Not sure what to do with this. I lost my parents in my late teens so i cant relate to what my DH needs.
Unfortunately, MIL is in a hospice with a matter of days to live. Do I go to a concert tomorrow night or should I stay at home to be there for DH?
For full context, I'm not close to MIL. I've been married to DH for 5 years , buy I've only met her maybe a dozen of occasions. We exchange cards at Christmas, but never call each other or anything. My DH sees her after work several times a week.
I've got tickets to ABBA voyage tomorrow with a friend (for full disclosure, my friend suffers from poor mental health and relies on nights out and fun with friends to cope. She always wanted children with the man she was with, but he kept putting it off , and then left her for another woman, and my friend is struggling dealing with being 40yr old without children or even a boyfriend, when all she wanted out of life is to be a mum, so she clings on to nights out and music like a lifeline).
I don't think my friend will take me cancelling very well at all, and it's very unlikely any of her other friends would go at short notice.
If I cancelled the concert , I'd feel pretty useless because I'm just hanging around waiting for him to come home from the hospice (I'm not close enough with MIL to sit by her deathbed ) .
But I think just by being there , in someone's time of need , is important, and the loss of a parent trumps a social event. But, life goes on....
YABU - cancel, and stay with DH
YANBU - go to the concert