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AIBU? Kid's kicking rotting apples in a field / parent had a right go

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TheZanyPanda · 16/09/2026 14:34

Took my two boys (DS15 and DS13) out for a walk and a picnic in the Yorkshire Dales over the weekend. It was lovely—other families were around, everyone was relaxing, and we found a nice spot in a field to sit for a bit.

After eating, I wanted to read my book for half an hour while the boys let off some steam. Near the edge of the field, there were a few wild apple trees with a ton of bruised and rotting apples all over the floor.

The lads decided to have a bit of a kick-about with them. They spent about 30 minutes mucking about with the already-fallen/rotting apples, kicking them to each other like a football, and stepping / stomping on some. They were in my sight the entire time, weren't shouting or swearing, and were just genuinely having innocent fun.

Out of nowhere, another parent walked over and had an absolute kick-off at them (and then me). She was furious, claiming they shouldn't be "kicking fruit" or "making a mess."

I stood up for the boys and said they were just letting off steam, weren't being rowdy, and the apples were already on the ground rotting anyway so no harm was done. She wasn't having it at all—told me we were "ruining the area for everyone" and said we "shouldn't come back," before storming off.

It totally ruined the atmosphere and has left a really sour taste in my mouth. They're teenage boys having a bit of fun and letting off steam with mushy apples in a field, not vandalism!

Am I Being Unreasonable to think she completely overreacted and was way out of line? Or should I have stopped them?

YBU - They were making a mess and ruining the area, leave the fruit alone. YANBU - Harmless fun with rotting apples, the other parent needs to get a grip!

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FudgeFudy · 16/09/2026 14:41

If they really weren't impacting her then she sounds like a nutter. If, say, a fair few of the apples were kicked over to where she was trying to get a bit of peace and quiet but you didn't notice because you were reading a book then she may have a point.

Redbushteaforme · 16/09/2026 14:40

I think that they are a bit old for that sort of behaviour, especially in an area where there were other people trying to relax. I don't think it would have been a great thing to do even for younger children as a bit noisy and annoying for other people..

KilkennyCats · 16/09/2026 14:40

Was it private field?

GaaNeen · 16/09/2026 14:39

I think they would rot down faster having been kicked around !
good idea I’d say u less she’s one of those weirdos who only eat fallen fruit ???

Redflagsabounded · 16/09/2026 14:36

A field? Whose field?

It does mean that anyone walking over that area is going to get rotting apple mush stuck to their shoes. Seems very childish for lads that age.

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