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To think I might prefer to do moving day without my friend there?

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ThatDeepGoose · 16/09/2026 19:28

I’m moving at the end of next week, on Friday, and a male friend has offered to help. He’s offered to come round this weekend to help me pack and has also offered to help on the actual day of the move.

I’m very happy for him to come over this weekend and help with packing/hang out.

On moving day itself though, I’ll have professional movers doing the loading, transport and unloading anyway.

Would you:

  • let him come along/help on moving day too
  • have him come round to the new place once the movers have unloaded and gone, to help me get settled or
  • keep moving day to myself once the movers leave and have him come round another day that weekend instead?

I can see the benefit of having another pair of hands but part of me also thinks I might appreciate having the new place to myself once the movers have gone!

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Theheatishot · 16/09/2026 19:45

Unless you are early 20’s, when friends pitch in to help with moving as there’s no spare cash to pay professionals, I would consider that he’s hoping to sleep with you.
Not necessarily immediately, but at some point in the not too distant future.
As packing and moving your own stuff is dull enough……..

velomumhackney · 16/09/2026 19:51

Theheatishot · 16/09/2026 19:45

Unless you are early 20’s, when friends pitch in to help with moving as there’s no spare cash to pay professionals, I would consider that he’s hoping to sleep with you.
Not necessarily immediately, but at some point in the not too distant future.
As packing and moving your own stuff is dull enough……..

or that he has feelings for you.
that he cares for you and wants to help on want is conventionally considered to be a stressful transition.
those feelings might be romantic or platonic.

but he isn’t necessarily in it so “he can sleep with you”

and it’s easy to ruin a romantic or platonic relationship by presuming someone is out to take advantage of a vulnerable time.

but
it’s fair enough if you don’t think you want his help on moving day.

DonewhatIcando · 16/09/2026 20:39

@ThatDeepGoose
If you're sure he doesn't have an ulterior motive as suggested by PPs (it crossed my mind too) then another pair of hands might come in handy.

When I moved, my two dsis helped, first job was finding the kettle and setting up a tea station.
They unpacked, cleaned, made up the beds, honestly they were a godsend.

I basically supervised!

It was so nice to sit at the end of the day in a clean house with my bits around me, had a takeaway on plates that already had a cupboard in the kitchen.

All hands on deck is my advice unless he is after something else, only you would know 😉

Personally, I'd knacker him out so hanky panky would be the last thing on his mind!

Cherrysoup · 16/09/2026 20:40

Having just moved, I’d find it stressful to have had a friend there. He can help to pack, but I’d stay independent on moving day.

QuadrupleH · 16/09/2026 21:12

Cherrysoup · 16/09/2026 20:40

Having just moved, I’d find it stressful to have had a friend there. He can help to pack, but I’d stay independent on moving day.

Agree with this, the day can be stressful. Let the pro's handle it, its very different to packing in advance with the deadline a bit further away.

Shedmistress · 16/09/2026 21:14

You know him, we don't. If you want to just let the movers move and unpack at your leisure then just do it. Or give him cleaning to do, you'll probably not see his tail for dust.

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