve cared for a dying patient and thought to myself that if they were a much-loved pet we wouldn’t let them suffer like this.

OtterlyAstounding · 17/09/2026 22:24

SleeplessRoads · 17/09/2026 16:24

What about when the human, who can communicate, does communicate to say they want to die.

Currently watching a family member wither away in a home after attempting suicide in their 90s as they are losing their faculties and don’t like it. Very vocal that they’d like to die instead of soiling themselves in bed, not being able to hold a conversation most of the time, and being down right depressed that there is no prospect of it getting better (which there isn’t, they’re in their 90s, health deterioration is a sure bet).

I can’t see anything humane or dignified about keeping them alive because they no longer have access to the things required to successively end their own life.

The debated euthanasia bill wouldn’t have helped them anyway, but the whole thing is a travesty I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy, my pet or my cherished family member.

Sometimes life is awful.

I do have to wonder how so many people manage to fumble suicide, when so many also manage to commit it – and it's not particular difficult to find a foolproof method, which obviously I won't discuss on here. Children following TikTok challenges have managed to accidentally kill themselves (tragically) using suicide methods.

Anyway, yes, that is terrible. I suppose in similar situations, the best thing to do is to stop accepting medical care, and eating, and get medical marijuana. Just stay high af to ease any suffering, and (at that frailty) it likely wouldn't take more than a month or two for the strain of starvation to put an end to things. But then of course, I suppose that requires them to have the cognitive faculties to do that.

Really the only option to help in situations like that is to change the law so you can kill people who can't give legal consent (due to their decline), which seems very dodgy ground.

OtterlyAstounding · 17/09/2026 22:11

Itchthescratch · 17/09/2026 14:31

You have ended a life. The baby will not be the same baby. You don't get to unabort your baby.

We haven't had AD before and yet we still under fund healthcare and palliative care. Arguably AD would reduce the costs associated with keeping people alive that don't want to be alive and this money could be used to improve the experience of those that want to live. It isn't a primary motivation of course but I don't think it's a foregone thing that AD would mean less money for healthcare either. It could go all kinds of different ways.

The fact that fetuses can be aborted doesn't mean that we treat miscarriage as insignificant or defund the care for disabled children who are born after screening when mothers have chosen to proceed with the pregnancy.

Yes, but again – you can have another baby, but you can't have another life.

And is it true that abortion doesn't affect those things? I'm not so sure. In this case, I think the value of abortion outweighs the flow on effects that we may need to mitigate, but I'm not so sure in the case of assisted suicide – at least where a person is not imminently terminal.

OtterlyAstounding · 17/09/2026 22:06

Awkwardisfunny · 17/09/2026 19:09

Some people wake up from comas even a decade later, so choosing to pull the plug is statistically going to mean choosing death for some people.

There are definitely lots of doctors out there administering additional morphine to kill patients and not talking about it. Not sure why you have ignored that point and talked about pain relief only.

Yes, I'm fine with sensible people continuing to make all those difficult decisions on behalf of people who can't. And hopefully, the law will catch up soon so that those people don't have to feel like criminals.

If you're fine with people being able to murder others, there's little point in talking to you sensibly on the issue.

I can only presume you're also in favour of the death penalty, in order to be consistent with your views? Less value on life, letting 'sensible people' decide life and death, not needing consent to kill someone... I can see a certain pragmatism to that – but not to be in favour of one and not the other.

Wokeuptired · 17/09/2026 22:02

I'm in constant pain and have no quality of life, I'm in a wheelchair and my life now compared to what it was is bloody depressing, if it wasn't for the life of my family I would of wanted assisted dying as I'm just a shell

OtterlyAstounding · 17/09/2026 22:01

W0tnow · 17/09/2026 15:40

Well yes. People do. I’m not sure what point you’re making? I mean, I see what you’re doing with the ‘killing’ term, but beyond that?

Do you see what I'm doing? I used 'killing' because it seemed the most neutral but accurate term.

My point is that either you need to take responsibility for that while you can, or change the laws so that it becomes acceptable to kill people who may not want to be killed, and can't consent to it.

myjamisbetterthanyours · 17/09/2026 21:57

HavingABlether · 17/09/2026 21:17

cats, dogs etc have no way, by definition, of understanding the situation or communicating what they would want.

Your point, then, is because people can communicate their wish, we should refuse it? I am against assisted suicide and even I think your argument is crackers.

Quite frankly anyone who says that their pet cannot communicate what they want does not deserve to have a pet.

Sunnnyday · 17/09/2026 21:48

In the UK -

"In a new review of more than 100 UK cases, we find that despite claims: ‘mercy killings’ are not the wanted, ‘hastened’ deaths that need assisted dying. They are overwhelmingly violent domestic homicides of women, by men: and show that our society is still poor at detecting and responding to domestic abuse. How will these men who kill behave when the state offers lawful death ?
Our society is too tolerant of the killings of disabled, elderly and infirm women, in leaving the ’clear and bright line’ that killing is wrong: ’mercy killers’ walk free from court. We fear further softening of the prohibition on femicide, as borne out in Canada."

Safeguarding Women in Assisted Dying — The Other Half

Safeguarding Women in Assisted Dying — The Other Half

https://theotherhalf.uk/safeguarding-women-in-assisted-dying

isitfridayyetttt · 17/09/2026 21:48

XenoBitch · 17/09/2026 21:46

What is to say that if the UK allowed AD, then it would follow suit?
Other places have AD and have not gone down that same path.

You really think the uk can be trusted not to fuck it up?

XenoBitch · 17/09/2026 21:46

Sunnnyday · 17/09/2026 21:42

Shockingly, it has taken Canada only 10 years to get to this point.

What is to say that if the UK allowed AD, then it would follow suit?
Other places have AD and have not gone down that same path.

Sunnnyday · 17/09/2026 21:42

Shockingly, it has taken Canada only 10 years to get to this point.

Sunnnyday · 17/09/2026 21:40

As has been discussed, the Canadians are not just killing people with terminal illnesses. They're killing people who are just ill or disabled, and on the quiet they're apparently killing people because they're unhappy due to poverty or loneliness, or who don't know what to do because they have nowhere to live and the state doesn't provide. And from next year we can expect them to kill people who are depressed or suffer from some kind of trauma.

"an increasing number of people are turning to assisted suicide as a method of liberation from poverty or other social injustices. Stronger social safety nets and more well-developed policies regarding the uses of MAiD are needed to curb this disturbing trend. As Canadians, we need to ensure that not only do we have the right to die with dignity, but to live in dignity as well."

How Canada’s MAiD Laws Leaves Vulnerable Individuals Open to Abuse – Campus UNICEF

How Canada’s MAiD Laws Leaves Vulnerable Individuals Open to Abuse

On June 17, 2016, a hallmark decision regarding Canadian health policy was made. Bill C-14 was passed, legalizing medically assisted suicide and voluntary euthanasia in Canada in the form of MAiD (…

https://caunicef.org/2023/01/12/how-canadas-maid-laws-leaves-vulnerable-individuals-open-to-abuse/

HavingABlether · 17/09/2026 21:17

cats, dogs etc have no way, by definition, of understanding the situation or communicating what they would want.

Your point, then, is because people can communicate their wish, we should refuse it? I am against assisted suicide and even I think your argument is crackers.

myjamisbetterthanyours · 17/09/2026 20:31

isitfridayyetttt · 17/09/2026 20:23

That is really frightening. I didn’t know the rates were so high in Canada.

I don’t understand why people are surprised the rates are high in Canada.

Medicine can prolong lives, but that doesn’t mean better quality of life.

isitfridayyetttt · 17/09/2026 20:23

Sunnnyday · 17/09/2026 20:00

That doesn't make any sense. If 50% of people receive poor treatment from the NHS, and 50% receive good treatment, then the NHS is drastically failing. And don't pretend that it's all subjective, with some complaining about the same treatment as others are delighted with. People are on waiting lists for years. In a recent case a surgeon literally operated on the wrong body parts. People in their 80s have been lying injured on the floor all night in their own urine, waiting for an ambulance.

But back to Canada. It's a great example of how, once the law exists, it is very quickly expanded. Originally, it only covered people with terminal illnesses. A few years later, it was expanded to cover people with "grievous" but non-terminal conditions. Apparently this is interpreted as including people who suffer from diabetes or "frailty", for example. Next year they expect it to be expanded to include people with mental health conditions. Over 5% of deaths in Canada are now "assisted". Worryingly, there are very different figures for different regions - Quebec is very high.

That is really frightening. I didn’t know the rates were so high in Canada.

Sunnnyday · 17/09/2026 20:09

W0tnow · 17/09/2026 19:42

What evidence is there of instances where terminally ill people have been coerced into VAD in countries that currently allow it? I’ve not seen any news articles. Surely cases would make headlines around the world?

ETA @Ponoka7 that’s really heartbreaking.

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It's not just terminally ill people, unfortunately. People are being assisted to die due to poverty or loneliness, among many other unconvincing reasons.

"A 2021 University of Guelph study found that during COVID, some disabled people were encouraged to explore MAiD due to lack of resources. And in private leaked MAiD assessor and provider forums, MAiD providers have described ending lives where suffering due to poverty, loneliness, or obesity was driving the request for MAiD."

This looks like a serious and knowledgeable report, worth a read -
Bridging the Gaps - Legislative and practice problems in Canada’s MAiD regime: Ramona Coelho and David Shannon | Macdonald-Laurier Institute

Sunnnyday · 17/09/2026 20:00

Zimunya · 17/09/2026 14:27

We could equally say "Are you aware of the terrible reputation the NHS has?" No system works perfectly for everyone. You can see on posts here about the NHS that people have had a range of experiences - there are those who feel the NHS saved their lives against all odds, and those who feel they or their relatives have been appallingly treated. Both are valid based on the particular individual's experiences.

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That doesn't make any sense. If 50% of people receive poor treatment from the NHS, and 50% receive good treatment, then the NHS is drastically failing. And don't pretend that it's all subjective, with some complaining about the same treatment as others are delighted with. People are on waiting lists for years. In a recent case a surgeon literally operated on the wrong body parts. People in their 80s have been lying injured on the floor all night in their own urine, waiting for an ambulance.

But back to Canada. It's a great example of how, once the law exists, it is very quickly expanded. Originally, it only covered people with terminal illnesses. A few years later, it was expanded to cover people with "grievous" but non-terminal conditions. Apparently this is interpreted as including people who suffer from diabetes or "frailty", for example. Next year they expect it to be expanded to include people with mental health conditions. Over 5% of deaths in Canada are now "assisted". Worryingly, there are very different figures for different regions - Quebec is very high.

myjamisbetterthanyours · 17/09/2026 19:48

AmberTigerEyes · 17/09/2026 19:30

@SomethingFun
I think it is understood that the majority of people assisting elderly relatives to access AD would not be coercing them. The issue is that there would be some people who will coerce vulnerable relatives to access AD. This might be as few as half a dozen a year or as many as a hundred or more. No one really knows how many but we do know from what we have seen in other countries, countries that are liberal, western, aiming for equality, just like us, that these abuses leading to murder would happen.

The question therefore becomes how many murders are you willing to allow in order to not only choose the time and manner of your death but to have free assistance from the NHS to carry it out?

Yes, yes of course we will catch some of the murderers, but it will be too late for the victims. How much is a human life worth to you?

But why are the lives of those suffering and wanting to end the suffering less worth than the lives of those who might be coerced?

Whatwouldnanado · 17/09/2026 19:43

My dad, mentally sound but bedridden and catheterised in a nursing home frequently made the point that he wouldn’t let a sick dog be in his position. Our lives are our own to end.

W0tnow · 17/09/2026 19:42

What evidence is there of instances where terminally ill people have been coerced into VAD in countries that currently allow it? I’ve not seen any news articles. Surely cases would make headlines around the world?

ETA @Ponoka7 that’s really heartbreaking.

Ponoka7 · 17/09/2026 19:39

W0tnow · 17/09/2026 16:28

People are choosing AD because of a lack of suitable housing? Really?

Yes, in Canada is a big issue at the moment.
https://care.org.uk/news/2024/10/poor-lonely-and-homeless-opting-for-assisted-death-in-canada
https://righttolife.org.uk/news/woman-with-disability-opts-out-of-assisted-suicide-after-she-receives-funds-to-help-with-her-condition

Sunnnyday · 17/09/2026 19:39

I'm just as worried about people being encouraged to die in order save the state money in looking after them. For example, in Canada a disabled veteran was refused a chairlift in her house, and invited to sign up for assisted dying instead.