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Access card for disabilities - dyslexia

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Canttalkinreallife · 16/09/2026 14:56

I was talking to another mum at the school gate this morning and haven’t been able to stop thinking about it.

I have 3 children, the youngest (age 7) has autism, is non verbal and attends a specialist school.

My eldest is in year 6 with this mum’s child. She asked me if we had an access card for my youngest to which I answered yes, it has been really helpful on days out and such like.

She told me that she’d recently applied for one as they’re going to Disneyland Paris in October and they had been granted it for her child who has dyslexia.

I was perplexed as in my opinion dyslexia is not a disability in the same way as for people who have much more serious struggles and are unable to queue etc.

She was delighted and said they can’t wait to be able to skip all the queues.

I know her child and they are perfectly able to queue! They attend mainstream school, can talk and be reasoned with.

i think this totally abuses the whole system and in fact makes it more difficult for children like mine who will likely never be able to live an independent life.

I’m still stewing about it now and wish I’d said something. AIBU?

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itsgettingweird · 17/09/2026 04:44

What Symbols was she able to get with an access card with dyslexia?

That the bit that’s confused me (beyond the entitlement)

How does dyslexia affect queing, standing, walking, sight, hearing, require a toilet urgently, require a wheelchair or add the carer symbol?

when i did ds’ those were the choices (recently renewed and they’ve separated queuing and standing) and we needed to evidence his needs.

(physical disability requiring wheelchair and ASD)

Well down for biting your tongue though.

TwentyDunhill · 17/09/2026 04:27

Murley · 16/09/2026 15:00

That’s UNBELIEVABLY entitled. Well done for biting your tongue. I have an ASD child (who also has dyslexia!) and as they can wait perfectly happily in a queue we’d never dream of this sort of thing!

That's UNBELIEVABLY ridiculous to say.

I have a son with asd and dyslexia aswell, in a mainstream primary school, and he couldn't wait perfectly happily in a long queue. He can only mask for so long... You know these conditions are on a spectrum? That what your child can do, others with the SAME diagnosis might not be able to?
Dyslexia on its own can cause behavioural problems aswell.

If she's entitled to the pass because her kid has extra needs, what difference does it make to you, as someone that doesn't need them?

ElonMess · 17/09/2026 03:33

Canttalkinreallife · 16/09/2026 22:33

My son also has a sensory processing disorder alongside his other conditions.

Im surprised this was rejected - can you challenge it? Could the school/GP also provide some evidence?

People with Dyslexia can suffer from SPD.
This report is from 2016. Ten years ago now.
Keep up.

www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2016/12/161221125517.htm

ElonMess · 17/09/2026 03:29

Canttalkinreallife · 16/09/2026 21:57

Then go away off my thread.

😂

ElonMess · 17/09/2026 03:29

@Canttalkinreallife
OP having read through all your posts on this thread, your views sound most unpleasant and you demonstrate a woefully ignorant understanding of other children's disabilities.
And how you can get yourself 'perplexed' and 'stewing' about someone else's child being issued an access card is bizarre.

ElonMess · 17/09/2026 03:14

Justttheone · 16/09/2026 21:46

It's really ableist to state that people with ADHD don't need the access card.

My son has ADHD and we used the access card for Disneyland. Even with the access card he got overwhelmed by the (shorter) queuing and environment and we left at midday both days in order for him to regulate and recover. We'd have paid hundreds for 2 rides without it.
I agree I can't understand the need re dyslyxia but you are showing ignorance about ADHD.

I agree I can't understand the need re dyslyxia but you are showing ignorance about ADHD.

The irony. You yourself are showing ignorance about Dyslexia.

NewSeasonNewReason · 17/09/2026 02:38

musicandmen · 16/09/2026 23:58

They also wouldn’t need it for dyspraxia.

my husband and child are dyspraxic and perfectly capable of waiting in the queue.

I agree op people take the mick and then it makes a mockery of the whole system.

Just because your husband and child are able to stand for long periods of time in a queue it doesn’t mean other people with dyspraxia can.

My friends daughter couldn’t cope with it, to be honest even with an access card and accommodations it’s still very difficult for her. Her dyspraxia has impacted every part of her life, her physical stamina and fatigue levels are very much affected, and combined with the non physical issues dyspraxia can bring such as communication difficulties and sensory overwhelm, something like a typical day out is often out of reach for her, she doesn’t attend mainstream school.

Talkingfrog · 17/09/2026 01:34

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 16/09/2026 22:08

Ah I haven’t been to Disney so I don’t know. But is it really their system that whatever the reason for your card, it acts as a “queue skipper” / “fast pass” or whatever they call them there?

Just seems odd!

I know Merlin tried to limit who could use access passes but they got an enormous back lash - so now they’ve limited the number that can be used per day, but obviously that impacts everyone regardless of what their disability is.

I don’t disagree that dyslexia shouldn’t be a reason to avoid queues, but it could be a reason to have other types of adjustment/ accommodation. Just seems odd that Disney don’t distinguish between them, as access cards aren’t just for skipping queues.

Disney has different systems in different parks.
Paris has an easy access pass and a priority pass. They offer different support.

Easy access is for those with long term health conditions. There is a list of about 30 conditions it can be issued for, with a doctors letter confirming the condition and why the pass is needed. The pass often meabs the person is given a return time, so they still have to wait but do not have to physically stand in the queue.

The priority pass is for those with proof of disability. Dlp doesn't factor in what the disability is when determing whether to grant a pass, but the answers the guest gives on their application will determine the colour of the pass they are given. Different colour of passes indicate different needs. Depending on the person's mobility, whether the ride has premier access etc will determine how they enter. Some will be the disabled queue, others will be told to use the premier access queue ( which would otherwise only be those that have paid to have a shorter wait time).

They can be used for shows and some character meets too, but not meets that are booked on the app ( the queue is virtual anyway).

DeftGoldHedgehog · 17/09/2026 01:17

Bit fed up of these rage bait posts to be honest.

Talkingfrog · 17/09/2026 01:14

musicandmen · 16/09/2026 23:58

They also wouldn’t need it for dyspraxia.

my husband and child are dyspraxic and perfectly capable of waiting in the queue.

I agree op people take the mick and then it makes a mockery of the whole system.

But for places such as theme parks, it could help cast members know that a person may take longer getting on or off a ride.
I have seen myself other guests moaning that someone is taking too long to get off a ride, when the person was dyspraxic. In some cases a person may need a ride that is moving when you get on to be slowed or stopped.
Like most things, two people with the same condition can be impacted in different ways. It would depend on the exact needs of the person.

IPM · 17/09/2026 00:42

Canttalkinreallife · 16/09/2026 20:55

I don’t think I will as it isn’t worth it.

Im not usually at my elder children’s school for drop off as I normally take my son to his specialist school but I was going to a course in London today after drop off so my husband was doing his collections.

Not worth having a row at their school when I’m not there that much. But I will be giving her a wide berth.

So you weren’t ‘too gobsmacked’ at all, you just backed right down.

Fine but at least own it.

It was easier to tell everyone anonymously on here than to verbally stand up and show your feelings.

musicandmen · 16/09/2026 23:58

Bleppington · 16/09/2026 15:27

Are you sure she didn't say dyspraxia ?

I can't actually believe NIMBUS would grant an access card for dyslexia. They're quite strict and ask for evidence, especially for the queue jump as that's the one the blaggers always go for!

They also wouldn’t need it for dyspraxia.

my husband and child are dyspraxic and perfectly capable of waiting in the queue.

I agree op people take the mick and then it makes a mockery of the whole system.

Endoadnowarrior · 16/09/2026 23:47

Bleppington · 16/09/2026 15:27

Are you sure she didn't say dyspraxia ?

I can't actually believe NIMBUS would grant an access card for dyslexia. They're quite strict and ask for evidence, especially for the queue jump as that's the one the blaggers always go for!

Exactly this.
We just completed the process for my Audhd teen who struggles significantly out of the house.
The criteria are very strict and you have to give evidence of how they struggle against each of the areas and provide evidence to support.
She either lied on the application or you misheard?

espueranto · 16/09/2026 23:44

Dyslexia is counted as a disability under the Equality Act 2010

Talkingfrog · 16/09/2026 23:38

I would never think to have requested an access card for dyslexia, to queue jump at theme parks ( which it sounds as if they are expecting to do) .

Dyslexia impacts more than people think- not just reading, and spelling, but I wouldn't expect it to impact on ability to wait in a queue, unless is was accompanied by another condition. I can't see that it would mean the child would require assistance from a staff member either.

I can understand maybe an adult getting one, that included a plus one, if things were so severe that they couldn't read instructions etc that an adult would be expected to, or follow directions if they needed to evacuate from somewhere ( it can impact sequencing), but that would be an extreme situation, and wouldn't apply to a child that wouldn't be expected to read like an adult anyway.

Being able to talk and be reasoned with doesn't prevent people being entitled to an access pass. People can also be entitled to one when they are physically able to queue, but need accommodations in other ways.

At disneylandparis, a person being given a priority or easy access pass ( different criteria required and offer different levels of assistance) can be for the benefit of the cast members as well as guests.
The cast member responsible for the ride will know from the symols on the pass what the person's needs are. They therefore know, in the event of a breakdown, who may need assistance and why.
Eg- a person that is registered blind will need to be guided, or be given a description of where they need to go.
A person that is deaf won't be able to hear alarms or follow audio instruction in the same way as others.
Those with mobility issues may take longer or need assistance .
Someone withbdyspraxia that may be able to physically queue, but take longer to co-ordinate getting on or off a ride. It can also impact on sensory issues too, with sounds, crowds etc

Those are examples of people that can queue, but there is a valid reason for them to have a pass.

I can't see the reason to supprt one for a child with dyslexia though, but they must have given enough evidence/explanation to supprt the request for one.

I am disappointed in some of the responses ypu have received, with people openly encouraging abuse of the system. It makes it even harder for those with a genuine need, because there are people that get passes that don't really need one, making queues such as the priority one in dlp even longer.

CoffeeandCakeBreak · 16/09/2026 23:02

Canttalkinreallife · 16/09/2026 22:35

This sounds like such a good way of doing it. Using it only when needed.

I suspect most people wouldn’t do this though

I am sure! I am a rehabilitation professional, so in my mind, how will he ever learn to cope with normal life, if he isn't given the chance to build up skills slowly. He can't cope with everything because of his disability, but over the years, but by bit, he will learn to cope with more, when it's done in the right way.

Although I'm not a saint, it is nice to take advantage of the free carer tickets. It means he can have exposure to so many more life experiences as part of his rehabilitation. We always go one to one. It just wouldn't work in his home family with parents/siblings (I'm an extended family member that takes him out to lots of places on my own)

Canttalkinreallife · 16/09/2026 22:35

CoffeeandCakeBreak · 16/09/2026 22:04

I'm surprised to hear this, as when I applied for one for a child relative, they were very strict, and we needed to submit a lot of evidence.

They particularly challenged the +1 for a child, when most kids need an adult with them anyway.

I didn't mind being challenged as it demonstrated the robustness of the system.

To be fair, we don't always use the queue jumping, only when needed. His presentation is variable, and if he is managing, we just queue. We did need it on Saturday at a very large event with very long queues for a particular part. The length of a whole field type queues when carrying equipment and he just couldn't manage. The event staff escorted us through and we're so good. We then queued at the bag check though as it was much more manageable for him.

This sounds like such a good way of doing it. Using it only when needed.

I suspect most people wouldn’t do this though

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Canttalkinreallife · 16/09/2026 22:33

SeriousTissues · 16/09/2026 22:31

My daughter has sensory processing disorder. Loves scary rides but is badly affected by crowds and proximity to strangers. This is detailed in an OT report which we sent with the application, which was rejected. So getting it for dyslexia does make a mockery of the card.

My son also has a sensory processing disorder alongside his other conditions.

Im surprised this was rejected - can you challenge it? Could the school/GP also provide some evidence?

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SeriousTissues · 16/09/2026 22:31

My daughter has sensory processing disorder. Loves scary rides but is badly affected by crowds and proximity to strangers. This is detailed in an OT report which we sent with the application, which was rejected. So getting it for dyslexia does make a mockery of the card.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 16/09/2026 22:08

Canttalkinreallife · 16/09/2026 21:02

At Disney the symbols are irrelevant but I guess that’s a Disney issue.

Im sure it’ll get clamped down on soon making the lives of genuinely disabled people more difficult ☹️

Ah I haven’t been to Disney so I don’t know. But is it really their system that whatever the reason for your card, it acts as a “queue skipper” / “fast pass” or whatever they call them there?

Just seems odd!

I know Merlin tried to limit who could use access passes but they got an enormous back lash - so now they’ve limited the number that can be used per day, but obviously that impacts everyone regardless of what their disability is.

I don’t disagree that dyslexia shouldn’t be a reason to avoid queues, but it could be a reason to have other types of adjustment/ accommodation. Just seems odd that Disney don’t distinguish between them, as access cards aren’t just for skipping queues.

CoffeeandCakeBreak · 16/09/2026 22:04

I'm surprised to hear this, as when I applied for one for a child relative, they were very strict, and we needed to submit a lot of evidence.

They particularly challenged the +1 for a child, when most kids need an adult with them anyway.

I didn't mind being challenged as it demonstrated the robustness of the system.

To be fair, we don't always use the queue jumping, only when needed. His presentation is variable, and if he is managing, we just queue. We did need it on Saturday at a very large event with very long queues for a particular part. The length of a whole field type queues when carrying equipment and he just couldn't manage. The event staff escorted us through and we're so good. We then queued at the bag check though as it was much more manageable for him.

Canttalkinreallife · 16/09/2026 21:57

ElonMess · 16/09/2026 21:55

I can't make any sense whatsoever of your post. What are you on about?
Actually don't bother explaining, I'm not interested in your thoughts.

Then go away off my thread.

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ElonMess · 16/09/2026 21:55

Canttalkinreallife · 16/09/2026 21:12

Do you go out of your way to be gleeful about getting a pass for disabilities to other parents who have severely disabled children too?

Sounds like you two could be great pals!

Although in her case I suspect she genuinely hadn’t thought about how it would sound and just thought about how great it would be to skip the queues. As she said in her own words.

I can't make any sense whatsoever of your post. What are you on about?
Actually don't bother explaining, I'm not interested in your thoughts.

Canttalkinreallife · 16/09/2026 21:53

Justttheone · 16/09/2026 21:46

It's really ableist to state that people with ADHD don't need the access card.

My son has ADHD and we used the access card for Disneyland. Even with the access card he got overwhelmed by the (shorter) queuing and environment and we left at midday both days in order for him to regulate and recover. We'd have paid hundreds for 2 rides without it.
I agree I can't understand the need re dyslyxia but you are showing ignorance about ADHD.

I didn’t say no one with AdHD shouldn’t get one. Obviously it depends on how severely you’re affected.

I was talking about the numerous adults (including a number of my work colleagues who are very high functioning uni grads working in finance) who have paid privately as adults to receive an ADHD diagnosis and wave it around everywhere talking about their “hyperfixations” like it’s a prize.

I worded it clumsily but I find it very frustrating hearing people talk about it as a super power when it’s a debilitating disability to many.

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