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Raisingresiliantteens · 2026-09-16T22:38:22+00:00

DD just started uni at Bristol. She just called but I only heard a noise and that was it. I am worried. Calling back but not answering

Anon501178 · 17/09/2026 05:46

bunnypenny · 16/09/2026 23:58

Yes but what are you anxious about. It’s a pocket dial. Have you never had one before?

I can’t believe you called the university after a pocket dial. How embarrassing for you. Whatever you do, don’t let your daughter you did that.

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Stop belittling the OP for caring about her child fgs! 🤦‍♀️ she doesn't know for sure it was a 'pocket dial'

Clearly you are one of those 'chuck them in deep water and let them sink of swim' types of parent, but it's (luckily) not a parenting style many of us subscribe to.

I would so the same OP, as you never know.

FookFookFook · 17/09/2026 05:43

There are some horrid people here. I’d have been worried too OP. I’m glad she’s safe. It wouldn’t have been wrong to call the uni if you’d be concerned either. No one should be hesitating about feeling embarrassed if they are concerned for a loved one’s safety.

NormasArse · 17/09/2026 05:37

bunnypenny · 16/09/2026 23:53

You called the university?? Oh lord. Stop. Put down your phone and go to sleep. Don’t be that person.

Wow.

shrunkenhead · 17/09/2026 05:36

Thecatbeggar · 17/09/2026 05:16

I don’t mean to be unkind here and honestly I do understand the concern for your daughter, I’d feel the same but I really don’t understand why you’d want to post on here - it’s the last thing I’d think of doing in the same situation

Glad all worked out okay though

I'm guessing because the OP was worried about her dd, wasn't sure what to do, felt a bit helpless and panicky and was seeking support, understanding and reassurance from fellow mothers.

AtlasPine · 17/09/2026 05:31

This whole new level of being able to monitor young people in the family is bound to lead to more anxiety. I can see how it could reassure on one level, to have the means to know where your young adult is all the time but also create a culture of an unhealthy accountability 24/7 long after leaving home.

U53rName · 17/09/2026 05:21

bunnypenny · 16/09/2026 23:58

Yes but what are you anxious about. It’s a pocket dial. Have you never had one before?

I can’t believe you called the university after a pocket dial. How embarrassing for you. Whatever you do, don’t let your daughter you did that.

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This.

Thecatbeggar · 17/09/2026 05:16

I don’t mean to be unkind here and honestly I do understand the concern for your daughter, I’d feel the same but I really don’t understand why you’d want to post on here - it’s the last thing I’d think of doing in the same situation

Glad all worked out okay though

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Raisingresiliantteens · 17/09/2026 04:22

I went to sleep. Just woke up to check. She finally replied at 2am to my message that it was an error/pocket call,

Thanks everyone. I need to control my paranoid mind. Didn’t call university thanks GOD, DH is more reasonable and less paranoid and said she was fine and went to sleep

back to bed now.

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LBFseBrom · 17/09/2026 03:08

Timeforachange26 · 16/09/2026 23:39

Maybe it's a pocket call and she's somewhere noisy

That seems very likely.

cityliving99 · 17/09/2026 03:03

Freshers week!
And she has accidentally called…

SquirrelsAreGo · 17/09/2026 03:00

I would find this worrying but as an outsider, my thought was that, if she's in trouble, she wouldn't call you would she? She's call the police or similar?

So, although I'd be pacing the floor all night, in reality it seems very unlikely that she would've called because she was in a dodgy situation. Therefore, a pocket dial.

Look forward to hearing she's ok.

StolenTeapots · 17/09/2026 02:52

Yanbu. I'd worry too until confirm all ok.

NerrSnerr · 17/09/2026 02:34

At 2.30am? By the time you’ve found out the OP’s daughter will have been in touch.

Dahliasarebeautiful · 17/09/2026 02:27

My friends daughter just started at Bristol, moved into halls on Sunday. If you want me to ask her to see if her daughter knows yours just drop me a DM. Appreciate it's unlikely but she might, on the off chance

PollyBell · 17/09/2026 01:35

I would assume it was an accident

Mirsine · 17/09/2026 01:15

Raisingresiliantteens · 16/09/2026 23:39

Last location at Beacon House

OK so Google maps tells me this is a University of Bristol building. I wouldn’t be concerned re: the last location.

She will more than likely be at a flat party or in some club. There are always things going off every night during freshers week. And new students can become wrapped up in the excitement of it all and totally forget to contact parents because they’re so busy getting to know new people.

Try her again tomorrow. x

Fortunateporcupine · 17/09/2026 01:12

Btw these are events included in some sort of student wristband welcome thing not just random events across the city . Hope you get some rest and manage to get in touch soon 😊

Fortunateporcupine · 17/09/2026 01:04

Op it looks to me that last night 16th (so now) there are some big welcome events for students in Bristol , starting late and ending at 3am. A d&b rave, a boat party, etc. They’ll probably all have bad reception , she may have called on entry and realised the signal is poor as it so often is in these venues. It looks like a very busy evening in Bristol with some big events and nightlife so there’ll be loads of people around.

Enuffnowtbh · 17/09/2026 00:49

My children regularly pocket dialled at Uni . Just relax and let your child enjoy their freedom! It’s really hard as a Mum ,I really understand 🌸

Worldinyourhands · 17/09/2026 00:46

I'd call the university back or even go there tbh. A scream and then cut off? And phone dead since? I'd be concerned (I'm sure it's fine but I would).

LadyWhistledownsSocietyPapers · 17/09/2026 00:43

I'd rather my child be embarrassed for 5 minutes than something had happened and I did nothing.

All these 'well, I was fine' posts don't account for the ones who weren't.

Most likely explanation is pocket dial then losing signal in a club, but you're allowed to feel worried and act on it. It's the first time, not as if you're calling uni every day if she doesn't answer.

Lastpushtothesummit · 17/09/2026 00:39

OMG. leave the poor girl alone to enjoy freshers week. It was better at uni in the days before mobiles and SM when our parents didn’t know what we got up to and they had a weekly phone call if there was time.

RumPidgeon · 17/09/2026 00:32

Did you ring the uni again OP? I’d be worried about the dead phone but hope it’s nothing and just a pocket dial.

Aydel · 17/09/2026 00:31

Not OTT to call the uni. A friend of mine had a similar call from her DD late at night, some mumbling and cut off. She just felt that something wasn’t right, called the halls, they went into her DD’s room - she had fallen off her bed and was having a fit. They called an ambulance and then called my friend back. DD fine now and had never had a fit before.

CherryBlossom321 · 17/09/2026 00:31

This would concern me too. There is nothing wrong with ensuring her safety, OP.