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Should I have made him a drink

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Blackraven17 · 16/09/2026 16:40

Help settle an argument for me

husband was upstairs, had been for about 5 minutes and I could hear he was in the bathroom.
I was downstairs, washing up and putting things away- poured myself a glass of Coke. By the time he came down I was sat in the living room with our daughter with my drink. He makes a sarcastic comment about not making him a drink too.
was I wrong to not make one too?

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Blackraven17 · 16/09/2026 16:45

Woodfiresareamazing2 · 16/09/2026 16:43

Seriously?!

It's not as if you made yourself a complicated cocktail, you poured some Coke out of a bottle into a glass! Time taken = approx 30 seconds.

He's just being an arse.

This is my argument. I think he’s being unfair

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Woodfiresareamazing2 · 16/09/2026 16:43

Blackraven17 · 16/09/2026 16:40

Help settle an argument for me

husband was upstairs, had been for about 5 minutes and I could hear he was in the bathroom.
I was downstairs, washing up and putting things away- poured myself a glass of Coke. By the time he came down I was sat in the living room with our daughter with my drink. He makes a sarcastic comment about not making him a drink too.
was I wrong to not make one too?

Seriously?!

It's not as if you made yourself a complicated cocktail, you poured some Coke out of a bottle into a glass! Time taken = approx 30 seconds.

He's just being an arse.

FrankieNeverRelax · 16/09/2026 16:42

I mean you never know how long someone is gunna be in the toilet it could go warm in that time lol

Fedupandoldnow · 16/09/2026 16:42

If you made a hot drink it would have been reasonable for him to expect you to have asked if he wanted one. Not for a cold drink he can easily make for himself in 30 seconds

moleinthehouse · 16/09/2026 16:41

The bigger question is why you are married to a man who isn’t nice to you

Blackraven17 · 16/09/2026 16:41

TigerRag · 16/09/2026 16:41

Did he ask or just assume you would?

Assumed. He did not ask for one

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TigerRag · 16/09/2026 16:41

Did he ask or just assume you would?