Access card for disabilities - dyslexia

Dyslexia? I’m not dismissing that it must be hard to deal with and that many need extra help at school and at work due to it.

I wouldn’t wish difficulties on anyone.

But it isn’t the same as many other disabilities, it just isn’t.

i don’t know the ins and outs of your children’s disabilities.

I am saying that the child at school that I know does not need an access card. They’ve been here on a play date, I’ve been on school trips with them and seen their behaviour at farm/theme park place, I’ve seen them at numerous school activities including nativities/sports days/after school meet ups at the park and they just don’t.

The mum was clearly talking to me in a “we’re in the same boat” sort of way. And we’re bloody well not.

Not surprised OP's penultimate contribution was deleted. That was horrendous.

“There is literally no need for kids to skip queues for ADHD only”???? WRONG

You are just showing your ignorance of neurodiversity here .

My son has ADHD and no way could he queue. Even the fast track queues can sometimes be too long and we have to leave.

My daughter has quite severe autism and has often stood in a queue for well over an hour and a half with no trouble at all.

I’ve already explained that actually is does.

If all and sundry including those with dyslexia/privately diagnosed adult ADHD and so many more class themselves as disabled then it does take away from my child.

Im of the opinion that ASD should be categorised as my child is disabled by it whereas many children including numerous that I know who have ASD are “high functioning” and are very verbal/academic/can take part in all elements of normal life.

Saying they have the same diagnosis as my child and deserve the same access/allowances is quite frankly offensive. Don’t get me started on the “superpower” nonsense. But that’s a whole other debate.

I was just making a point that dyslexia on its own is a registered disability. There are probably other disabilities that don't prevent queueing either. Wheelchair users for example. Deaf individuals. Or blind, come to that. Do you accept they have disabilities?

I put yabu because its obvious that the majority of people using fast pass are scamming it. There just isnt the number of people who genuinely need to skip queues.
Clearly merlin should not have had to back down but due to already having so many using this and many many then getting the year pass its too late.
possibly it should be limited to sen school/ehcp etc.

There is literally no need for kids to skip queues for adhd only.
Autism probably yes but not all asd kids. Some can q.
Thing is on the numbers if 1%+ are asd (though over 10% at dc school) 5% adhd then other disability etc plus mum dad siblings just makes the q ridiculous for others AND what is worse a % of that q are toddlers to obviously do struggle with q and needing toilet etc and others are awaiting diagnosis so…

My son has the +1 on his card as well as the queues and the WC.

He is 7, non verbal and still in nappies.

I don’t know what symbols her child has on his card. Presumably the ones that correspond with needs for dyslexia.

But for Disney you don’t need any of the symbols - just the access card - they accept it in all forms. Which is ridiculous.

When we went in the summer there were some young adult in front of us in the queue who saw my son‘s sunflower lanyard and told us that one of them had ADHD which was why they had a priority card.

In my opinion high functioning adults with ADHD shouldn’t qualify either but there we are.

I don’t think I will as it isn’t worth it.

Im not usually at my elder children’s school for drop off as I normally take my son to his specialist school but I was going to a course in London today after drop off so my husband was doing his collections.

Not worth having a row at their school when I’m not there that much. But I will be giving her a wide berth.

In her now deleted post, the purity test for establishing disability according to OP appeared to be whether you could type on Mumsnet or not.

This new definition immediately knocks out a goodly portion of the disabled population, Equality Act be damned.

The ignorance on this thread about Dyslexia is worrying.
It troubles me greatly that there are so many ignorant people who still think Dyslexia is confined to difficulty with reading.
My DC are both diagnosed with severe Dyslexia and some of their main symptoms are sensory and cognitive overload, and anxiety. Busy public spaces are overwhelming for them because they struggle to process the increased stimulation, which causes them stress, increased anxiety and increased brain tiredness. Their energy levels drain rapidly when they are exposed to busy environments because of the strain on their already existing processing difficulties, and this in turn affects their behaviour as they get quickly exhausted.
Dyslexia is a processing disorder. One of the symptoms is difficulty processing letters and words. Additionally, there is a whole spectrum of other symptoms which cause difficulties and challenges beyond reading.
Sometimes I think we've made progress as a society in understanding Dyslexia better.
Other times I despair of the ignorance and judgement from people towards those with Dyslexia, included towards my DC, and then I read a thread like this and it confirms it.

I can!

People who merrily take things meant for disabled people should be ashamed of themselves.

Would you happily go in front of someone with a disability just because you could get away with it?

I wish I had said as much to her but I was too gobsmacked to speak

Surely dyslexia on its own doesn't affect someone's ability to queue?

Darling. I wish I could hug you. I'm sending you a virtual hug 🫂

I first attempted suicide when I was 9.

I was bullied at school for being weird.

I have multiple stims.

I ran away from home multiple times before the age of 10.

Bright, but socially shit.

no concentration. Risky behaviours. I got pregnant at 15.

repetitive behaviours and routines.

meltdowns so bad I would bang my head against a wall until I had bruises on my face.

self harm. So much self harm.

masking to the point I want to internally explode.

diagnosed aged 43 and suddenly it all made sense.

but it’s all just a flex. Im not actually disabled by any of it. Because I’m tapping away on mumsnet.

ffs.

I’ve already explained that actually is does.

If all and sundry including those with dyslexia/privately diagnosed adult ADHD and so many more class themselves as disabled then it does take away from my child.

Im of the opinion that ASD should be categorised as my child is disabled by it whereas many children including numerous that I know who have ASD are “high functioning” and are very verbal/academic/can take part in all elements of normal life.

Saying they have the same diagnosis as my child and deserve the same access/allowances is quite frankly offensive. Don’t get me started on the “superpower” nonsense. But that’s a whole other debate.

I can!

People who merrily take things meant for disabled people should be ashamed of themselves.

Would you happily go in front of someone with a disability just because you could get away with it?

I wish I had said as much to her but I was too gobsmacked to speak